What caregivers need to know about symptoms of manic and care for those who are depressive or bipolar mood disorder, and the medications that are used to treat this condition?
What was once called manic, or manic-depressive behavior is now called Bipolar I and Bipolar II disorder, based on the presenting symptoms. The focus here will be on manic, or Bipolar I illness.
There are three levels of mania, beginning with cyclothymic disorder. This is not considered a major mental illness, and there are plenty of people with this condition, who we all think of as very moody, with strong ups and downs. No medication is needed and the individual is able to function in all areas.
The second level of mania is hypomania, which means below mania, and it is more intense, and can be seen by spending sprees, food binging and minor disruption of daily living. There may be some absentism from work or school, and the tendency to engage in questionable and impulsive behavior exists. However, it is the degree of disruption of daily life and ability to function that determines the degree of mania.
Full blown mania is a frightening thing to see.
While the patient feels confident, attractive and able to perform above and beyond his normal abilities, this false eupohoria is the beginning stage of true Bipolar Disorder. Loved ones and family members often mistake this phase for drug use, and manics will describe this as a cocaine-like high.
Typical symptoms include rapid and sometimes violent mood swings, with laughter, crying and even rage. Insomnia is common, and often there is a decline in personal attention to grooming and hygiene, eating and concern for one's physical needs.
A manic may run outside in shirt sleeves or nightgown in a downpour, or may dress in a provocative and exposing way. They may refuse meals stating they will eat later or there is no time to eat, and you may have trouble even expressing your concerns before the patient's attention is directed elsewhere.
As the attention span decreases, the mind continues to race, and the manic likes to think of himself as the most clever and humorous individuals. Frequent jokes with an emphasis on punning and rhyming are classic presentation.
Also typical is a train of thought termed tangential.
In tangential thinking the individual in an acute manic phase will "go off on tangents." If you say "it is raining cats and dogs, you better put on a jacket", the patient will say "dog my cats!" or make reference to the movie "Full Metal Jacket and The Dog Days Of War." While initially entertaining, this rapidly becomes both tiring and exasperating for those attempting to co-exist with the manic patient.
Mania is caused by a biochemical imbalance in the brain, and there are a variety of medications used in its treatment. The classic medication is lithium carbonate, a naturally occuring salt, which has a narrow range of effectiveness, and can be toxic at high dosages.
Another medication, used for both mania and seizure control is carbamazepine, (Tegretol). It is the drug of second choice, but may be used if there are health problems such as heart or thyroid conditions that may preclude the use of lithium.
Bipolar patients have difficulty seeing that their behavior is out of line or that they can endanger themselves in an acute manic episode. The massive high, which seems abnormal to us seems normal to them, and there is an unfortunate tendency to self medicate or avoid medication whatsoever.
A manic who has been up for days without sleep or proper nutrition is at risk for developing manic related psychosis. Symptoms may include increased vigilance, paranoia, hallucinations such as believing others are whispering about them or are devils. In this phase acute, and frequently locked psychiatric observation and treatment is required.
At this extreme level of mania, it is common to find no therapeutic level of Lithium or Tegretol in the bloodstream. Strong medications called anti-psychotics or psychotrophics often are given such as Haldol and Thorazine. The goal is to rapidly reduce the mania, using the above medications, anti-manic medications and sometimes tranquilizers in combination with close observation.
At this level patients cannot safely be managed in the home environment, and may suddenly turn on loved ones or friends. Some hostage situations and murder-suicides have been linked to this extreme and disorienting level of manic behavior.
In the home setting, once regulated on a maintenance dose of medication, it is important to follow the Doctor's stated regime exactly.
Medication side effects such as weight gain and edema can be expected but more severe adverse effects such as tremors, lethargy and metallic taste in the mouth and vomiting should be reported immediately.
Be alert for increasing euphoria or high energy levels as the patient commonly decreases the amount of medication they are taking or flushes it from the body with abnormal amounts of fluid intake. A loved one who tells you everything is fine and brushes off your concerns is liable to be heading for another full blown episode.
One way to avoid this is to be vigilant for sudden mood swings, noncompliance with regular lab tests and Doctor's visits, (these help to regulate the safe dose of medication in the blood stream and will pinpoint non medication compliance), and return of previously risky patterns.
It is said the patients with a Bipolar I diagnosis are often intelligent but not wise. It is then up to the caregivers to educate themselves, attend available support groups and be alert to help loved ones, and themselves, maintain the highest quality of life.
Thursday, October 20, 2005
The depressed child - By Julia Nielsen
Twenty million children in the United States alone suffer from clinical depression. What is happening and how can we help?
All kids feel sad some time in their childhood, whether it be from a friend moving away or a pet that died. Nevertheless, there is also an estimated two million children who are clinically depressed--scary numbers for parents and doctors. In researching for this article, I have come away with some sobering statistics in this, the beginning of the twenty-first century.
1.Depression in children is rising. In a study done at the National Institute of Mental Health, it was concluded that depression onset is occuring earlier in life than that of the past, and that children who suffer from depression will turn either to alcohol or to crime and will at least attempt suicide in adulthood, if they don't get the necessary treatments now. My eyes grew wide when I learned of this report.
2. Suicide is the third leading cause of death among children between the ages of 10-24.
3. If you, as a parent have suffered anxiety or depression, your child has a greater than fifty percent chance that they too will develop anxiety or depression.
4. It is estimated that half of the children who have depression will never get the proper help they need.
5. Depression can lead to poor grades, poor health and poor communication skills with children.
6. By the time children who have not gotten help, reach adulthood--they will have more health problems than those who sought out help when they were children.
7. Often times, parents think the child will just, "snap out of it." Those children never get help, and therefore end up in far worse circumstances.
8. Depression is treatable. By finding the right doctor and treatment for your child, depression can be controlled and even cured.
So, what is depression and more importantly, what can we, as parents do to prevent it from occurring in our children?
Depression is characterized as having imbalances in the brain's neurotransmitters, the chemicals that allow communication between nerve cells. The neurotransmitters, Norepinpherne and Serotonin, are two chemicals whose low levels are thought to play an important role. Some doctors believe depression is heridatary, in that if parents or grandparents suffer from it, their children most likely will to. No one knows for sure why the chemicals are deficient; it could stem from genes, traumatic events, like a death or a move or from illness. Whatever the reason, depression in children is not normal. Kids need not be sad all the time. The question is, can depression be cured, before it causes major problems in the family?
According to the National Institute of Mental Health, depression can be controlled or cured, if we catch the signs early.
· Frequent vague, non-specific physical complaints such as headaches, muscle aches, stomachaches or tiredness
· Frequent absences from school or poor performance in school
· Talk of or efforts to run away from home
· Outbursts of shouting, complaining, unexplained irritability, or crying
· Being bored
· Lack of interest in playing with friends
· Alcohol or substance abuse
· Social isolation, poor communication
· Fear of death
· Extreme sensitivity to rejection or failure
· Increased irritability, anger, or hostility
· Reckless behavior
· Difficulty with relationships
If your child exhibits these signs, talk to a counselor as soon as possible. The earlier parents get help, the better. Children do not need to suffer needlessly nor do they need to feel as if they are alone.
There are all sorts of treatments out there for adolescent depression, but before you call a psychiatrist or stock your medicine cabinet with drugs, talk to your child and your doctor. Not all drugs are right for children and some can make the depression worse or have bad side effects. The most important thing you can do for your child is to discuss treatment options. The more the child feels in control of their depression, the better. If they are hesitant about medication, listen to why they are afraid and then come to a decision that will benefit everyone. Not all depressed children need drugs; some just need someone to listen to, someone they can relate to and someone who will understand and accept what they are feeling. The same with psychiatrists; children have different needs. It is vital that you pick someone that the child will feel comfortable talking with and expressing their feelings. Get on the Internet and research medications; if you feel that is the route, you would like to take.
The worst thing a parent can do is give up on their child. They need their parents more than anything. Often times, children do not know why they are feeling sad and they are scared. If the depression is because of a friend or loved one who has died or the fact that someone is bullying then in school, make it a point to talk to the school counselor and even the principal. Let them know what is going on so they can be aware and help the child.
I do not think we can necessarily prevent depression from ever entering out child's life. Just by watching the news or reading the newspaper, children get a sense of the real world around them and the things that make them fearful. In depressed children, these feelings can be overwhelming. We can help by not setting their feelings aside. We can be there for them; we can strive to help them have self-confidence and self-esteem. We can listen to their fears, hopes and dreams.
I still feel--and this is my opinion--that children need to be heard. Talk to them; find out what could be the reason that they are sad. If they are hesitant about speaking to you, or just do not want to, have a close relative or friend try to talk to your child. Sometimes, anxious parents can be a deterrent for children when they are feeling sad. We, as Parents mean well, but we could be the reason they are depressed. Children need to feel that by talking to us they will not feel as if we are judging them or making them feel bad for feeling the way they do.
Depression among adolescents is rising; let's do something before it gets out of control and help kids become kids again.
Written by Julia Nielsen - © 2002 Pagewise
All kids feel sad some time in their childhood, whether it be from a friend moving away or a pet that died. Nevertheless, there is also an estimated two million children who are clinically depressed--scary numbers for parents and doctors. In researching for this article, I have come away with some sobering statistics in this, the beginning of the twenty-first century.
1.Depression in children is rising. In a study done at the National Institute of Mental Health, it was concluded that depression onset is occuring earlier in life than that of the past, and that children who suffer from depression will turn either to alcohol or to crime and will at least attempt suicide in adulthood, if they don't get the necessary treatments now. My eyes grew wide when I learned of this report.
2. Suicide is the third leading cause of death among children between the ages of 10-24.
3. If you, as a parent have suffered anxiety or depression, your child has a greater than fifty percent chance that they too will develop anxiety or depression.
4. It is estimated that half of the children who have depression will never get the proper help they need.
5. Depression can lead to poor grades, poor health and poor communication skills with children.
6. By the time children who have not gotten help, reach adulthood--they will have more health problems than those who sought out help when they were children.
7. Often times, parents think the child will just, "snap out of it." Those children never get help, and therefore end up in far worse circumstances.
8. Depression is treatable. By finding the right doctor and treatment for your child, depression can be controlled and even cured.
So, what is depression and more importantly, what can we, as parents do to prevent it from occurring in our children?
Depression is characterized as having imbalances in the brain's neurotransmitters, the chemicals that allow communication between nerve cells. The neurotransmitters, Norepinpherne and Serotonin, are two chemicals whose low levels are thought to play an important role. Some doctors believe depression is heridatary, in that if parents or grandparents suffer from it, their children most likely will to. No one knows for sure why the chemicals are deficient; it could stem from genes, traumatic events, like a death or a move or from illness. Whatever the reason, depression in children is not normal. Kids need not be sad all the time. The question is, can depression be cured, before it causes major problems in the family?
According to the National Institute of Mental Health, depression can be controlled or cured, if we catch the signs early.
· Frequent vague, non-specific physical complaints such as headaches, muscle aches, stomachaches or tiredness
· Frequent absences from school or poor performance in school
· Talk of or efforts to run away from home
· Outbursts of shouting, complaining, unexplained irritability, or crying
· Being bored
· Lack of interest in playing with friends
· Alcohol or substance abuse
· Social isolation, poor communication
· Fear of death
· Extreme sensitivity to rejection or failure
· Increased irritability, anger, or hostility
· Reckless behavior
· Difficulty with relationships
If your child exhibits these signs, talk to a counselor as soon as possible. The earlier parents get help, the better. Children do not need to suffer needlessly nor do they need to feel as if they are alone.
There are all sorts of treatments out there for adolescent depression, but before you call a psychiatrist or stock your medicine cabinet with drugs, talk to your child and your doctor. Not all drugs are right for children and some can make the depression worse or have bad side effects. The most important thing you can do for your child is to discuss treatment options. The more the child feels in control of their depression, the better. If they are hesitant about medication, listen to why they are afraid and then come to a decision that will benefit everyone. Not all depressed children need drugs; some just need someone to listen to, someone they can relate to and someone who will understand and accept what they are feeling. The same with psychiatrists; children have different needs. It is vital that you pick someone that the child will feel comfortable talking with and expressing their feelings. Get on the Internet and research medications; if you feel that is the route, you would like to take.
The worst thing a parent can do is give up on their child. They need their parents more than anything. Often times, children do not know why they are feeling sad and they are scared. If the depression is because of a friend or loved one who has died or the fact that someone is bullying then in school, make it a point to talk to the school counselor and even the principal. Let them know what is going on so they can be aware and help the child.
I do not think we can necessarily prevent depression from ever entering out child's life. Just by watching the news or reading the newspaper, children get a sense of the real world around them and the things that make them fearful. In depressed children, these feelings can be overwhelming. We can help by not setting their feelings aside. We can be there for them; we can strive to help them have self-confidence and self-esteem. We can listen to their fears, hopes and dreams.
I still feel--and this is my opinion--that children need to be heard. Talk to them; find out what could be the reason that they are sad. If they are hesitant about speaking to you, or just do not want to, have a close relative or friend try to talk to your child. Sometimes, anxious parents can be a deterrent for children when they are feeling sad. We, as Parents mean well, but we could be the reason they are depressed. Children need to feel that by talking to us they will not feel as if we are judging them or making them feel bad for feeling the way they do.
Depression among adolescents is rising; let's do something before it gets out of control and help kids become kids again.
Written by Julia Nielsen - © 2002 Pagewise
Wednesday, October 19, 2005
1st 2 Cure Depression - By: Kenny Goh Jern Yue
As our society progresses, we often find ourselves in challenging situations and tough scenarios which often challenge our wits and abilities to the extremes. So what happens if we fail? Depending on individual characters, some may get up and keep going, while others may suffer a heavy blow to their self confidence and slump into depression.
Why does anyone get depressed? Ever felt that time is running out on you and life is passing you by? When a person isn’t engaged in productive activities, he or she may feel stagnant and begin to feel depressed. Inactivity and lack of purpose can result in feelings associated with loss of hope. Life seems to be devoid of any sense of purpose.
So if purpose is what we lack, then how can we turbo charge ourselves with worthy purposes? Even if we found worthy causes to pursue, how can we always be focused in our purpose and goal? Besides loving them, there is a way which we can attain higher focus and involvement in pursuing our goal.
The secret is to live it like a game show. Ever watched the Apprentice? Ever noticed that all the contestants are very pumped up and engaged in their tasks? This is because they are treating their tasks very seriously and are constantly pushing themselves. Irregardless of their achievement level, most of them have pushed their abilities to the max.
Game shows participants have a much higher focused frame of mind. Their eyes are set on the prize and the goals. No room is left for depression or thoughts of failure. Fear factor contestants realize this and we can see many attempted and still continue to negatively influence their competitors with negative thoughts and verbal assaults.
Everyday we need to set our objectives and rewards. Set out to achieve them. It isn’t life or death if we fail, but when attempting the task, we need to put our very best into it. Do not punish yourself if you failed. Learn instead from the experience and equip yourself with the knowledge to start off with a better footing next time.
When you have successfully applied this attitude in your life, you will begin to see that life is meaningful and beautiful. Realize that there are so many beautiful things to be enjoyed in life.
About the Author: Kenny is the publisher of http://1st-2-cure-depression.com, http://1st-natural-acne-treatment.com/ and http://1st-health-insurance-quote.com/.
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Tuesday, October 18, 2005
The Blues: Healing Your Depression - By Jodie Foster
Living with depression, sadness and grief puts quite a damper upon you. Knowing when to say, "Enough!" and to ask for help is the first step on the road to freedom and happiness.
Working with traditional counseling or even intuitive counseling can signal the turning point in your life. Intuitive counseling, unlike traditional counseling, offers a unique perspective into the energetic and emotional patterns that you have been holding. Allowing information to be delivered through the intuitive realm, the counselor has access to not only the mental and emotional layers of your energy body, but the physical and spiritual layers as well. It is a ‘wholistic’ approach to healing, meaning your entire being is supported and incorporated into your healing process.
I know that many people look for a psychic reading to give those answers about what steps to take next, or when will they meet Mr. Right. However these answers may make you feel in the immediate moment, has your relationship pattern change? Are you still going to attract the same sort of person the next time? Have you release the emotions that you have been carrying as a burden? Does the depression actually lift?
Changing the emotional patterns, releasing the pent up feelings and listening to your inner self are key to changing the overall dynamic. Even without the label of depression, underlying feeling of sadness, unhappiness and monotony can bring about a need for change.
Intuitive insight can be a powerful ally to have as a support system. Developing your own intuition is just as important. Knowing what to do with that intuition however, is the real key to your healing process.
Depression, whether it comes from suppressed grief, hurt or anger, is still a powerful energetic blockage to face alone. You require support, tools and techniques to relieve the pressure and allow the emotion to be released gently and constructively. Intuitive counseling provides you with a support system structure and techniques to work with. This process compliments other forms of depression treatment. Meditation, yoga, tai chi, journaling and other holistic modalities may be incorporated with the intuitive energy healing process.
No one deserves to live with sadness, grief, depression or unresolved anger. Life is too precious to waste on waiting to feel better. It’s up to you to take action and choose to begin your healing. It’s always wise to hire a guide to lead you through the forest of your fears and feelings. An intuitive counselor is a capable guide with a map to help you when you can’t see the forest for the trees.
© 2005 Jodie Foster
Jodie Foster is an Intuitive Counselor who assists clients to create extraordinary transformations in their daily lives. Her work is uplifting, empowering and success-oriented. You can visit Jodie’s website at http://www.illuminationsnetwork.com for further information and to schedule a private intuitive session. You can also look for daily updates to her blog at: http://intuitiveinnovations.blogspot.com .
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Monday, October 17, 2005
Mood Stabilizers & Mood Enhancers - A Remedy To Naturally Boost Mood & Alleviate Depression - By: Danna Schneider
Depression and mood disorders are very prevalent mental health issues today. In an increasingly health conscious society, more options are being put forth in the realm of natural medicine, allowing people to stabilize and enhance mood naturally, without addictive and often harmful prescription antidepressants.
Natural mood stabilizers and mood enhancers usually work by encouraging the production of serotonin and other "pleasure" chemicals such as norepinephrine in the human brain, thereby promoting a sense of calm, well-being and revitalization.
Herbal mood enhancers may contain several different herbs and vitamins in concentrated form ranging from St. John's Wort, Vitamin C, Vitamin E, Vitamin B12 and various other proprietary blends of botanical extracts and powders. The goal of natural mood stabilizers is to simultaneously alleviate stress and anxiety, while increasing energy and vitality levels (this is where Vitamin B12 usually comes into play - as an energy enhancer). All of this is done through precise blends of complementing ingredients to produce the desired outcome chemically in the human body.
A mood stabilizer is an excellent way to help make it through life's rough patches or particulary stressful events in life, since they are natural and non-habit forming, but very effective at enhancing mood for those who need some temporary help from time to time. Please note that individuals who suffer severe clinical depression should seek the help and guidance of a therapist and/or psychiatrist though, as therapy and medication may be needed in extreme cases.
Mood enhancing herbs have actually long been used in ancient civilizations as a means for mood stabilization and mood elevation. Natural mood enhancers, in contrast with prescription antidepressants, actually do not produce many of the common side effects of prescription antidepressants.
Side effects of the more common antidepressants (Zoloft, Paxil, Effexor, Lexapro and more),may include any of the following: suicidal tendencies, sexual disfunction, dry mouth, urinary retention, constipation, blurred vision, headache, weight gain, gastrointestinal disturbance and more.
Most people actually discontinue the usage of prescription mood enhancers (antidepressants) due to the simple fact that the side effects are worse than the actual depression. Many critics of prescription mood stabilizers argue that we don't know enough about how or why they work in the human brain, and that it is the "overkill" approach to treating depression or the "sledgehammer to crack a nut" approach, which is not necessary to effectively treat many cases of depression.
One thing is certain. There are countless people who suffer from moderate depression and mood disorders from time to time. There is simply no reason to not try a natural method to stabilize and regulate your mood by using a natural mood enhancer to get through emotionally difficult times. It's simply not worth the risks associated with antidepressants if it is not severe enough to warrant a psychologist's supervision.
About the Author: Danna Schneider is the webmaster and founder of Herbal-Therapeutics.com, http://www.herbal-therapeutics.com providing the latest and most effective alternative medicines and herbal remedies for maximum life enjoyment and fulfillment.
Source: www.isnare.com
Natural mood stabilizers and mood enhancers usually work by encouraging the production of serotonin and other "pleasure" chemicals such as norepinephrine in the human brain, thereby promoting a sense of calm, well-being and revitalization.
Herbal mood enhancers may contain several different herbs and vitamins in concentrated form ranging from St. John's Wort, Vitamin C, Vitamin E, Vitamin B12 and various other proprietary blends of botanical extracts and powders. The goal of natural mood stabilizers is to simultaneously alleviate stress and anxiety, while increasing energy and vitality levels (this is where Vitamin B12 usually comes into play - as an energy enhancer). All of this is done through precise blends of complementing ingredients to produce the desired outcome chemically in the human body.
A mood stabilizer is an excellent way to help make it through life's rough patches or particulary stressful events in life, since they are natural and non-habit forming, but very effective at enhancing mood for those who need some temporary help from time to time. Please note that individuals who suffer severe clinical depression should seek the help and guidance of a therapist and/or psychiatrist though, as therapy and medication may be needed in extreme cases.
Mood enhancing herbs have actually long been used in ancient civilizations as a means for mood stabilization and mood elevation. Natural mood enhancers, in contrast with prescription antidepressants, actually do not produce many of the common side effects of prescription antidepressants.
Side effects of the more common antidepressants (Zoloft, Paxil, Effexor, Lexapro and more),may include any of the following: suicidal tendencies, sexual disfunction, dry mouth, urinary retention, constipation, blurred vision, headache, weight gain, gastrointestinal disturbance and more.
Most people actually discontinue the usage of prescription mood enhancers (antidepressants) due to the simple fact that the side effects are worse than the actual depression. Many critics of prescription mood stabilizers argue that we don't know enough about how or why they work in the human brain, and that it is the "overkill" approach to treating depression or the "sledgehammer to crack a nut" approach, which is not necessary to effectively treat many cases of depression.
One thing is certain. There are countless people who suffer from moderate depression and mood disorders from time to time. There is simply no reason to not try a natural method to stabilize and regulate your mood by using a natural mood enhancer to get through emotionally difficult times. It's simply not worth the risks associated with antidepressants if it is not severe enough to warrant a psychologist's supervision.
About the Author: Danna Schneider is the webmaster and founder of Herbal-Therapeutics.com, http://www.herbal-therapeutics.com providing the latest and most effective alternative medicines and herbal remedies for maximum life enjoyment and fulfillment.
Source: www.isnare.com
Sunday, October 16, 2005
Depression in America. Is medication the easy way out? - By chanele "therockstar" lovelace
Depression & Anxiety are words a lot of people throw around. I have talked to several people in the baby boomer generation who literally think its a trait for my generation to be labeled as depressed. That its one of the new fads and a excuse that my generation has for not putting in effort to manage when we are sad, mad or angry. Through my research I have had been told by a alarming amount of people who's heritage isn't rooted in America that its a American thing, pop pills to feel better. The easy way out and I have even been told that its an excuse to not parent your children. This is all prior to me doing to hard research on the facts. I can tell you that it seemed the majority felt that this whole depression and anxiety thing was just a hoax. So, I got on the Internet and called some therapist and was very startled to find out that America is the highest country of individuals that actually get a prescription for anti depressants & anxiety medication. Which does indeed back up the majority of those I have already talked to claims.
Yet, the interesting thing I found out is yes, we are the highest basically with a paper trails -- yet in a lot of other countries you can go down without a paper trail and purchase the prescription drug without a prescription. That the reason the facts show America in a dark light is because America is one of the few countries in which are being responsible and holding both doctors and patience accountable to make sure the right treatment is being given for the right illness. Illness, sickness, & disease is a very common word amongst both patients & doctors. A word I have grown to respect and is now second nature is saying when referring to these growing problems. Although allot of people who don't have these types of illness usually disregard it, as being a disease. I have learned that these are serious sickness' that need to be treated and acknowledged. Doctors have explained and shown me just as much if not more scientific proof proving depression and anxiety are diseases, as they do about proving HIV, Aids, Cancer ...Etc are diseases. Yes, I find the need to reinerate I have been shown just as much proof that anxiety and depression disorders are a disease. So, just as we wouldn't disregard. Cancer, nor should be disregard Anxiety & Depression disorders. It's not fair to just hear the words from my mouth. Admittedly it is hard to get people to talk on tape or camera about this sensitive subject. The stigma that has been portrayed by this "growing trend of pill popping lazy loonies" --AJay. Has made people shameful and hidden. Sounds very similar to gay/lesbian people coming out of the closet. However, I did a very impacting interview, that best displays the importance of both therapy and medication. That displays it isn't a hoax. Understandably Sharon age 29 from: as she describes a little bit of everywhere, would like to remain as anonymous as possible.
I would like to explain it is hard to get people to talk on tape or camera about this sensitive subject. The stigma that has been portrayed by this "growing trend of pill popping lazy loonies" --AJay. Has made people shameful and hidden. Sounds very similar to gay/lesbian people coming out of the closet.
Here is the interview verbatim:
Chanele "therockstar": If there isn't anything you don't want to answer feel free not to. Okay?.
Sharon: yeah
Chanele "therockstar": For the audience can you tell us, why are you taking medication and going to therapy?
Sharon: I have been diagnosed with Bi-polar disorder.
Chanele "therockstar":And what does that mean?
Sharon: My mood and feelings changes from being extremely happy and likeable to extremely depressed and suicidal.
Chanele "therockstar": and why is it because of a bad day, family issues boyfriend, what?
Sharon: honestly there isn't a reason for it. If am not taking my medication regularly the chemicals in my brain aren't balanced and I don't react to things normally.
Chanele "therockstar": What do you mean normally? Describe to me a situation.
Sharon: Well, I have had several bad situations but, the worse happened about a year ago, I found out my father had passed away and I became very light headed, dizzy and extremely angry. At that time I didn't know why I was so angry but, after having time to look back it was because he left me and I hadn't seen him since I was 10 years old and he had the nerve to up and die To leave me again but, this time forever. I was in a fog I went out to a party and refused to drink because for some reason I wanted to feel this anger. I went to the bathroom and threw up but when I went to the sink to wash my face. I punched the mirror broke it, picked up a big piece and started cutting deep into my thighs and arms. Not to kill myself to feel something anything other than being mad at him. I kept cutting until I woke up in a hospital bed strapped down. I didn't even remember it happening for 3 days it was like a dream where you only remember parts of it.
Chanele "therockstar": wow, how did your mom feel about this?
Sharon: She was angry, said I just wanted attention. A doctor there tried to recommend I go to a therapist since I tried to kill myself. I told him didn't want to kill myself, and my mom kept interrupting him saying no one tries to commit suicide they do or they don't. She didn't she just wanted attention. She always acts out.
Chanele "therockstar": Did you go to a therapist or doctor?
Sharon: They kept me under suicide watch at the hospital and I some counslor but, I just told them what they wanted to hear so I could go home.
Chanele "therockstar: Did anyone mention being Bi-polar?
Sharon: Yeah, but they also thought I was schizophrenic too. So, I figured I just had another bad day. The next month I was just so, happy I met a guy and when started dating. He was very understanding and didn't judge me. I figured I was so, happy because I was in love. Everyday I was super happy about everything, like a natural high.
Chanele "therockstar": So that is good doesn't sound like you suffer from depression.
Sharon: I was going into a manic mood change, I still had no focus I was still in a fog but, this was a happy fog. So no one cared. I was so happy and even though my grades were slipping and house cleaning wasn't getting done my mom and I was having the greatest relationship ever. We went out shopping which we hadn't done since I was young. I began to uncontrollably cry and couldn't stop. I didn't know why but, I was so sad. She then decided to take e to a therapist.
Chanele "therockstar": Did the therapist put you on medication immediately?
Sharon: Yes. I took it for 2 weeks and still felt the same. My boyfriend broke up with me and I stop taking the medication. One day I decided I wasn't going to leave my bed ever. I was going to stay there what was the point. My mom tried to talk to me and asked if I had been taking my pills I threw the bottle at her saying NO! I didn't eat or drink for 2 days, then I found a bottle vodka under my bed I drank all of it, about a litter. Then I began trashing my room throwing up and crying. It was a bad night my mom came home found me crying in a corner under a coffee table and took me to the hospital. Sharon: From then on I have been medicated and go to my therapist regularly.
Chanele "therockstar": So would you say the medication would work without the therapist?
Sharon: Yes because it is pill that balances out the chemicals in my brain. But, I still need someone to talk to. I don't feel I am ready to do it on my own.
From this interview of many with others very similar, should show that these are diseases that deserve to be acknowledge and treated as any other disease. With understanding, caring, compassion and no judgment.
written by: Chanele"theRockStar" Lovelace http://arockstarproduction.blogspot.com
Article source: ArticleWorld.net Free Articles
Yet, the interesting thing I found out is yes, we are the highest basically with a paper trails -- yet in a lot of other countries you can go down without a paper trail and purchase the prescription drug without a prescription. That the reason the facts show America in a dark light is because America is one of the few countries in which are being responsible and holding both doctors and patience accountable to make sure the right treatment is being given for the right illness. Illness, sickness, & disease is a very common word amongst both patients & doctors. A word I have grown to respect and is now second nature is saying when referring to these growing problems. Although allot of people who don't have these types of illness usually disregard it, as being a disease. I have learned that these are serious sickness' that need to be treated and acknowledged. Doctors have explained and shown me just as much if not more scientific proof proving depression and anxiety are diseases, as they do about proving HIV, Aids, Cancer ...Etc are diseases. Yes, I find the need to reinerate I have been shown just as much proof that anxiety and depression disorders are a disease. So, just as we wouldn't disregard. Cancer, nor should be disregard Anxiety & Depression disorders. It's not fair to just hear the words from my mouth. Admittedly it is hard to get people to talk on tape or camera about this sensitive subject. The stigma that has been portrayed by this "growing trend of pill popping lazy loonies" --AJay. Has made people shameful and hidden. Sounds very similar to gay/lesbian people coming out of the closet. However, I did a very impacting interview, that best displays the importance of both therapy and medication. That displays it isn't a hoax. Understandably Sharon age 29 from: as she describes a little bit of everywhere, would like to remain as anonymous as possible.
I would like to explain it is hard to get people to talk on tape or camera about this sensitive subject. The stigma that has been portrayed by this "growing trend of pill popping lazy loonies" --AJay. Has made people shameful and hidden. Sounds very similar to gay/lesbian people coming out of the closet.
Here is the interview verbatim:
Chanele "therockstar": If there isn't anything you don't want to answer feel free not to. Okay?.
Sharon: yeah
Chanele "therockstar": For the audience can you tell us, why are you taking medication and going to therapy?
Sharon: I have been diagnosed with Bi-polar disorder.
Chanele "therockstar":And what does that mean?
Sharon: My mood and feelings changes from being extremely happy and likeable to extremely depressed and suicidal.
Chanele "therockstar": and why is it because of a bad day, family issues boyfriend, what?
Sharon: honestly there isn't a reason for it. If am not taking my medication regularly the chemicals in my brain aren't balanced and I don't react to things normally.
Chanele "therockstar": What do you mean normally? Describe to me a situation.
Sharon: Well, I have had several bad situations but, the worse happened about a year ago, I found out my father had passed away and I became very light headed, dizzy and extremely angry. At that time I didn't know why I was so angry but, after having time to look back it was because he left me and I hadn't seen him since I was 10 years old and he had the nerve to up and die To leave me again but, this time forever. I was in a fog I went out to a party and refused to drink because for some reason I wanted to feel this anger. I went to the bathroom and threw up but when I went to the sink to wash my face. I punched the mirror broke it, picked up a big piece and started cutting deep into my thighs and arms. Not to kill myself to feel something anything other than being mad at him. I kept cutting until I woke up in a hospital bed strapped down. I didn't even remember it happening for 3 days it was like a dream where you only remember parts of it.
Chanele "therockstar": wow, how did your mom feel about this?
Sharon: She was angry, said I just wanted attention. A doctor there tried to recommend I go to a therapist since I tried to kill myself. I told him didn't want to kill myself, and my mom kept interrupting him saying no one tries to commit suicide they do or they don't. She didn't she just wanted attention. She always acts out.
Chanele "therockstar": Did you go to a therapist or doctor?
Sharon: They kept me under suicide watch at the hospital and I some counslor but, I just told them what they wanted to hear so I could go home.
Chanele "therockstar: Did anyone mention being Bi-polar?
Sharon: Yeah, but they also thought I was schizophrenic too. So, I figured I just had another bad day. The next month I was just so, happy I met a guy and when started dating. He was very understanding and didn't judge me. I figured I was so, happy because I was in love. Everyday I was super happy about everything, like a natural high.
Chanele "therockstar": So that is good doesn't sound like you suffer from depression.
Sharon: I was going into a manic mood change, I still had no focus I was still in a fog but, this was a happy fog. So no one cared. I was so happy and even though my grades were slipping and house cleaning wasn't getting done my mom and I was having the greatest relationship ever. We went out shopping which we hadn't done since I was young. I began to uncontrollably cry and couldn't stop. I didn't know why but, I was so sad. She then decided to take e to a therapist.
Chanele "therockstar": Did the therapist put you on medication immediately?
Sharon: Yes. I took it for 2 weeks and still felt the same. My boyfriend broke up with me and I stop taking the medication. One day I decided I wasn't going to leave my bed ever. I was going to stay there what was the point. My mom tried to talk to me and asked if I had been taking my pills I threw the bottle at her saying NO! I didn't eat or drink for 2 days, then I found a bottle vodka under my bed I drank all of it, about a litter. Then I began trashing my room throwing up and crying. It was a bad night my mom came home found me crying in a corner under a coffee table and took me to the hospital. Sharon: From then on I have been medicated and go to my therapist regularly.
Chanele "therockstar": So would you say the medication would work without the therapist?
Sharon: Yes because it is pill that balances out the chemicals in my brain. But, I still need someone to talk to. I don't feel I am ready to do it on my own.
From this interview of many with others very similar, should show that these are diseases that deserve to be acknowledge and treated as any other disease. With understanding, caring, compassion and no judgment.
written by: Chanele"theRockStar" Lovelace http://arockstarproduction.blogspot.com
Article source: ArticleWorld.net Free Articles
Saturday, October 15, 2005
Depression, Suicide, Aging, and EQ - By Susan Dunn
There are so many myths about aging. For instance, do you think, as many do, that “all old people are alike,” and that nobody changes after about the age of 50?
Nothing could be farther from the truth. Freud’s famous statement that people couldn’t change after the age of 50 simply isn’t true. At the time he formed his theories, most people didn’t live past 50, and that of course shaped his views. He may not have seen a lot of people over 50.
In fact this limited exposure to people in older age groups continues to confound our understanding. A lot of the psychological assessments available weren’t normed on enough people over the age of 60 to make them reliable for individuals in that age group. It’s all about developmental stages and you wouldn’t expect “normal” to mean the same thing for a 75 year old as a 42 year old and more than for a 6 year old and a 12 year old.
Seniors are not alike as individuals or as a group. Surveys show that the most “contented” people are people aged 60-69, but at the same time, the highest suicide rates of any age group occur among individuals 65 and older. 81% of senior suicides are male and Anglo males are particularly vulnerable. White males over 65 have the highest suicide rate, second only to white adolescent males. Suicide rates are higher for those who are divorced or widowed, and cause is attributed first to physical ailments, and then to depression.
The percentage of seniors in the population has risen steadily from 3% in 1900, to about 12% now. It’s projected to increase to 21% in the next 30 years. Since most emotional problems are often presented first to a primary care physician, as physical problems (headache, backache), medical schools are hastening to add exposure to geriatric medicine and psychology in the training of doctors. Psychology licensing boards are also beginning to require it.
It’s important to understand that depression manifests itself in different ways. We usually think of the “lethargic” depressed person, the one who moves and thinks slowly, can’t sustain eye contact, talks negatively, is disinterested or unable to enjoy their usual pleasures, and wants to sleep all the time. But depressed people can also be agitated, angry, restless, irritable, eyes darting around, frantically trying to enjoy things (but not able to), and not able to sleep much.
In either case, women may talk about the feelings, but men tend to complain about physical ailments when they see a doctor.
It’s important to understand that depression isn’t a “normal” part of aging, and that it's treatable. If you think you’re depressed, or that your loved one is, it’s good to start with a physical checkup. You should be make a list of all medications being taken, and also consider the normal routine. Many seniors, especially those who live alone, neglect nutrition and exercise.
As I say in my ebook, “EQ and Depression,” you aren’t supposed to be depressed as you age. You’re supposed to feel good. Many seniors have a high EQ, are resilient, and are experienced copers. EQ intends to increase with age, but not if you don’t work on it. Skills such as flexiblity, creativity and resilience can be learned, and it pays to start developing them in early adulthood, as they take time to learn. Barring physical problems, you can learn to manage your emotions and the thoughts that accompany, and cause, them.
We know that isolation is worse on our health than high blood pressure and obesity combined, and it not being isolated depends upon your interpersonal skills – your ability to make new friends and keep the old ones.
Creativity is needed to learn to work around things that change. It tends to take longer, for instance, to learn new things as we age, but many seniors are adept at “many ways to skin a cat.” Likewise there are ways to make the short-term memory loss less bothersome. Short-term memory loss is one of the things that does come with aging, but the vast experience of seniors in coping gives them a vast store of tricks to pull ou of the bag to help them remember.
As one of my senior coaching clients tells me, “My short-term memory’s off about 10%, but since it used to be far above-average, I’m doing fine. Now I just write things down, like I’ve seen others do for years.”
The ability to creatively meet challenges depends upon having an optimistic attitude, which also can be learned. I coach people in learned optimism and emotional intelligence competencies all the time! If you want to, and are willing to, you can learn to change self-limiting beliefs, once you realize they aren’t working for you. It depends upon correct information (like it’s not “normal” to be depressed at any age, including old age) and then becoming aware of your emotions and self-talk, and changing them.
Depression usually responds best to a regime of exercise, good nutrition including neutraceuticals, medication, and cognitive work. Coaching can help you move forward, make goals and stay accountable to them.
We also know that resilient seniors are lifelong learners. While we don’t make any more brain cells as adults, we can continue to form new connections throughout the lifespan IF we learn new things; the more radical the better. This means if you’re an engineer, take a literature course. If you’re a Spanish teacher, study some physics. If you’re a left-brained mathematician, take an EQ course and develop the other side of your brain. As someone said, “fall in love with learning and you’ll never end up with a broken heart”.
Intentionality is a high-order emotional intelligence competency. Why not intend to be one of those seniors who’s resilient and contented, who ages gracefully? Look to your wellness now, whatever age you are, and don’t leave out the EQ skills. The time to be developing them is now.
Our emotions directly effect our immune sytem, which is our health. They also effect our ability to get along with, and enjoy, others and ourselves. Men may particularly want to address the EQ issue. I know from the statistics, and from my coaching practice, that a man living alone at the age of 60 or beyond is in a vulnerable position, and while there are more men at that age than women, the smart women will be holding out for the healthy, EQ-smart men to bless with the health-promoting marital state.
Get started now. It’s never too late to learn!
Please consider this article for your website or ezine. Permission to reprint if byline stays intact and links are activated on the Internet. Courtesy notification appreciated.
©Susan Dunn, MA, The EQ Coach, http://www.susandunn.cc. Susan works with adults of all ages to develop their emotional intelligence for applications to wellness and success in relationships and career. She offers individual coaching, Internet courses and ebooks. She also certifies EQ coaches in an innovative, no-residency program. Mailto:sdunn@susandunn.cc for free ezine, and more information.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/
Nothing could be farther from the truth. Freud’s famous statement that people couldn’t change after the age of 50 simply isn’t true. At the time he formed his theories, most people didn’t live past 50, and that of course shaped his views. He may not have seen a lot of people over 50.
In fact this limited exposure to people in older age groups continues to confound our understanding. A lot of the psychological assessments available weren’t normed on enough people over the age of 60 to make them reliable for individuals in that age group. It’s all about developmental stages and you wouldn’t expect “normal” to mean the same thing for a 75 year old as a 42 year old and more than for a 6 year old and a 12 year old.
Seniors are not alike as individuals or as a group. Surveys show that the most “contented” people are people aged 60-69, but at the same time, the highest suicide rates of any age group occur among individuals 65 and older. 81% of senior suicides are male and Anglo males are particularly vulnerable. White males over 65 have the highest suicide rate, second only to white adolescent males. Suicide rates are higher for those who are divorced or widowed, and cause is attributed first to physical ailments, and then to depression.
The percentage of seniors in the population has risen steadily from 3% in 1900, to about 12% now. It’s projected to increase to 21% in the next 30 years. Since most emotional problems are often presented first to a primary care physician, as physical problems (headache, backache), medical schools are hastening to add exposure to geriatric medicine and psychology in the training of doctors. Psychology licensing boards are also beginning to require it.
It’s important to understand that depression manifests itself in different ways. We usually think of the “lethargic” depressed person, the one who moves and thinks slowly, can’t sustain eye contact, talks negatively, is disinterested or unable to enjoy their usual pleasures, and wants to sleep all the time. But depressed people can also be agitated, angry, restless, irritable, eyes darting around, frantically trying to enjoy things (but not able to), and not able to sleep much.
In either case, women may talk about the feelings, but men tend to complain about physical ailments when they see a doctor.
It’s important to understand that depression isn’t a “normal” part of aging, and that it's treatable. If you think you’re depressed, or that your loved one is, it’s good to start with a physical checkup. You should be make a list of all medications being taken, and also consider the normal routine. Many seniors, especially those who live alone, neglect nutrition and exercise.
As I say in my ebook, “EQ and Depression,” you aren’t supposed to be depressed as you age. You’re supposed to feel good. Many seniors have a high EQ, are resilient, and are experienced copers. EQ intends to increase with age, but not if you don’t work on it. Skills such as flexiblity, creativity and resilience can be learned, and it pays to start developing them in early adulthood, as they take time to learn. Barring physical problems, you can learn to manage your emotions and the thoughts that accompany, and cause, them.
We know that isolation is worse on our health than high blood pressure and obesity combined, and it not being isolated depends upon your interpersonal skills – your ability to make new friends and keep the old ones.
Creativity is needed to learn to work around things that change. It tends to take longer, for instance, to learn new things as we age, but many seniors are adept at “many ways to skin a cat.” Likewise there are ways to make the short-term memory loss less bothersome. Short-term memory loss is one of the things that does come with aging, but the vast experience of seniors in coping gives them a vast store of tricks to pull ou of the bag to help them remember.
As one of my senior coaching clients tells me, “My short-term memory’s off about 10%, but since it used to be far above-average, I’m doing fine. Now I just write things down, like I’ve seen others do for years.”
The ability to creatively meet challenges depends upon having an optimistic attitude, which also can be learned. I coach people in learned optimism and emotional intelligence competencies all the time! If you want to, and are willing to, you can learn to change self-limiting beliefs, once you realize they aren’t working for you. It depends upon correct information (like it’s not “normal” to be depressed at any age, including old age) and then becoming aware of your emotions and self-talk, and changing them.
Depression usually responds best to a regime of exercise, good nutrition including neutraceuticals, medication, and cognitive work. Coaching can help you move forward, make goals and stay accountable to them.
We also know that resilient seniors are lifelong learners. While we don’t make any more brain cells as adults, we can continue to form new connections throughout the lifespan IF we learn new things; the more radical the better. This means if you’re an engineer, take a literature course. If you’re a Spanish teacher, study some physics. If you’re a left-brained mathematician, take an EQ course and develop the other side of your brain. As someone said, “fall in love with learning and you’ll never end up with a broken heart”.
Intentionality is a high-order emotional intelligence competency. Why not intend to be one of those seniors who’s resilient and contented, who ages gracefully? Look to your wellness now, whatever age you are, and don’t leave out the EQ skills. The time to be developing them is now.
Our emotions directly effect our immune sytem, which is our health. They also effect our ability to get along with, and enjoy, others and ourselves. Men may particularly want to address the EQ issue. I know from the statistics, and from my coaching practice, that a man living alone at the age of 60 or beyond is in a vulnerable position, and while there are more men at that age than women, the smart women will be holding out for the healthy, EQ-smart men to bless with the health-promoting marital state.
Get started now. It’s never too late to learn!
Please consider this article for your website or ezine. Permission to reprint if byline stays intact and links are activated on the Internet. Courtesy notification appreciated.
©Susan Dunn, MA, The EQ Coach, http://www.susandunn.cc. Susan works with adults of all ages to develop their emotional intelligence for applications to wellness and success in relationships and career. She offers individual coaching, Internet courses and ebooks. She also certifies EQ coaches in an innovative, no-residency program. Mailto:sdunn@susandunn.cc for free ezine, and more information.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/
10 Simple Coping Strategies When a Family Member Has Clinical Depression - By Elizabeth Tull
1.Remember that it is an illness:
Clinical depression often requires medical supervision as well as professional treatment. Clinical depression is treatable and requires commitment, understanding and patience from all those involved.
2.It is not your fault:
Clinical depression is usually a combination of chemical imbalance and learned behaviors. There may be times when the depressed individual is extremely sensitive, argumentative and/or blaming towards you, the children, the in-laws, the boss and even the world. All the above mentioned are not the cause. What you are responsible for is how you choose to take on the outward symptoms and how they affect you, your home and your relationships.
3.Be well informed:
Educate yourself on what type of depression is present and if there is a dual diagnosis IE: chemical dependency and depression or personality disorders and depression. Know what the symptoms, treatments and follow-ups are. There are suggested guidelines for communication and setting boundaries. Though the illness is not your fault; it benefits you and your family to remain open minded and willing to learn new ways of doing things.
4.Make sure to have a support network:
Depression and dual diagnosis affects the whole family. There are many ranges of emotions from anger and fear to hopefulness and hopelessness. Having others that have experienced it before can help eliminate unhealthy coping mechanisms such as isolation, shame, control and low self-esteem. There are many national and local support groups available on line. For more information check with your favorite search engines or call a local and/or national mental health hotline.
5.Make time for yourself and your children:
Don’t fall into the trap of not taking care of yourselves. Misery and fear love company. Living with and loving someone who is clinically depressed can be incredibly draining. Do not become a hostage or enabler. Remember your flight instructions: “For those traveling with small children; place the oxygen mask on yourself first and then assist the children.”
6.Be a victor not a victim:
Pain is inevitable; suffering is optional: We are all going to feel pain in life never mind a home with mental illness. Surround yourselves with knowledge, self-care, experienced support and nurturing. There are no such things as victims only volunteers.
7.Recognize that clinical depression is episodic Clinical depression comes in waves. People with clinical depression do get better!
8.Understand that medication takes time to work:
In most cases, improvement takes as long as 6-8 weeks. Even early responders require about 3-4 weeks before they notice mood improvement. Even after a person with clinical depression feels better, she or he needs to stay on medication at least six months. People should never stop taking medication on their own; medical supervision is a must. There can be serious physical and emotional complications from sudden withdrawal such as increased depression and suicidal tendencies.
9.Medication alone is fairly ineffective:
Research shows that medication in combination with cognitive behavioral therapy is more effective than medication alone. Combined with therapy, the person who is clinically depressed may need to make lifestyle changes, including dietary and exercise changes. The family needs to find ways to reduce stressors by simplifying their lives.
10.Get a written relapse prevention plan:
Make a list of early symptoms such as sleep, appetite and mood changes. Early intervention is the key to stopping a downward spiral. Determine what worked in the past to get the person with clinical depression back on track and do the things that worked before.
Elizabeth Tull is a Professional Excellence coach who partners with people in crafting and designing Legacies of Excellence. Her focus is on bridging the recovery community to professional coaching as well as support for families dealing with clinical depression in the home. Visit her on the web http://www.agapelegacycoach.com
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Caring for Aging Relatives - By Ryan Joseph
It happens somewhat slowly in the beginning, maybe with a small cough that gets worse as time goes on. It might simply begin with absent mindedness which is totally out of character, followed by total memory lapses. What do we do when our parents eventually need taking care of after they have spent so much of their adult lives taking care of us? What precisely is a child’s responsibility to them? Is it self-centered to relocate them into an assisted home? And which siblings should shoulder the responsibility? These are questions which plague families whenever a parent happens to become sick.
It is certainly very normal for feelings of guilt and even occasionally depression to happen to you because of a deteriorating parent. But happily there are some good associations that do offer expert advice on coping with these problems. And there are specialists in this arena who can work with you to help you through the hard times.
Local hospitals, hospices and nursing homes usually have such names and numbers to assist you in this regard. If your dad feels certain that someone has broken into the house just to steal his chocolate when he has in fact eaten it himself, do not argue with him or say that his theories are irrational. Just calmly acknowledge how he feels and make him feel safe and loved. Do small things to alleviate his fears like simply letting him see you lock the doors or secure the windows at night before going to bed. If you get an unsatisfactory attitude from his physician, take him to a geriatric psychiatrist for further examination.
Erratic behavior is one of the earlies warning signals of dementia. If your mom starts cussing at the dinner table in front of the kids just because her steak is a bit undercooked, correct her calmly by teaching her the appropriate behavior: “Excuse me, my steak is a little undercooked, can you put it back on the grill for me please?”
Never resort to bad language yourself, as this will just perpetuate the unwanted behavior. If you feel yourself losing your own temper, take a few deep breaths until you are able to control your emotions. If you are being verbally assualted then it may be best to detach from being called offensive names. Give 3 warnings, use the silent treatment and then just walk away if the behavior goes on.
This can be one of the touphest problems to cope with, particularly for a very stubborn parent. Driving is so commonly related to having freedom and yet if you get reports that your dad is passing stop signs or driving on the wrong side of the street you have to deal with it. If you take his keys away from him, he may resent you, so it may be best to take a more indirect approach.
Take him or her for a “normal” checkup to check his vision, then ask the physician for a note expressing that the patient should not be driving anymore. Send the letter to the DMV requesting that his license be taken away. This may take a few weeks, but when the DMV takes away his license, be sympathetic and do research on transportation for seniors in the area, which is usually inexpensive and efficient.
For further information go to Fish Oil News and find out some additional facts about aging and the possible effect of fish oil on Alzheimers.
Ryan Joseph is a writer/researcher. For more info. visit http://www.omega3fishoil.org/
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/
It is certainly very normal for feelings of guilt and even occasionally depression to happen to you because of a deteriorating parent. But happily there are some good associations that do offer expert advice on coping with these problems. And there are specialists in this arena who can work with you to help you through the hard times.
Local hospitals, hospices and nursing homes usually have such names and numbers to assist you in this regard. If your dad feels certain that someone has broken into the house just to steal his chocolate when he has in fact eaten it himself, do not argue with him or say that his theories are irrational. Just calmly acknowledge how he feels and make him feel safe and loved. Do small things to alleviate his fears like simply letting him see you lock the doors or secure the windows at night before going to bed. If you get an unsatisfactory attitude from his physician, take him to a geriatric psychiatrist for further examination.
Erratic behavior is one of the earlies warning signals of dementia. If your mom starts cussing at the dinner table in front of the kids just because her steak is a bit undercooked, correct her calmly by teaching her the appropriate behavior: “Excuse me, my steak is a little undercooked, can you put it back on the grill for me please?”
Never resort to bad language yourself, as this will just perpetuate the unwanted behavior. If you feel yourself losing your own temper, take a few deep breaths until you are able to control your emotions. If you are being verbally assualted then it may be best to detach from being called offensive names. Give 3 warnings, use the silent treatment and then just walk away if the behavior goes on.
This can be one of the touphest problems to cope with, particularly for a very stubborn parent. Driving is so commonly related to having freedom and yet if you get reports that your dad is passing stop signs or driving on the wrong side of the street you have to deal with it. If you take his keys away from him, he may resent you, so it may be best to take a more indirect approach.
Take him or her for a “normal” checkup to check his vision, then ask the physician for a note expressing that the patient should not be driving anymore. Send the letter to the DMV requesting that his license be taken away. This may take a few weeks, but when the DMV takes away his license, be sympathetic and do research on transportation for seniors in the area, which is usually inexpensive and efficient.
For further information go to Fish Oil News and find out some additional facts about aging and the possible effect of fish oil on Alzheimers.
Ryan Joseph is a writer/researcher. For more info. visit http://www.omega3fishoil.org/
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/
Depression - Practical Suggestions for Positive Change - By Steven Harold
Having discussed the types of depression and the possible cause, in the previous article, it now seems appropriate to discuss how sufferers can help themselves. Remembering that help for chronic, clinical and manic depression should be sought from your doctor. Indeed it is your doctor who would diagnose these types of depression and so even if you feel you have mild depression it is still important to seek your doctor's help first.
Causes and Solutions to Depression
Some of the possible causes of depression have already been listed. The list is not definitive but it is a useful start. If you know the cause of something then at least you have a target for your energies and focus. So if the cause of your depression is work related, then this should be the focus of your energies with the aim of reducing or completely eliminating the cause.
In very few instances do matters change through inaction. If you do nothing about something than that also tends to be the result, nothing. Taking positive action can produce benefits on a number of fronts such as: -
1) You feel better because you are doing something as opposed to just accepting your situation.
2) Doing something or taking action means that it is more likely that there will be a change in the situation.
3) Your options automatically increase if you take action because in doing so you are looking at what choices you have. Looking for something, whether that is your options or something else, means you will discover more than if you just did nothing.
4) The feeling of being trapped starts to dissolve as you realise the only person keeping you trapped is you.
Even if the action you take is to discuss the situation with a close friend, partner or relative at least you get a chance to let it out. Often this by itself will help you feel better.
Changing the Feeling of being Overwhelmed or Unable to Cope People with depression talk about feeling overwhelmed or unable to cope with what has happened in their life. Often this occurs when more than one of the major areas in a person's life produces a problem.
You might say that there are 5 major areas in a person's life: -
1) Health and well-being
2) Work (or anything that occupies your time)
3) The personal relationship with another person (wife, husband, partner)
4) The home (rented or bought, living with relatives, friends)
5) Anything else (wider family, friends, social aspects etc.
If you get a problem in one area of your life then you can probably cope. If you get another problem at the same time as the first issue and both of these last for some time then this is when a person may start to feel overwhelmed, unable to cope and therefore depressed.
A change of how you view your situation when you have more than one problem is the first thing to do if you feel overwhelmed. Often the feeling of being overwhelmed happens because you are viewing the two (or more) problems as one. You then may start to think and say that everything is wrong with your life and even good news may be turned into negative news.
So start by keeping the problems (unless they are genuinely connected) separately. A way of doing this is to think of each problem as having a separate box in your mind that you keep them in. Then decide to only tackle or think about opening one box at a time in order to tackle them one at a time.
Now this does not mean that you have to see through one problem to completion until you tackle the other problem. It means that you think about and take action on one problem, take it as far as you can and then start on the other problem. You may have to take a number of bites at a problem before it is dealt with. Some problems may involve waiting for others to do something and come back to you before you can do the next step in resolving it.
It can help to have a separate notepad for each problem. Then write down the main points of the problem. Write down the realistic outcome you would like. Then write down the steps you need to tale for that outcome to be realised. Again keeping a note of any dates and interactions you have with anyone. You may need to combine your notepad with a diary to remind you have a future date for further action.
Keeping unrelated problems separate in your mind by thinking of them as being stored in separate boxes can ease the sense of being unable to cope. Then tackling them one at a time can boost your confidence as you start to take manageable bites out of each.
No one eats a piazza in one bite. Now one goes from one floor to the next floor in one step. Each bite or step you take are small enough to be manageable and yet you know with each one that you are getting closer to finishing.
If you need professional help then seek it out. You cannot know how to do everything and an expert might know how to resolve easily what for you has seemed complex.
To summarise: -
1) Focus your energies on the cause
2) If you need to unload, tell a good friend about it
3) Keep different problems separate from each other in your mind
4) Write down the steps you need to take to resolve the problems
5) Remember one step at a time
6) Don't be too proud to seek professional help with any steps you have to take.
Exercise of any sort is a useful addition to getting back control of your life. Whether it is swimming, running or even line dancing, do make sure your physical body gets exercised. For when we exercise the body a number of positive things happen: -
1) The 'feel good' hormones are released lighting our mood
2) Any stress or tension is released from the muscles
3) Our sleep is likely to be improved
4) Energy levels will increase
5) You will feel healthier
6) Your motivation levels will increase.
Lastly, but by no means least, find a relaxation regime that works for you and you enjoy. This might be meditation, yoga, self hypnosis or any practice that helps with stress release will be more than helpful. You can learn meditation from books or cds. Likewise self hypnosis can be easy to enjoy from an appropriately titled self hypnosis cd.
Above all else, be kind to yourself. You’re doing the best you can. Who could ask for more than that!
Steven A. HaroldClinical HypnotherapistDepression Hypnosis Cds
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Causes and Solutions to Depression
Some of the possible causes of depression have already been listed. The list is not definitive but it is a useful start. If you know the cause of something then at least you have a target for your energies and focus. So if the cause of your depression is work related, then this should be the focus of your energies with the aim of reducing or completely eliminating the cause.
In very few instances do matters change through inaction. If you do nothing about something than that also tends to be the result, nothing. Taking positive action can produce benefits on a number of fronts such as: -
1) You feel better because you are doing something as opposed to just accepting your situation.
2) Doing something or taking action means that it is more likely that there will be a change in the situation.
3) Your options automatically increase if you take action because in doing so you are looking at what choices you have. Looking for something, whether that is your options or something else, means you will discover more than if you just did nothing.
4) The feeling of being trapped starts to dissolve as you realise the only person keeping you trapped is you.
Even if the action you take is to discuss the situation with a close friend, partner or relative at least you get a chance to let it out. Often this by itself will help you feel better.
Changing the Feeling of being Overwhelmed or Unable to Cope People with depression talk about feeling overwhelmed or unable to cope with what has happened in their life. Often this occurs when more than one of the major areas in a person's life produces a problem.
You might say that there are 5 major areas in a person's life: -
1) Health and well-being
2) Work (or anything that occupies your time)
3) The personal relationship with another person (wife, husband, partner)
4) The home (rented or bought, living with relatives, friends)
5) Anything else (wider family, friends, social aspects etc.
If you get a problem in one area of your life then you can probably cope. If you get another problem at the same time as the first issue and both of these last for some time then this is when a person may start to feel overwhelmed, unable to cope and therefore depressed.
A change of how you view your situation when you have more than one problem is the first thing to do if you feel overwhelmed. Often the feeling of being overwhelmed happens because you are viewing the two (or more) problems as one. You then may start to think and say that everything is wrong with your life and even good news may be turned into negative news.
So start by keeping the problems (unless they are genuinely connected) separately. A way of doing this is to think of each problem as having a separate box in your mind that you keep them in. Then decide to only tackle or think about opening one box at a time in order to tackle them one at a time.
Now this does not mean that you have to see through one problem to completion until you tackle the other problem. It means that you think about and take action on one problem, take it as far as you can and then start on the other problem. You may have to take a number of bites at a problem before it is dealt with. Some problems may involve waiting for others to do something and come back to you before you can do the next step in resolving it.
It can help to have a separate notepad for each problem. Then write down the main points of the problem. Write down the realistic outcome you would like. Then write down the steps you need to tale for that outcome to be realised. Again keeping a note of any dates and interactions you have with anyone. You may need to combine your notepad with a diary to remind you have a future date for further action.
Keeping unrelated problems separate in your mind by thinking of them as being stored in separate boxes can ease the sense of being unable to cope. Then tackling them one at a time can boost your confidence as you start to take manageable bites out of each.
No one eats a piazza in one bite. Now one goes from one floor to the next floor in one step. Each bite or step you take are small enough to be manageable and yet you know with each one that you are getting closer to finishing.
If you need professional help then seek it out. You cannot know how to do everything and an expert might know how to resolve easily what for you has seemed complex.
To summarise: -
1) Focus your energies on the cause
2) If you need to unload, tell a good friend about it
3) Keep different problems separate from each other in your mind
4) Write down the steps you need to take to resolve the problems
5) Remember one step at a time
6) Don't be too proud to seek professional help with any steps you have to take.
Exercise of any sort is a useful addition to getting back control of your life. Whether it is swimming, running or even line dancing, do make sure your physical body gets exercised. For when we exercise the body a number of positive things happen: -
1) The 'feel good' hormones are released lighting our mood
2) Any stress or tension is released from the muscles
3) Our sleep is likely to be improved
4) Energy levels will increase
5) You will feel healthier
6) Your motivation levels will increase.
Lastly, but by no means least, find a relaxation regime that works for you and you enjoy. This might be meditation, yoga, self hypnosis or any practice that helps with stress release will be more than helpful. You can learn meditation from books or cds. Likewise self hypnosis can be easy to enjoy from an appropriately titled self hypnosis cd.
Above all else, be kind to yourself. You’re doing the best you can. Who could ask for more than that!
Steven A. HaroldClinical HypnotherapistDepression Hypnosis Cds
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Friday, October 14, 2005
Coping with Grief - It's Called Living Through It - By Gail Stone
"Dad, I tried to wake Nana, I think she's dead."
"Grandpa died yesterday."
"Oh my God, Daddy's dead."
"Uncle Jack died today."
"Grandma died last night."
"I'm standing with the body of your deceased father-in-law."
"Hon, I think we should get a divorce."
"I'm sorry, but we weren't able to resuscitate your mother."
"Mike called. He thinks Mary is dead."
"I'm sorry to leave this on your voice mail, but Uncle Andy died last night."
This litany of phone calls and conversations on death or parting has all occurred in the past 30 years of my life, most in the last 20. Whether I was the one delivering or receiving these messages, the speaking of each one was the start of the long, seemingly endless process of grieving. Often, I felt so sucker punched that I doubted I could go on. Getting up the next day seemed impossible, yet somehow I almost always did.
Something deep inside told me I had to, that there was no other way to get through it, but to keep moving. I attribute that to my deep belief in a higher plan and a sense that getting through this trial was like going through a tunnel. I told myself that if I put one foot in front of the other, I would eventually come out the other side and be able to feel somewhat whole again. Sometimes, it was all I could do to put one toe in front of the other, but all forward movement I deemed positive.
The last five instances happened within the past five years, with my mother and sister-in-law and godfather's deaths back to back in '99, '00 and '01. Looking for the reason why I have been given so many opportunities to experience the grip of grief first hand, I now believe it was in order to help others and ease their way.
If you've been here, you know. There's no magic pill to get you through the immense pain, intense sadness and amazing denial, anger and upset that you feel. However, I did create, through trial and error, a few simple practices which have profoundly impacted my journey through the tunnel and I would like to share them with you.
(1) Every single day, let in the love of family, friends and co-workers. On those days that you feel you can't bear to see anyone or when you realize that some of them have moved on, thinking in error that you are "better", read through the cards you've received. Save and then play voice mail messages and re-read e-mails of support. Give your heart a visible reminder that others do care and want to share your pain. Let them - mentally off-load a bit of it onto their shoulders. Don't try to carry it all by yourself. It can crush you and it will try. Don't let it!
(2) Create a morning or evening meditation time. Even if you can't see how to find the time, do it somehow. This was especially helpful to me in getting through the horrible time of adjustment to life alone after my divorce and then again when my Mom died. I had always said a few wake-up prayers, but found I needed more. I started with Jerry Jampolsky's book, "Love is the Answer" and read one (short) chapter a day. Then, I bought the book "A Course on Miracles" and meditated on the daily passages. While the 365 lessons seemed to represent a huge commitment, the daily phrases were so empowering that I continued. Additionally, I saved affirmations from various sources like Science of Mind magazine and The Daily Word and read them daily. Any quote from a book or article that I thought would motivate me to get up and make the day a less painful one than the day before, I saved and re-read daily. I posted the best of them around my office and in my meditation area. I still do. When you actively start looking for empowering passages, you will be touched and inspired by what comes your way.
(3) Finally, but most importantly, express yourself in some way often! I would recommend that you do it daily, as well. I found out the hard way that keeping emotions bottled up or trying to ignore them hurt more in the long run and adversely affected my health. Talk to people about your loved one, write about him/her, start a journal of your thoughts and feelings, scream whenever you can find a place where you won't alarm the neighbors, family members or fellow travelers, do some kind of physical exercise to work off steam - whenever and wherever you can vent, do so daily.
To anyone caught in the black and blue morass of grief, I invite you to consider adding these three emotionally healing practices to your daily life. They have helped me come through some horribly upsetting times, still sad at heart, but feeling more serene in the knowledge that I can and will go on - living my life to the best of my ability - for my dear ones and with my dear ones safely ensconced in my mind and heart forevermore.
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Death, Close and Personal - By Monica Mingo
I got an email recently from someone whose mother died. She knew I'd suffered the loss of my mother and wanted some insight on how to deal with it. Unfortunately for her, I had no advice...shit...I'm still dealing with it.
Every single day I think about my mother. I think about her living and breathing. Talking to me, laughing with me, yelling at me. But I never, ever think about her death. This email made me think of that so I began resenting that email. I began resenting that someone else had to deal with a mother who was dead. And I really resented that someone thought I was an expert on dealing with dead mothers. If you get to be an expert on anything...the last thing you want to be is an expert on dead mothers.
When I clean my home, I remember doing the same with my mother. Saturday was cleaning day and I always equate lemon fresh Pledge with her. I think of my mother often. I miss her every single day. I find myself wondering...I wonder what my mother would think of this duvet cover. Or I wonder what she would think of my efforts to create a beautiful home. I know it's weird that I know she's gone but I don't wonder about her as if she's dead...I wonder about her as if she's still in Louisiana wondering what I'm doing too. I know...crazy me.
Death is pretty permanent. It's as permanent as it gets actually. It's the end. I like to think of my mother being everywhere. I don't like thinking of her as a skeleton in a casket under 6 feet of dirt on the side of an old church in the country. That's too permanent.
I didn't have much to offer she-whose-mother-just-past. I don't know her that well so was unable to infer much. I offered what I could. A place to come and rest and just be without the responsibility of dealing with death. Granted, with her in my home, in my space, in my world I...would have the responsibility of dealing with death. With personal death. With my own permanent tragedy.
I invited her into my haven where I am safe from all things painful and I helped her in a very small way deal with her mother's death at the expense of my peace. She left yesterday and I turned to my guy and the normalcy of my life to bring me back from my abyss.
I, Monica Lenay Pattan Mingo, a self-professed, uptight, prude bitch, allowed someone to hurt me without knowing because I knew how badly she was hurting. I didn't feel a kinship with her. I just felt renewed in my own personal, permanent pain, in my infinite grief. And I left knowing only one sure thing...I'm not cut out to be a hero.
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Every single day I think about my mother. I think about her living and breathing. Talking to me, laughing with me, yelling at me. But I never, ever think about her death. This email made me think of that so I began resenting that email. I began resenting that someone else had to deal with a mother who was dead. And I really resented that someone thought I was an expert on dealing with dead mothers. If you get to be an expert on anything...the last thing you want to be is an expert on dead mothers.
When I clean my home, I remember doing the same with my mother. Saturday was cleaning day and I always equate lemon fresh Pledge with her. I think of my mother often. I miss her every single day. I find myself wondering...I wonder what my mother would think of this duvet cover. Or I wonder what she would think of my efforts to create a beautiful home. I know it's weird that I know she's gone but I don't wonder about her as if she's dead...I wonder about her as if she's still in Louisiana wondering what I'm doing too. I know...crazy me.
Death is pretty permanent. It's as permanent as it gets actually. It's the end. I like to think of my mother being everywhere. I don't like thinking of her as a skeleton in a casket under 6 feet of dirt on the side of an old church in the country. That's too permanent.
I didn't have much to offer she-whose-mother-just-past. I don't know her that well so was unable to infer much. I offered what I could. A place to come and rest and just be without the responsibility of dealing with death. Granted, with her in my home, in my space, in my world I...would have the responsibility of dealing with death. With personal death. With my own permanent tragedy.
I invited her into my haven where I am safe from all things painful and I helped her in a very small way deal with her mother's death at the expense of my peace. She left yesterday and I turned to my guy and the normalcy of my life to bring me back from my abyss.
I, Monica Lenay Pattan Mingo, a self-professed, uptight, prude bitch, allowed someone to hurt me without knowing because I knew how badly she was hurting. I didn't feel a kinship with her. I just felt renewed in my own personal, permanent pain, in my infinite grief. And I left knowing only one sure thing...I'm not cut out to be a hero.
http://www.MonicaMingo.com
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You Can Help A Grieving Heart - By Alice Wisler
Oh, we can talk about the best cold medications and if cherry cough syrup tastes better to kids than orange. We can recommend preschools and sneakers. But the hardest part of parenting is the least often discussed. The roughest aspect of being a parent is losing a child.
Then we clam up. We don’t want to hear. We are threatened. If her child died, mine could, too. What can we do when parenting goes beyond the normal expectations? “What do I say?” friends ask me with a look of agony in their eyes. “I feel so helpless. I can’t empathize, I haven’t had a child die.”
You can help. You don’t have to stand there with a blank stare or excuse yourself from the conversation. You can be informed so that you will be able to reach out to a friend who has lost a child.
“Jump into the midst of things and do something,” says Ronald Knapp author of the book, Beyond Endurance: When A Child Dies. Traditionally there are the sympathy cards and hot casseroles brought over to the bereaved’s home. But it doesn’t end there. That is only the beginning of reaching out to your friend or relative who has recently experienced the death of a child of any age.
Here are 15 tips you can learn to make you an effective and compassionate friend to your friend in pain:
1) Listen. When you ask your friend, “How are you doing today?” wait to hear the answer.
2) Cry with her. She may cry also, but your tears don’t make her cry. She cries when no one else is around and within her heart are the daily tears no one sees.
3) Don’t use any clichés. Avoid lines like, “It will get better.” “Be grateful you have other children.” “You’re young, you can have another baby.” “He was sick and it is good he is no longer suffering.” There will never be a phrase invented that makes it all right that a child died.
4) Help with the care of the surviving children. Offer to take them to the park, your house for a meal, to church. Say “May I please take Billy to the park today? Is four o’clock okay with you?” Don’t give the line, “If you need me, call me.” Your bereaved friend may not feel comfortable with asking for help.
5) Say your friend’s child’s name. Even if she cries, these are tears that heal. Acknowledging that the child lived and has not been forgotten is a wonderful balm to a broken heart.
6) Give to the memorial fund. Find out what it is and give, today, next year and the next. Show you want to keep the child’s memory alive.
7) Some mothers start to collect items that bring comfort after a child dies; find out what it is your friend is collecting and by one for her. My son liked watermelon and we have many stories of watermelons and him. So now my house has assorted watermelon mementos----a tea pot, a dish towel and a soap dispenser. Many mothers find solace in collecting rainbows, butterflies and angels.
8) Send a card (I’m thinking of you is fine) but stay away from sappy sympathy ones.
9) Go to the grave. Take flowers, a balloon or a toy. How honored your friend will be to see what you have left there the next time she visits the cemetery.
10) Don’t use religion as a brush away for pain. Stay clear of words that don’t help like, “It was God’s Will.”
11) Don’t judge her. You don’t know what she is going through each day, you cannot know of the intense pain unless you have had a child die.
12) Stay in touch. Call to see how she is coping. Suggest doing something together but if she isn’t up to it, give her space.
13) Read a book on grief, focusing on the parts that give you ideas on how to be a source of comfort for your bereaved friend.
14) Know she now has a hole in her heart, a missing piece due to the death of her child. Holes like these never heal so accept this truth and don’t expect her to get over this loss.
15) Remember that with the death of her child, a part of her died - old beliefs, ideals, etc. Her life has been forever changed.
Even as you participate in the suggestions above, you will still feel uncomfortable. It has been three years since my four year-old Daniel died, and even now when I meet a newly bereaved mother, I am uncomfortable. Talking of the untimely death of a child is never easy for anyone. However, avoiding reality does not bring healing. You will provide many gifts of comfort along the way when you actively decide to help your grieving friend. When my friends and family acknowledge all four of my children, the three on this earth and the one in Heaven, I am honored. Each time it is as though a ray of warm sunlight has touched my soul.
Further Reading:
When A Child Has Died: Ways You Can Help A Bereaved Parent. Bonnie Hunt Conrad. Fithian Press, 1995.
When Your Friend Is Grieving: Building A Bridge Of Love. Paula D’Arcy. Harold Shaw Publishers, 1990.
Beyond Endurance: When A Child Dies. Ronald J. Knapp. New York: Schocken Books, 1986.
Slices Of Sunlight, A Cookbook Of Memories: Remembrances Of The Children We Held. Alice J. Wisler. Daniel’s House Publications, 2000.
Down the Cereal Aisle: A Basket of Recipes and Remembrances. Alice J. Wisler. Daniel’s House Publications, 2003.
Alice J. Wisler of Daniel's House Publications, leads workshops on living with grief after the death of a child. Her web site teaches how to write for healing. She is also the editor of the popular ezine, Tributes and author of "Down the Cereal Aisle" and "Slices of Sunlight."
http://www.geocities.com/griefhope/index.html
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Then we clam up. We don’t want to hear. We are threatened. If her child died, mine could, too. What can we do when parenting goes beyond the normal expectations? “What do I say?” friends ask me with a look of agony in their eyes. “I feel so helpless. I can’t empathize, I haven’t had a child die.”
You can help. You don’t have to stand there with a blank stare or excuse yourself from the conversation. You can be informed so that you will be able to reach out to a friend who has lost a child.
“Jump into the midst of things and do something,” says Ronald Knapp author of the book, Beyond Endurance: When A Child Dies. Traditionally there are the sympathy cards and hot casseroles brought over to the bereaved’s home. But it doesn’t end there. That is only the beginning of reaching out to your friend or relative who has recently experienced the death of a child of any age.
Here are 15 tips you can learn to make you an effective and compassionate friend to your friend in pain:
1) Listen. When you ask your friend, “How are you doing today?” wait to hear the answer.
2) Cry with her. She may cry also, but your tears don’t make her cry. She cries when no one else is around and within her heart are the daily tears no one sees.
3) Don’t use any clichés. Avoid lines like, “It will get better.” “Be grateful you have other children.” “You’re young, you can have another baby.” “He was sick and it is good he is no longer suffering.” There will never be a phrase invented that makes it all right that a child died.
4) Help with the care of the surviving children. Offer to take them to the park, your house for a meal, to church. Say “May I please take Billy to the park today? Is four o’clock okay with you?” Don’t give the line, “If you need me, call me.” Your bereaved friend may not feel comfortable with asking for help.
5) Say your friend’s child’s name. Even if she cries, these are tears that heal. Acknowledging that the child lived and has not been forgotten is a wonderful balm to a broken heart.
6) Give to the memorial fund. Find out what it is and give, today, next year and the next. Show you want to keep the child’s memory alive.
7) Some mothers start to collect items that bring comfort after a child dies; find out what it is your friend is collecting and by one for her. My son liked watermelon and we have many stories of watermelons and him. So now my house has assorted watermelon mementos----a tea pot, a dish towel and a soap dispenser. Many mothers find solace in collecting rainbows, butterflies and angels.
8) Send a card (I’m thinking of you is fine) but stay away from sappy sympathy ones.
9) Go to the grave. Take flowers, a balloon or a toy. How honored your friend will be to see what you have left there the next time she visits the cemetery.
10) Don’t use religion as a brush away for pain. Stay clear of words that don’t help like, “It was God’s Will.”
11) Don’t judge her. You don’t know what she is going through each day, you cannot know of the intense pain unless you have had a child die.
12) Stay in touch. Call to see how she is coping. Suggest doing something together but if she isn’t up to it, give her space.
13) Read a book on grief, focusing on the parts that give you ideas on how to be a source of comfort for your bereaved friend.
14) Know she now has a hole in her heart, a missing piece due to the death of her child. Holes like these never heal so accept this truth and don’t expect her to get over this loss.
15) Remember that with the death of her child, a part of her died - old beliefs, ideals, etc. Her life has been forever changed.
Even as you participate in the suggestions above, you will still feel uncomfortable. It has been three years since my four year-old Daniel died, and even now when I meet a newly bereaved mother, I am uncomfortable. Talking of the untimely death of a child is never easy for anyone. However, avoiding reality does not bring healing. You will provide many gifts of comfort along the way when you actively decide to help your grieving friend. When my friends and family acknowledge all four of my children, the three on this earth and the one in Heaven, I am honored. Each time it is as though a ray of warm sunlight has touched my soul.
Further Reading:
When A Child Has Died: Ways You Can Help A Bereaved Parent. Bonnie Hunt Conrad. Fithian Press, 1995.
When Your Friend Is Grieving: Building A Bridge Of Love. Paula D’Arcy. Harold Shaw Publishers, 1990.
Beyond Endurance: When A Child Dies. Ronald J. Knapp. New York: Schocken Books, 1986.
Slices Of Sunlight, A Cookbook Of Memories: Remembrances Of The Children We Held. Alice J. Wisler. Daniel’s House Publications, 2000.
Down the Cereal Aisle: A Basket of Recipes and Remembrances. Alice J. Wisler. Daniel’s House Publications, 2003.
Alice J. Wisler of Daniel's House Publications, leads workshops on living with grief after the death of a child. Her web site teaches how to write for healing. She is also the editor of the popular ezine, Tributes and author of "Down the Cereal Aisle" and "Slices of Sunlight."
http://www.geocities.com/griefhope/index.html
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Adapting to the Loss of a Loved One: Three Tips on how to Cope - By Wendy Bridger
Have you ever sat down and played a piano where one of the keys wasn’t working? Or made cookies and left out an ingredient? Perhaps you’ve started listening to a favorite CD, and just when it gets to your favorite part of your favorite song, you realize that there is a scratch in it.
In some ways, losing a loved one is similar. Here you are going easily through life, and then, BAM, they are gone and life will never be the same. That piano piece sounds different because the middle C is broken, the cookies just aren’t the same, and at times, we are frustrated like we are when our CD gets scratched. Unfortunately, with the loss of a loved one, it is more difficult to fix than the piano or the batch of cookies, and your loved one was irreplaceable, unlike the CD.
Short and simple, this is what grieving is: learning to cope with the loss of someone who was apart of what made us what we are. So, what do we do? How do we go on after they are gone? I have a few suggestions that might help you through.
First of all, just as each of us has different personalities, each of us grieves in a different way. There is no right or wrong way to feel or act, as long as you are not endangering yourself or others. Some of us cry. Others of us bury ourselves in work or hobbies. If the person is still living and only the relationship has changed, it is very easy for us to do all we can to change things back to how they used to be. At times, it may take a while to truly even admit that they are gone. We just might feel numb. Some of us might even feel guilty if we don’t feel sad enough! So, take your feelings and actions for what they are and be patient with yourself. After all, you have just lost a part of what makes you who you are.
Also, find a way to transition your loved one into your new life¹. My father in law lost his dad last year and he hung a picture of him up in the living room to remember him. Others write goodbye letters to their loved one, giving themselves a chance to tell them things that they never got to say. Some of us keep a little box full of pictures and memories only to be taken out when we want to remember them, because remembering them all the time would be too overwhelming. I had a friend who’s little brother died. She got married on his birthday as a way to include him at her wedding. Once again, it depends on you and your relationship with the one you loved. For instance, burning every picture you had of an ex-boyfriend might be the perfect way to transition.
Another thing, you usually don’t ever “get over it.” Your loved one is gone. If you no longer have an ingredient to make cookies, it’s easy to realize that replacing it with a different ingredient would not make the cookies start tasting like they used to. To expect that you will be able to replace your loved one is also unrealistic. This reality may sound even more depressing. Frankly, I love chocolate chip cookies, and the idea of not ever having one again is quite upsetting! But in time, if I had to, I could grow to love other sweets, like banana bread, sweet potato pie, or brownies. So, even if you aren’t going to get over it, in time, you will adapt to the loss and find fulfillment through other experiences and relationships.
So, be patient with yourself. Losing someone isn’t easy. It turns your life upside down. Naturally, it’s going to take a while to pick up the pieces and transition to life without your loved one. Remember, Beethoven composed some beautiful music after losing his hearing, and you will find happiness and fulfillment again in your life after losing your loved one.
¹Wordern, J.W. (1991). Grief Counseling & Grief Therapy: A guidebook for the Mental Health Practitioner. Springer Publishing
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In some ways, losing a loved one is similar. Here you are going easily through life, and then, BAM, they are gone and life will never be the same. That piano piece sounds different because the middle C is broken, the cookies just aren’t the same, and at times, we are frustrated like we are when our CD gets scratched. Unfortunately, with the loss of a loved one, it is more difficult to fix than the piano or the batch of cookies, and your loved one was irreplaceable, unlike the CD.
Short and simple, this is what grieving is: learning to cope with the loss of someone who was apart of what made us what we are. So, what do we do? How do we go on after they are gone? I have a few suggestions that might help you through.
First of all, just as each of us has different personalities, each of us grieves in a different way. There is no right or wrong way to feel or act, as long as you are not endangering yourself or others. Some of us cry. Others of us bury ourselves in work or hobbies. If the person is still living and only the relationship has changed, it is very easy for us to do all we can to change things back to how they used to be. At times, it may take a while to truly even admit that they are gone. We just might feel numb. Some of us might even feel guilty if we don’t feel sad enough! So, take your feelings and actions for what they are and be patient with yourself. After all, you have just lost a part of what makes you who you are.
Also, find a way to transition your loved one into your new life¹. My father in law lost his dad last year and he hung a picture of him up in the living room to remember him. Others write goodbye letters to their loved one, giving themselves a chance to tell them things that they never got to say. Some of us keep a little box full of pictures and memories only to be taken out when we want to remember them, because remembering them all the time would be too overwhelming. I had a friend who’s little brother died. She got married on his birthday as a way to include him at her wedding. Once again, it depends on you and your relationship with the one you loved. For instance, burning every picture you had of an ex-boyfriend might be the perfect way to transition.
Another thing, you usually don’t ever “get over it.” Your loved one is gone. If you no longer have an ingredient to make cookies, it’s easy to realize that replacing it with a different ingredient would not make the cookies start tasting like they used to. To expect that you will be able to replace your loved one is also unrealistic. This reality may sound even more depressing. Frankly, I love chocolate chip cookies, and the idea of not ever having one again is quite upsetting! But in time, if I had to, I could grow to love other sweets, like banana bread, sweet potato pie, or brownies. So, even if you aren’t going to get over it, in time, you will adapt to the loss and find fulfillment through other experiences and relationships.
So, be patient with yourself. Losing someone isn’t easy. It turns your life upside down. Naturally, it’s going to take a while to pick up the pieces and transition to life without your loved one. Remember, Beethoven composed some beautiful music after losing his hearing, and you will find happiness and fulfillment again in your life after losing your loved one.
¹Wordern, J.W. (1991). Grief Counseling & Grief Therapy: A guidebook for the Mental Health Practitioner. Springer Publishing
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Articles on Losing a Loved One in Death
I've recently been hearing from several of my readers that are having a difficult time coping with the death of a loved one. I have found several helpful articles that I will be posting right away. My prayers go out to all of you who have lost loved ones. I can only imagine your pain. So, with this articles, it is my goal to try to bring you some kind of comfort. Hang in there.
To Your Health,
Anna
To Your Health,
Anna
Thursday, October 13, 2005
How To Avoid Post Partum Depression - By Moss Greene
New mothers sometimes experience “postpartum blues.” This is understandable. Pregnancy and birth are very dramatic events for your body – both physically and emotionally. So, it’s common to feel a little weepy, irritable or moody in the first few days after birth.
If you eat well, supplement your diet with high quality whole food supplements (especially omega-3 oils and B vitamins) and get enough rest, mild cases should pass quickly.
But, if “the blues” continue for more than just a few days, or if you’re feeling really depressed and down, please don’t try to tough it out. Get professional help. Ask your midwife or doctor to connect you with someone who can give you appropriate counseling.
Here are some tips that can help prevent or ease the symptoms of postpartum depression:
1. Ask for help after the birth. Here are some things friends and family could do for you during the first few weeks that might work better than giving the traditional baby shower gifts. They can:
- Bring you a complete dinner (hot and ready to serve);
- Volunteer to do your laundry;
- Take care of your house cleaning;
- And/or entertain older children with a day of play.
2. Get yourself out of the house – if only onto the deck or front steps – for at least a few minutes each day. Set up a lawn chair, wrap up yourself and your baby in a blanket and take a break. Set aside this time for you and baby.
3. Take it easy. Play with your baby. Visit with friends and family. Listen to relaxing music. Watch some old “feel good” DVD’s. Get someone to take you and baby for a long ride in the car. Baby will probably fall right off to sleep and you’ll get a chance to shut your eyes and relax for a few moments too.
4. And most importantly, eat really well and get yourself on a complete whole food nutritional program including pure omega-3 oils with EPA and DHA. I’ve seen high quality whole food supplements, combined with wholesome eating, consistently succeed in overcoming postpartum depression.
This is a special time for both you and your baby. It’s important to relax and enjoy it. And remember, if your depression continues for more than a few days, please don’t be afraid or ashamed to ask for help. Support is only a phone call away at the National Post Partum Depression Hotline 1-800-PPD-MOMS (773-6667).
Moss Greene makes it easy for you to create buoyant, vibrant health. Learn the simple things that make a big difference in how you look and feel. To receive your free newsletter visit her Health and Fitness Newsletter page.
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If you eat well, supplement your diet with high quality whole food supplements (especially omega-3 oils and B vitamins) and get enough rest, mild cases should pass quickly.
But, if “the blues” continue for more than just a few days, or if you’re feeling really depressed and down, please don’t try to tough it out. Get professional help. Ask your midwife or doctor to connect you with someone who can give you appropriate counseling.
Here are some tips that can help prevent or ease the symptoms of postpartum depression:
1. Ask for help after the birth. Here are some things friends and family could do for you during the first few weeks that might work better than giving the traditional baby shower gifts. They can:
- Bring you a complete dinner (hot and ready to serve);
- Volunteer to do your laundry;
- Take care of your house cleaning;
- And/or entertain older children with a day of play.
2. Get yourself out of the house – if only onto the deck or front steps – for at least a few minutes each day. Set up a lawn chair, wrap up yourself and your baby in a blanket and take a break. Set aside this time for you and baby.
3. Take it easy. Play with your baby. Visit with friends and family. Listen to relaxing music. Watch some old “feel good” DVD’s. Get someone to take you and baby for a long ride in the car. Baby will probably fall right off to sleep and you’ll get a chance to shut your eyes and relax for a few moments too.
4. And most importantly, eat really well and get yourself on a complete whole food nutritional program including pure omega-3 oils with EPA and DHA. I’ve seen high quality whole food supplements, combined with wholesome eating, consistently succeed in overcoming postpartum depression.
This is a special time for both you and your baby. It’s important to relax and enjoy it. And remember, if your depression continues for more than a few days, please don’t be afraid or ashamed to ask for help. Support is only a phone call away at the National Post Partum Depression Hotline 1-800-PPD-MOMS (773-6667).
Moss Greene makes it easy for you to create buoyant, vibrant health. Learn the simple things that make a big difference in how you look and feel. To receive your free newsletter visit her Health and Fitness Newsletter page.
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Wednesday, October 12, 2005
Ten Tips For Beating Depression - By: Marsha Jordan
A woman was suffering from depression, so her concerned husband took her to a psychiatrist. The doctor listened to the couple talk about their relationship, and then he said, "The treatment I prescribe is really quite simple." With that, he went over to the man's wife, gathered her up in his arms, and gave her a big kiss. He then stepped back and looked at the woman's glowing face and broad smile. Turning to the woman's husband, he said, "See! That's all she needs to put new life back into her." Expressionless, the husband said, "OK, Doc, I can bring her in on Tuesdays and Thursdays."
Okay, that's not how to treat depression, but I have a few other suggestions. As a result of trial and error in battling this illness for over thirty years, I've found ten blues busting strategies that often help me. They are outlined in my book, Hugs, Hope, and Peanut Butter. This compilation of uplifting and often humorous essays was written to encourage anyone dealing with the difficulties of life - and that's EVERY one of us!
The book is illustrated with drawings created by children battling cancer and other life-threatening conditions. Proceeds from the sale of books will benefit these kids.
Enjoy the healing power of laughter, help sick children, and be uplifted with this heart-warming book that combines the serious with the zany. I share my own life experiences and the lessons they've taught me. You will come away with stronger faith, more hope, and a new perspective on problems. This is a book you will want to keep by your bed side, so dust off that night stand and order your copy along with one for a friend.
Email hugsandhope@gmail.com
About the Author: Marsha Jordan is a disabled grandmother who founded a nonprofit charity to help put smiles on the faces of sick children. Learn more about Marsha, her organization, and her book at http://www.hugsandhope.org
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Handling Severe Depression - By Mark Myhre
Copyright 2005 Mark Myhre
As long as I live, I'll never forget the feeling of my mouth wrapped around the cold blue steel of the 6 ½ in. barrel of my Ruger Blackhawk .357 single action revolver.
I was so close to pulling the trigger. And nobody ever knew.
It seemed like I could turn on the 'manic' phase at will - and be as friendly and outgoing and talkative as the situation required. But as soon as I was alone again, I'd start sinking down, down, down.
Those days are long gone - and I doubt they're ever coming back. I've found too many tools I can use to feel better. (Mostly because I learned the value of embracing and releasing my emotions!)
But what do you do - when the argument to kill yourself becomes too strong? ...and a little too logical?
"Hey - I gave it my best shot. I tried. God knows I tried. But I failed. This pain will never end. C'mon Mark - you know that. Nothing could be worse than these feelings. You know you'll be doing the world a favor. Go ahead. Get it over with. Do it now..."
You hear that stuff in your head and you start believing it.
When you're in that place of total despair - your options become quite limited.
One option involves taking antidepressants. And under those circumstances - who could blame you?
In my opinion, this may perhaps be the only real situation where taking a depression medication truly qualifies as an appropriate response. Especially if you can't do the second option.
The second option involves understanding the many different emotional levels, and "working your way up the ladder". Climbing up from where you are now, to a different emotional state that feels better.
All emotions exists on a scale, from the most positively expansive down to the most negatively constrictive.
Most of the time, we feel stuck on whatever level we're at - especially when we're on the lower end of the scale.
True depression - along with the thoughts and feelings it generates - lies at the very bottom of this scale. Nothing is worse than severe depression. It's the lowest level of all possible emotional states.
See, when you're truly crushed by depression - you're not likely to just snap out of it and feel wonderful. At best, you'll usually fake it for a short time by going into manic behavior, and then end up right where you started from.
But if you can correctly identify where you're at right now - emotionally speaking - then you have a starting point with which to work. And once you have a starting point, then you can reach and stretch for the best possible thoughts and feelings available to you.
Loneliness is one step up from the crushing weight of depression. When you've reached the total despair of hopelessness and depression - even feeling painfully lonely is a step in the right direction.
Beyond that lies hate and rage. Being consumed with hate is two steps up from depression. Much better to feel hate than to feel depression.
Am I telling you to feel hate?
Yes, if you're currently lonely or depressed, definitely reach for your hate. Not to stay there, but as one step on the emotional ladder.
There's a lot of passion in hate.
If you're *not* lonely, depressed, hopeless, empty or hollow - then don't go for hate!
The goal is to always reach for a better feeling state.
It starts with knowing where you're at right now. It starts with awareness of what you're thinking and feeling.
If you will take a sheet of paper and write out all your thoughts -
and then take another sheet and write down all your feelings -
...you will begin to find your hope. And a tiny bit of your power.
"Going through" your emotions strengthens you. And one way to start going through your emotions is to write them down.
Go through your emotions. You could imagine yourself walking through a minefield or a battlefield, if that's what it takes. Embrace your emotions by walking into them. Release your emotions by walking out the other side. That's one way to embrace and release your emotions.
Anytime you embrace and release your thoughts and feelings - you'll find yourself a tiny bit stronger.
If you're depressed - write it out. Then FEEL what you've written. Then you can reach for loneliness.
If you're lonely, do the same with *those* thoughts and feelings, so you can reach for hate. Not to stay there, but as one step up the ladder.
(See the full list at http://www.emotional-times.com/blog.html)
The key is to STOP AVOIDING those horrible feelings. Instead, go *into* them and out the other side.
That's how you climb the ladder and start feeling better.
About the Author:
Mark Ivar Myhre, The Emotional Healing Wizard, offers unique cutting-edge emotional healing tips, techniques and secrets that teach you how to deal with depression, stress, anxiety, and much more. ==> http://www.join-the-fun.com
As long as I live, I'll never forget the feeling of my mouth wrapped around the cold blue steel of the 6 ½ in. barrel of my Ruger Blackhawk .357 single action revolver.
I was so close to pulling the trigger. And nobody ever knew.
It seemed like I could turn on the 'manic' phase at will - and be as friendly and outgoing and talkative as the situation required. But as soon as I was alone again, I'd start sinking down, down, down.
Those days are long gone - and I doubt they're ever coming back. I've found too many tools I can use to feel better. (Mostly because I learned the value of embracing and releasing my emotions!)
But what do you do - when the argument to kill yourself becomes too strong? ...and a little too logical?
"Hey - I gave it my best shot. I tried. God knows I tried. But I failed. This pain will never end. C'mon Mark - you know that. Nothing could be worse than these feelings. You know you'll be doing the world a favor. Go ahead. Get it over with. Do it now..."
You hear that stuff in your head and you start believing it.
When you're in that place of total despair - your options become quite limited.
One option involves taking antidepressants. And under those circumstances - who could blame you?
In my opinion, this may perhaps be the only real situation where taking a depression medication truly qualifies as an appropriate response. Especially if you can't do the second option.
The second option involves understanding the many different emotional levels, and "working your way up the ladder". Climbing up from where you are now, to a different emotional state that feels better.
All emotions exists on a scale, from the most positively expansive down to the most negatively constrictive.
Most of the time, we feel stuck on whatever level we're at - especially when we're on the lower end of the scale.
True depression - along with the thoughts and feelings it generates - lies at the very bottom of this scale. Nothing is worse than severe depression. It's the lowest level of all possible emotional states.
See, when you're truly crushed by depression - you're not likely to just snap out of it and feel wonderful. At best, you'll usually fake it for a short time by going into manic behavior, and then end up right where you started from.
But if you can correctly identify where you're at right now - emotionally speaking - then you have a starting point with which to work. And once you have a starting point, then you can reach and stretch for the best possible thoughts and feelings available to you.
Loneliness is one step up from the crushing weight of depression. When you've reached the total despair of hopelessness and depression - even feeling painfully lonely is a step in the right direction.
Beyond that lies hate and rage. Being consumed with hate is two steps up from depression. Much better to feel hate than to feel depression.
Am I telling you to feel hate?
Yes, if you're currently lonely or depressed, definitely reach for your hate. Not to stay there, but as one step on the emotional ladder.
There's a lot of passion in hate.
If you're *not* lonely, depressed, hopeless, empty or hollow - then don't go for hate!
The goal is to always reach for a better feeling state.
It starts with knowing where you're at right now. It starts with awareness of what you're thinking and feeling.
If you will take a sheet of paper and write out all your thoughts -
and then take another sheet and write down all your feelings -
...you will begin to find your hope. And a tiny bit of your power.
"Going through" your emotions strengthens you. And one way to start going through your emotions is to write them down.
Go through your emotions. You could imagine yourself walking through a minefield or a battlefield, if that's what it takes. Embrace your emotions by walking into them. Release your emotions by walking out the other side. That's one way to embrace and release your emotions.
Anytime you embrace and release your thoughts and feelings - you'll find yourself a tiny bit stronger.
If you're depressed - write it out. Then FEEL what you've written. Then you can reach for loneliness.
If you're lonely, do the same with *those* thoughts and feelings, so you can reach for hate. Not to stay there, but as one step up the ladder.
(See the full list at http://www.emotional-times.com/blog.html)
The key is to STOP AVOIDING those horrible feelings. Instead, go *into* them and out the other side.
That's how you climb the ladder and start feeling better.
About the Author:
Mark Ivar Myhre, The Emotional Healing Wizard, offers unique cutting-edge emotional healing tips, techniques and secrets that teach you how to deal with depression, stress, anxiety, and much more. ==> http://www.join-the-fun.com
Tuesday, October 11, 2005
First Thing You Should Do to Get Out of Depression - By Willie Krut
Depression, in psychiatry, is a symptom of mood disorder characterized by intense feelings of loss, sadness, hopelessness, failure, and rejection. The two major types of mood disorder are unipolar disorder, also called major depression, and bipolar disorder, whose sufferers are termed manic-depressive.
Here are few suggestions to get the better of the depressed mood and get the most happiness out of your daily activities.
Take a Break.
I mean it.
Listen to soothing music. Soak in a nice warm bath. Ask one of your close friends to massage you. Take a break from your stressful workload and spend the day just goofing around. In other words, have fun.
Eat Right and Stay Fit.
Avoid foods with lots of sugar, caffeine, or alcohol. Sugar and caffeine may give you a brief moment of energy; but they would later bring about anxiety, tension, and internal problems. Alcohol is a depressant. Many people would drink alcohol to "forget their problems." They're just aggravating their conditions in the process.
Exercising regularly is a vital depression buster because it allows your body to produce more endorphins than usual. Endorphins are sometimes called "the happy chemicals" because of their stress-reducing and happiness-inducing properties.
Get Enough Light and Sunshine.
Lack of exposure to sunlight is responsible for the secretion of the hormone melatonin, which could trigger a dispirited mood and a lethargic condition.
Melatonin is only produced in the dark. It lowers the body temperature and makes you feel sluggish. If you are always cooped up in your room (with the curtains closed), it would be difficult to restrain yourself from staying in bed.
This is the reason why many people are suffering from depression much more often in winter than in the other seasons. It's because the nights are longer.
If you can't afford to get some sunshine, you can always lighten up your room with brighter lights. Have lunch outside the office. Take frequent walks instead of driving your car over short distances.
Get Busy. Get Inspired.
You'll be more likely to overcome any feeling of depression if you are too busy to notice it. Live a life full of inspired activities.
Do the things you love. If you're a little short on cash, you could engage in simple stuffs like taking a leisurely stroll in the park, playing sports, reading books, or engaging in any activity that you have passion for and would love to pursue.
Set a goal - a meaningful purpose in life. No matter how difficult or discouraging life can be, remain firm and have an unshakable belief that you are capable of doing anything you desire. With this kind of positive attitude, you will attain a cheerful disposition to beat the blues.
Get a Social Life.
No man is an island. Your circle of friends are there to give you moral support. Spending time and engaging in worthwhile activities with them could give you a very satisfying feeling. Nothing feels better than having group support.
Never underestimate the power of touch. Doesn't it feel so good when someone pats you on the back and gives you words of encouragement during your most challenging times? Hug or embrace someone today. You'll never know when you have saved another life.
Get intimate. Establish close ties with your family and friends. The love and care expressed by others could tremendously boost your immune system and fend off illnesses. Best of all, you'll live a more secured and happy life.
Learn more how to manage and conquer your depression, please visit the http://www.welcome-to-self-improvement.com site.
Willie Krut is the core provider of a selection of self help products that truly help people to improve their life, health and career. Subscribe to the free Willie's Newsletter, visit the http://www.welcome-to-self-improvement.com site.
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A Look at the Different Depression and Anxiety Medications - By Charles Donovan
While it may be easy to recite the various brand names and generalize their benefits enough to know they put us (or are supposed to put us) in a better mood, for lack of a better term, the drugs themselves can all be categorized individually, each working in a slightly different way.
The following is a list and very brief description, by category, of depression and anxiety medications currently prescribed by physicians.
Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors (SSRIs)
SSRIs, which are fairly new to the arsenal of depression and anxiety medications, have gained immense popularity among prescribing psychiatrists within the past 10 years. They are usually prescribed during the early stages of depression, if a person has sought help and behavioral and/or psychotherapy has not proven effective enough. With appropriate dosage, SSRIs can "catch" depression before it becomes severe. Although they do not work for 20% to 40% of people who try them, their ability to work for people with minor (and even major) depressive illnesses makes them attractive enough to prescribing psychiatrists to try them first before moving on to more serious depression and anxiety medications and methods, if need be. SSRIs work on serotonin, one of the brain's three neurotransmitters.
SSRIs Brand name (chemical name)
Celexa (citalopram), Lexapro (escitalopram oxalate), Luvox (fluvoxamine), Paxil (paroxetine), Prozac (fluoxetine), Zoloft (sertraline)
Monoamine Oxidase Inhibitors (MOAIs)
MAOIs are the type of depression and anxiety medications that work for people who are mildly depressed, develop mild depression over a long period of time, are overly sensitive to their environment, or who are easily able to emerge from periods of depression. People who demonstrate an excess of a particular activity (ie, overeating, oversleeping, emotional overreaction) as compensation with stress can benefit from MAOIs, which work on the three neurotransmitters (called monoamines) found in the brain: norepinephrine, serotonin, and dopamine. These are usually only prescribed when a person hasn't responded to any of the other types of depression and anxiety medications.
A strict diet must be followed if taking an MAOI, because in conjunction with certain foods, the body can react with elevated blood pressure, headaches, fluctuating blood sugar (for people with diabetes), and in more severe cases, brain hemorrhage. Because of these risks, MAOIs were taken off the American market for a while, but were reintroduced for patients who haven't had luck with any other depression and anxiety medications.
MAOIs Brand name (chemical name)
Nardil (phenelzine), Parnate (tranylcypromine)
Tricyclic Antidepressants (TCAs)
Tricyclics have been available longer than any other depression and anxiety medications. In 1958, the first tricyclic, imipramine (Tofranil), was released to help combat major depression, and physicians saw a 70% positive response within their patients. Previously the only treatments for severely depressed patients were amphetamines and electroshock therapy. TCAs increase the brain's supply of serotonin and norepinephrine, two of the brain's three neurotransmitters, but it also affects some of the brain's other nerve impulses as well, and this allows for more side effects.
Severely depressed and/or hospitalized patients see the most benefit from taking TCAs because of its sedative effect. In the past, patients were usually prescribed tricyclics before anything else, but with the movement of psychiatrists (and patients!) toward heading off depression before it becomes severe and/or chronic, TCAs are now usually only prescribed if the other types of depression and anxiety medications don't work.
TCAs Brand name (chemical name)
Adapin (doxepin), Anafranil (clomipramine) , Elavil (amitriptyline), Endep (amitriptyline), Ludiomil (maprotiline), Norpramin (desipramine) , Pamelor (nortryptyline), Pertofrane (desipramine), Sinequan (doxepin), Surmontil (trimipramine), Tofranil (imipramine), Vivactil (protriptyline)
Non-specified or "Other" depression and anxiety medications Because their chemical make-ups do not fit into any of the other categories, the following list of depression and anxiety medications can only be termed as "other." Wellbutrin, Desyrel, Remeron, and Effexor are prescribed most. Each of the four drugs affects at least one of the brain's three neurotransmitters (norepinephrine, serotonin, dopamine), and as a result, each has its own particular set of side effects. As a result, psychiatrists are much more likely to prescribe one of the other types of depression and anxiety medications (SSRIs, MAOIs, TCAs) before switching to one of these. In some instances, a patient's regimen is augmented by combining an SSRI or TCA with an"other" depression and anxiety medications, but because of an MAOI's particular chemical make-up and dietary requirements, it is prescribed alone.
Brand names (chemical names) of Non-specified depression and anxiety medications
Buspar (buspirone), Cymbalta (duloxetine), Desyrel (trazodone) , Effexor (venlafaxine), Edronax, Vestra (reboxetine), Remeron (mirtazapine), Serzone (nefazodone), Wellbutrin (bupropion).
In August of 2004, the FDA approved the investigational drug Cymbaltaâ„¢ (duloxetine HCl), which demonstrated rapid relief of anxiety symptoms associated with depression that was sustained for the length of the study period, according to new data published in the journal Depression and Anxiety. In clinical studies, researchers attribute the medication's effect on a broad spectrum of depression symptoms, which include emotional and painful physical symptoms as well as anxiety, to its dual reuptake inhibition of both serotonin and norepinephrine.
Learn more about treating depression at http://www.e-mentalhealth.com
Charles E. Donovan
Author
Out of the Black Hole: The Patient's Guide to Vagus Nerve Stimulation and Depression (You can purchase a copy of this book on the right)
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The following is a list and very brief description, by category, of depression and anxiety medications currently prescribed by physicians.
Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors (SSRIs)
SSRIs, which are fairly new to the arsenal of depression and anxiety medications, have gained immense popularity among prescribing psychiatrists within the past 10 years. They are usually prescribed during the early stages of depression, if a person has sought help and behavioral and/or psychotherapy has not proven effective enough. With appropriate dosage, SSRIs can "catch" depression before it becomes severe. Although they do not work for 20% to 40% of people who try them, their ability to work for people with minor (and even major) depressive illnesses makes them attractive enough to prescribing psychiatrists to try them first before moving on to more serious depression and anxiety medications and methods, if need be. SSRIs work on serotonin, one of the brain's three neurotransmitters.
SSRIs Brand name (chemical name)
Celexa (citalopram), Lexapro (escitalopram oxalate), Luvox (fluvoxamine), Paxil (paroxetine), Prozac (fluoxetine), Zoloft (sertraline)
Monoamine Oxidase Inhibitors (MOAIs)
MAOIs are the type of depression and anxiety medications that work for people who are mildly depressed, develop mild depression over a long period of time, are overly sensitive to their environment, or who are easily able to emerge from periods of depression. People who demonstrate an excess of a particular activity (ie, overeating, oversleeping, emotional overreaction) as compensation with stress can benefit from MAOIs, which work on the three neurotransmitters (called monoamines) found in the brain: norepinephrine, serotonin, and dopamine. These are usually only prescribed when a person hasn't responded to any of the other types of depression and anxiety medications.
A strict diet must be followed if taking an MAOI, because in conjunction with certain foods, the body can react with elevated blood pressure, headaches, fluctuating blood sugar (for people with diabetes), and in more severe cases, brain hemorrhage. Because of these risks, MAOIs were taken off the American market for a while, but were reintroduced for patients who haven't had luck with any other depression and anxiety medications.
MAOIs Brand name (chemical name)
Nardil (phenelzine), Parnate (tranylcypromine)
Tricyclic Antidepressants (TCAs)
Tricyclics have been available longer than any other depression and anxiety medications. In 1958, the first tricyclic, imipramine (Tofranil), was released to help combat major depression, and physicians saw a 70% positive response within their patients. Previously the only treatments for severely depressed patients were amphetamines and electroshock therapy. TCAs increase the brain's supply of serotonin and norepinephrine, two of the brain's three neurotransmitters, but it also affects some of the brain's other nerve impulses as well, and this allows for more side effects.
Severely depressed and/or hospitalized patients see the most benefit from taking TCAs because of its sedative effect. In the past, patients were usually prescribed tricyclics before anything else, but with the movement of psychiatrists (and patients!) toward heading off depression before it becomes severe and/or chronic, TCAs are now usually only prescribed if the other types of depression and anxiety medications don't work.
TCAs Brand name (chemical name)
Adapin (doxepin), Anafranil (clomipramine) , Elavil (amitriptyline), Endep (amitriptyline), Ludiomil (maprotiline), Norpramin (desipramine) , Pamelor (nortryptyline), Pertofrane (desipramine), Sinequan (doxepin), Surmontil (trimipramine), Tofranil (imipramine), Vivactil (protriptyline)
Non-specified or "Other" depression and anxiety medications Because their chemical make-ups do not fit into any of the other categories, the following list of depression and anxiety medications can only be termed as "other." Wellbutrin, Desyrel, Remeron, and Effexor are prescribed most. Each of the four drugs affects at least one of the brain's three neurotransmitters (norepinephrine, serotonin, dopamine), and as a result, each has its own particular set of side effects. As a result, psychiatrists are much more likely to prescribe one of the other types of depression and anxiety medications (SSRIs, MAOIs, TCAs) before switching to one of these. In some instances, a patient's regimen is augmented by combining an SSRI or TCA with an"other" depression and anxiety medications, but because of an MAOI's particular chemical make-up and dietary requirements, it is prescribed alone.
Brand names (chemical names) of Non-specified depression and anxiety medications
Buspar (buspirone), Cymbalta (duloxetine), Desyrel (trazodone) , Effexor (venlafaxine), Edronax, Vestra (reboxetine), Remeron (mirtazapine), Serzone (nefazodone), Wellbutrin (bupropion).
In August of 2004, the FDA approved the investigational drug Cymbaltaâ„¢ (duloxetine HCl), which demonstrated rapid relief of anxiety symptoms associated with depression that was sustained for the length of the study period, according to new data published in the journal Depression and Anxiety. In clinical studies, researchers attribute the medication's effect on a broad spectrum of depression symptoms, which include emotional and painful physical symptoms as well as anxiety, to its dual reuptake inhibition of both serotonin and norepinephrine.
Learn more about treating depression at http://www.e-mentalhealth.com
Charles E. Donovan
Author
Out of the Black Hole: The Patient's Guide to Vagus Nerve Stimulation and Depression (You can purchase a copy of this book on the right)
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