A married woman becomes a single woman for one of two reasons: death or divorce. The former is an honourable state, the latter is not.
When a woman loses her husband to death the neighbours all rally round and provide meals and any help they can give with regard to household repairs or cleaning or anything that is needed. They are willing to provide comfort and a shoulder to cry on. They are available for the widow and they include her in their activities, feeling sorry for her that she is now so alone.
However, things are quite different when a marriage ends due to infidelity or marital breakdown. That immediately plunges a woman into a new category. She is transformed, instantaneously it seems,from a married woman to a divorcee. Becoming one of many, part of a group of used and discarded women, seen as suspect by all those who are still safely ensconced in the womb of their marriage.
People tend to withdraw from her. Invitations to get togethers cease. It appears that women think their husbands might be attracted to the idea of an “available woman” and so the women who used to be friends withdraw and leave her alone with her tears and her fears. There are no meals prepared and no offers of help. Husbands are kept at home just in case, for such is the image portrayed of a divorcee. The husbands might not be safe. She might cause the destruction of other marriages.
We read jokes all the time about the lonely divorcee who invites the mailman, the milkman, or the Maytag repairman into her home with the intent of seducing him. (A joke made up, I am sure, by a man who has never known the humiliation and pain of being a divorcee.) Perhaps she even seduces them one right after the other, for such is the life of the “gay divorcee”, isn’t it? Freed from the bonds of marriage, with unmet needs and desires, divorcees are wanting to fill the void; or at least that is the popular image. And so in place of invitations to parties or neighbourhood barbeques which were formerly were issued to the couple and their family, there is an empty mailbox, and the phone stays quiet. She checks it every now and then to make sure it is still working.
The divorcee begins to feel as though she no longer exists; as if, because she is no longer half of a relationship, she ceases to be a part of the neighbourhood. Women who used to call her friend no longer call. Her children are not invited to play with the neighbours’ children. Perhaps the women feel they would be contaminated by the disease of divorce, as if it were a virus that could be caught, or maybe they just don’t know how to talk to a newly divorced woman. A divorced man, on the other hand, is often seen as more eligible and is a welcome addition to many parties. His social life may increase, and because he usually does not have the children, his disposable income is often enough to keep him comfortably.
However, life goes on. The bills still have to be paid, the kids still have to be fed and they have to be clothed. Family chores that were done by two are now done by one. If the children are old enough, they can chip in and help with the household duties such as dishes and meal preparation and housecleaning. Because of the reduction in income, the divorcee is often forced to seek employment and then she has two jobs; one inside and one outside the home.
Sometimes the inside life doesn’t change much. For those who had husbands who simply went to work and came home at night expecting to be waited on, their workload is reduced by one person, so this can be a blessing. But the availability of a backup when she is really tired and the kids are really obnoxious is a problem. She has to deal with all the problems, tired or not.
Because she has been ostracized by her neighbours she seeks out other divorcees for companionship, often building relationships and forming deep bonds that last for years as they share the day to day problems and achievements. They get together with their kids and pool their resources for family dinners. They support each other in job searches, in the handling of problems, in the fights with their exes. They listen to each other and care for each other’s children.
Sometimes, because of the great reduction in income, divorcees are forced to apply for an allowance from the provincial government. This is known as welfare or Mother’s Allowance. There they are told that they have no right to have a phone or a car, or any of the things they consider necessities but the government considers luxuries, such as a heating bill over the allotted amount. Widows, on the other hand, usually receive a pension from their husband’s estate which they can spend however they want, with no rules. The divorcees are told to sell the car and get rid of the phone, even if they are out in the country. If they have a house, they might have to give it up and move the children to a new area. Sometimes, in order to survive, they may use credit cards to buy the things they feel they need for their kids for school and other activities. They may not be able to send their kids on school trips or buy the clothes that the kids need to fit in and so their kids may be ridiculed because of the way they dress. When the kids come home crying, they often feel guilty and wonder if they couldn’t have worked things out better with their ex-husbands. They cry but try to hide the tears from their children, not wanting to upset them.
When the divorcee ventures into the realms of the full-time employee instead of part-time, she must find a babysitter for her kids, arrange everyone’s schedule and settle into her new lifestyle. She tries to find a boss who is willing to let her attend the various special events at her children’s school and cries silently to herself when she is unable to attend a day graduation due to work, or when she is unable to see her children receive sports awards, but she knows that she is doing the best she can. She attends what she can in the evenings and on weekends and hopes it is enough.
As the divorcee settles into life on her own, she may begin to find advantages such as being able to go where she wants, when she wants and with whom she wants. She has only to consider herself, and her kids, if she has any. Eventually the heartaches will ease a little and the divorcee will reach out to others a little more, perhaps even being willing to take the risk of dating another man.
Her circumstances may not have changed a lot. She still struggles to pay bills, to provide for her kids, yet she finds her life is full. Not the rumoured life of the gay divorcee, replete with men or with parties and wild living, but one of love for her kids, and perhaps of studying for a degree while working in a fulfilling career where helping others. She has weathered the storms of life and feels that she has come out on top. Her children move on to their own homes and to employment. Perhaps her eldest has his dream job, that of webmaster and service technician. Another may become the youngest Inventory Control Manager and the only female one in Eastern Ontario for a large soft drink company. Another, with a child of her own, may work part-time and plan to return to school to take an Esthetics course. Her children could be very involved in hockey, perhaps playing at the AA level or Junior A level which requires a lot of travelling and sacrifice of personal time. But to her it is all worth it to watch her child score the winning goal and to see the smile on his face as he turns from the net. Her heart swells with pride as his teammates congratulate him and the parents lean over to say how well he played.
Yes, life continues after divorce, the pain and heartache suffered in the beginning eventually fade somewhat and the divorcee finds the strength to survive and, more than that, to move on to whatever the future has in store.
For more poetry and stories you can go to Fran's webpage http://www.franwatson.ca
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Sunday, November 13, 2005
Saturday, November 12, 2005
Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!!
I just wanted to Thank all of you who have taken the time to post your kind comments to me regarding my blog and the articles I post. I do a lot of research and try to find the most helpful articles so that others who are suffering from this terrible illness can find comfort and hope.
I have several close family members and even a few friends who suffer from Depression and are getting help. I find that Depression is, in many cases, an ongoing illness that has to be treated. Twice in my life I have come extremely close to losing a loved one to suicide, one of them was very recent. I too, earlier in my life, had bouts of depression. I even went as far as to hold the pills in my hand that I was going to take to 'end it all' as they say. I'm very glad that God helped me and gave me the strength and courage to look at the good things in my life and not end it. I have come to realize that I actually am loved by some people out there and worth more than I'll ever know.
It warms my heart that this blog has accomplished what I set out to do. I wanted to help people suffer from Depression and it seems, by the comments I've received, that I have. So all my hard work and research is not in vain or for nothing.
So once again, Thank you, Thank you, Thank you, for all the nice comments. Please feel free to visit as often as you like. I will continue my research and continue to look for helpful articles. I love hearing from you all, so I welcome all you comments.
To Your Health and Happiness,
Anna
I have several close family members and even a few friends who suffer from Depression and are getting help. I find that Depression is, in many cases, an ongoing illness that has to be treated. Twice in my life I have come extremely close to losing a loved one to suicide, one of them was very recent. I too, earlier in my life, had bouts of depression. I even went as far as to hold the pills in my hand that I was going to take to 'end it all' as they say. I'm very glad that God helped me and gave me the strength and courage to look at the good things in my life and not end it. I have come to realize that I actually am loved by some people out there and worth more than I'll ever know.
It warms my heart that this blog has accomplished what I set out to do. I wanted to help people suffer from Depression and it seems, by the comments I've received, that I have. So all my hard work and research is not in vain or for nothing.
So once again, Thank you, Thank you, Thank you, for all the nice comments. Please feel free to visit as often as you like. I will continue my research and continue to look for helpful articles. I love hearing from you all, so I welcome all you comments.
To Your Health and Happiness,
Anna
Identifying Depression: What To Do If A Loved One Is Suffering - By Michelle Rabin, Ph.D.
Depression can take on many faces depending upon the person, their age, and their gender. Overall, the best thing to be aware of is a significant change in activity or behavior.
Depression In Teens
Depression in teenagers can be difficult to identify, as their mood cycles are traditionally erratic. In general, females tend to suffer from depression more than males, but don’t overlook a young male whose behavior has changed. Again, the things to look out for are marked changes in behavior. If the teen tends to be social and there’s been a significant reduction in their social activities, than that might be an indication that he or she is depressed. Is the phone ringing a lot less? Have they become more withdrawn from the family? Are they sleeping excessively but still seeming to be tired a lot? It’s also not unusual for them to be especially irritable and cranky. Tearfulness is yet another sign. Grades in school often decline as the teen becomes more distracted and less attentive.
Drug use is also a concern for teens that are depressed—as it is for anyone suffering from this problem—because people often medicate their depression with alcohol and /or drugs to try to feel better.
Depression in Adults
Adults tend to hide their depression a little better than kids. They’ve learned how to put a mask on and act as if everything is fine, even when it is not. Appetite is often a strong indicator. The loss of appetite is most common, however there are those who sooth themselves with food so, in that case, you would expect to see a weight gain. Sexual appetite is another variable that is often identified. Depression puts a damper on sexual desire. Essentially when a person stops doing those activities that they used to enjoy, there’s a good chance that depression can be a factor.
Depression In The Elderly
The elderly suffer from depression a lot more than is reported. The older generation still feels a lot of shame and embarrassment about mental illnesses. The harsh reality of the elderly is that their friends are dying on a regular basis. These losses bring up many different feelings, ranging from loneliness and loss to the realization that their time is also limited. Withdrawal is a common sign, as well as weight loss, fatigue and irritability. It is critical to have the elderly evaluated by a competent gerontologist (a doctor who specializes in the older population) to rule out worrisome medical concerns.
Discussing Suicide
When a family member is discovered to be depressed, there is often a reluctance to be direct and straight forward with them. Often people think what if I ask the person if they feel like they want to end their life, and I’ve gotten them thinking about suicide when they hadn’t previously considered it? That will never happen. If a person is severely depressed, they will most likely have given some thought to ending their life. Vague, passing thoughts about suicide are normal for everyone at one time or another. What you need to be worried about is if a person has actually constructed a plan to end their life. Another phenomenon to watch out for is if someone who had been previously very depressed suddenly seems to be fine— happy even—and starts giving their possessions away. Do not be fooled into thinking that this person has made a spontaneous recovery.
So, if someone takes a sudden turn for the better and starts giving things away, or if someone talks to you about having a specific plan to end their life, you MUST take action. These are definitely cases of it being better to err on the side of caution. Let the person know that you are concerned about them, and ask that they speak with a mental health professional. You might offer to get an appointment for them and then take them to the appointment. If they refuse treatment, it is essential that you contact a mental health professional and seek their advice. You can search the internet, the phone book, or call information to get the number for your community mental health center. Most community mental health centers have an emergency clinician on call 24 hours a day to assist in such an emergency. Do not leave the person alone until they’ve been evaluated and it has been determined that they’re able to be left without supervision. People often feel concerned about upsetting the person by pushing for evaluation or treatment. The most important thing here is to prevent a suicide. Even if the person is initially angry, once their depression lifts they will be forever grateful that you intervened on their behalf. Depression is a life threatening illness. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Imagine this….a person feels so miserable that they decide they can’t take feeling this badly for another minute. But the good news is that the vast majority of people suffering from depression will recover and continue to have normal lives. I’ve occasionally had to make deals with my patients. I’ve suggested that they give me 3-6 months to help them feel good again. If I’m unable to help them change their perspective and feel better, then I’ll consider the possibility that suicide is the only remaining option for them. In all of my 25 years of seeing patients, it’s never come to that. Although not everyone has achieved perfect “normalcy” within that time period, the vast majority of people experience a considerable enough improvement to warrant wanting to continue their life.
Don’t be afraid to talk about depression. Don’t be afraid of tears. There is help available for everyone. Most community mental health centers receive state and federal funds so they have the opportunity to provide treatment and no or low cost. Everyone today can find some kind of treatment if they need it.
Dr. Michelle Rabin is a clinial psychologist with 25 years of experience treating depression. More information and depression resources can be found at http://www.depression-symptoms-treatment.com/tagt/depression-treatment-ax.html
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/
Depression In Teens
Depression in teenagers can be difficult to identify, as their mood cycles are traditionally erratic. In general, females tend to suffer from depression more than males, but don’t overlook a young male whose behavior has changed. Again, the things to look out for are marked changes in behavior. If the teen tends to be social and there’s been a significant reduction in their social activities, than that might be an indication that he or she is depressed. Is the phone ringing a lot less? Have they become more withdrawn from the family? Are they sleeping excessively but still seeming to be tired a lot? It’s also not unusual for them to be especially irritable and cranky. Tearfulness is yet another sign. Grades in school often decline as the teen becomes more distracted and less attentive.
Drug use is also a concern for teens that are depressed—as it is for anyone suffering from this problem—because people often medicate their depression with alcohol and /or drugs to try to feel better.
Depression in Adults
Adults tend to hide their depression a little better than kids. They’ve learned how to put a mask on and act as if everything is fine, even when it is not. Appetite is often a strong indicator. The loss of appetite is most common, however there are those who sooth themselves with food so, in that case, you would expect to see a weight gain. Sexual appetite is another variable that is often identified. Depression puts a damper on sexual desire. Essentially when a person stops doing those activities that they used to enjoy, there’s a good chance that depression can be a factor.
Depression In The Elderly
The elderly suffer from depression a lot more than is reported. The older generation still feels a lot of shame and embarrassment about mental illnesses. The harsh reality of the elderly is that their friends are dying on a regular basis. These losses bring up many different feelings, ranging from loneliness and loss to the realization that their time is also limited. Withdrawal is a common sign, as well as weight loss, fatigue and irritability. It is critical to have the elderly evaluated by a competent gerontologist (a doctor who specializes in the older population) to rule out worrisome medical concerns.
Discussing Suicide
When a family member is discovered to be depressed, there is often a reluctance to be direct and straight forward with them. Often people think what if I ask the person if they feel like they want to end their life, and I’ve gotten them thinking about suicide when they hadn’t previously considered it? That will never happen. If a person is severely depressed, they will most likely have given some thought to ending their life. Vague, passing thoughts about suicide are normal for everyone at one time or another. What you need to be worried about is if a person has actually constructed a plan to end their life. Another phenomenon to watch out for is if someone who had been previously very depressed suddenly seems to be fine— happy even—and starts giving their possessions away. Do not be fooled into thinking that this person has made a spontaneous recovery.
So, if someone takes a sudden turn for the better and starts giving things away, or if someone talks to you about having a specific plan to end their life, you MUST take action. These are definitely cases of it being better to err on the side of caution. Let the person know that you are concerned about them, and ask that they speak with a mental health professional. You might offer to get an appointment for them and then take them to the appointment. If they refuse treatment, it is essential that you contact a mental health professional and seek their advice. You can search the internet, the phone book, or call information to get the number for your community mental health center. Most community mental health centers have an emergency clinician on call 24 hours a day to assist in such an emergency. Do not leave the person alone until they’ve been evaluated and it has been determined that they’re able to be left without supervision. People often feel concerned about upsetting the person by pushing for evaluation or treatment. The most important thing here is to prevent a suicide. Even if the person is initially angry, once their depression lifts they will be forever grateful that you intervened on their behalf. Depression is a life threatening illness. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Imagine this….a person feels so miserable that they decide they can’t take feeling this badly for another minute. But the good news is that the vast majority of people suffering from depression will recover and continue to have normal lives. I’ve occasionally had to make deals with my patients. I’ve suggested that they give me 3-6 months to help them feel good again. If I’m unable to help them change their perspective and feel better, then I’ll consider the possibility that suicide is the only remaining option for them. In all of my 25 years of seeing patients, it’s never come to that. Although not everyone has achieved perfect “normalcy” within that time period, the vast majority of people experience a considerable enough improvement to warrant wanting to continue their life.
Don’t be afraid to talk about depression. Don’t be afraid of tears. There is help available for everyone. Most community mental health centers receive state and federal funds so they have the opportunity to provide treatment and no or low cost. Everyone today can find some kind of treatment if they need it.
Dr. Michelle Rabin is a clinial psychologist with 25 years of experience treating depression. More information and depression resources can be found at http://www.depression-symptoms-treatment.com/tagt/depression-treatment-ax.html
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/
Friday, November 11, 2005
Dating Advice: Dealing With Rejection - By Terry Hernon MacDonald
"A rejection is nothing more than a necessary step in the pursuit of success. "
- Bo Bennett
Rejection hurts.
But there came a time in my dating career (shortly after being given the pink slip from a guy I was absolutely crazy about) when it dawned on me that everybody is rejected at one time or another. I read an interview with a massively attractive rock star who talked about getting the heave-ho from a girl he loved, and I thought, "Wow, if even he gets rejected, then perhaps I'm not so bad off after all."
Chances are some guy will tell you, "I think it's time we see other people." And it will probably hurt.
How do you deal with it? Well, you can sit around with a gallon of Haagen Dazs, wondering where you went wrong, why you can't hold a man, why you're fundamentally undesirable. Or you can tell yourself, "Maybe it just wasn't meant to be."
Which is the healthier choice? Hey, you are entitled to your feelings. Rejection stings, but this is the time to love yourself, not berate yourself for being a loser. Wallowing in misery and junk food will only make you, well, miserable. And miserable people are a turn-off.
When some guy informs you that you're not the woman of his dreams, shake his hand and thank him for the memories. Think of it this way: He's not for you. Maybe somebody upstairs is making sure he doesn't move into your life for a reason.
But, if you absolutely must, sit around for a day (two at the very most) with the Haagen Dazs. Be miserable. Feel what you feel. Ask yourself what, if anything, you did to send him away.
Then stop.
Treat yourself like a treasure that has yet to be discovered. Carry yourself like a queen. Banish all thoughts of your former relationship. Smile easily at people wherever you go.
Move on. You'll open yourself up to the lasting relationship you deserve, and to a man who brings you joy and laughter.
Terry Hernon MacDonald is the author of "How to Attract and Marry the Man of Your Dreams." Sign up for her free dating tips at http://www.marrysmart.com . Check out her blog at http://happygirlmusing.blogspot.com .
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/
- Bo Bennett
Rejection hurts.
But there came a time in my dating career (shortly after being given the pink slip from a guy I was absolutely crazy about) when it dawned on me that everybody is rejected at one time or another. I read an interview with a massively attractive rock star who talked about getting the heave-ho from a girl he loved, and I thought, "Wow, if even he gets rejected, then perhaps I'm not so bad off after all."
Chances are some guy will tell you, "I think it's time we see other people." And it will probably hurt.
How do you deal with it? Well, you can sit around with a gallon of Haagen Dazs, wondering where you went wrong, why you can't hold a man, why you're fundamentally undesirable. Or you can tell yourself, "Maybe it just wasn't meant to be."
Which is the healthier choice? Hey, you are entitled to your feelings. Rejection stings, but this is the time to love yourself, not berate yourself for being a loser. Wallowing in misery and junk food will only make you, well, miserable. And miserable people are a turn-off.
When some guy informs you that you're not the woman of his dreams, shake his hand and thank him for the memories. Think of it this way: He's not for you. Maybe somebody upstairs is making sure he doesn't move into your life for a reason.
But, if you absolutely must, sit around for a day (two at the very most) with the Haagen Dazs. Be miserable. Feel what you feel. Ask yourself what, if anything, you did to send him away.
Then stop.
Treat yourself like a treasure that has yet to be discovered. Carry yourself like a queen. Banish all thoughts of your former relationship. Smile easily at people wherever you go.
Move on. You'll open yourself up to the lasting relationship you deserve, and to a man who brings you joy and laughter.
Terry Hernon MacDonald is the author of "How to Attract and Marry the Man of Your Dreams." Sign up for her free dating tips at http://www.marrysmart.com . Check out her blog at http://happygirlmusing.blogspot.com .
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Dealing with the Painful Loss of a Loved One - By Anna Allen
I had to take a friend to the doctor today and as I sit here in the waiting room about to doze off I begin to write this article. By the way, why do waiting rooms in doctor's offices make people sleepy?
OK, let me get back on track. As I'm sitting here, I hear a lady behind me talking of her past depression. She mentions she felt so lonely after her dear husband passed away. In her own words, 'her whole world fell apart.' She said her husband handled everything in their marriage such as the money, bills and auto maintenance. After he passed away she became overwhelmed with all the finances and other responsibilities she now had to deal with, not to mention the fact that she was still mourning the death of her husband.
This conversation got me to thinking of how many people deal with the painful loss of a loved one.
Many times when a loved one passes, those left behind might not immediately feel the effects of that loss. It has not 'hit them' or 'sunk in' yet. Sometimes it takes a while for a person to react to the loss. Some may try to stay strong or hide their feelings in front of others. But when the funeral is over and the family and friends have returned to their homes, the person may break down. It finally sinks in. Some sink into a depression so bad they close themselves off from the rest of the world. They take extra time off from work and even turn down invitations from family and friends.
Isolation and self-pity are never the answer. It's okay to mourn. Even people in Bible times mourned when they lost loved ones in death.
A few examples of this include:
* King David who was grief stricken when his son Absalon died (2Samuel 18:33)
* Abraham bewailed the loss of his dear wife, Sarah (Genesis 23:2)
* Even Jesus himself, who was a perfect man, 'gave way to tears' over the death of his friend Lazarus (John 11:35)
So this shows that there is a sadness when we lose a loved one to death.
Then thing is to not dwell on everything. Keep busy. Get involved in other things such as hobbies. Get you mind off the loss. The memories will always be there but they don't have to be painful.
Another thing that can help you deal with your sorrow is Bible reading. God, being the loving God that he is, helps his people to endure the extreme sadness and grief that comes with bereavement. God's spirit helps us to have peace and faith in the wonderful future promised in his Word the Bible.
The Scriptures refer to God as 'the God of all comfort,' so we can be sure that he will give us the strength we need and not let us be overwhelmed by sad thoughts about our dead loved one.
Knowing all this should help us realize that we are not alone in experiencing the pain of our loss. Others have been through the same thing. In time, the pain will subside. The world is not going to stop for our broken heart. Life will go on. Things WILL get better.
So knowing all of this and the fact that even the perfect man Jesus went through this as well, should help us to deal with the painful loss of a loved one.
OK, let me get back on track. As I'm sitting here, I hear a lady behind me talking of her past depression. She mentions she felt so lonely after her dear husband passed away. In her own words, 'her whole world fell apart.' She said her husband handled everything in their marriage such as the money, bills and auto maintenance. After he passed away she became overwhelmed with all the finances and other responsibilities she now had to deal with, not to mention the fact that she was still mourning the death of her husband.
This conversation got me to thinking of how many people deal with the painful loss of a loved one.
Many times when a loved one passes, those left behind might not immediately feel the effects of that loss. It has not 'hit them' or 'sunk in' yet. Sometimes it takes a while for a person to react to the loss. Some may try to stay strong or hide their feelings in front of others. But when the funeral is over and the family and friends have returned to their homes, the person may break down. It finally sinks in. Some sink into a depression so bad they close themselves off from the rest of the world. They take extra time off from work and even turn down invitations from family and friends.
Isolation and self-pity are never the answer. It's okay to mourn. Even people in Bible times mourned when they lost loved ones in death.
A few examples of this include:
* King David who was grief stricken when his son Absalon died (2Samuel 18:33)
* Abraham bewailed the loss of his dear wife, Sarah (Genesis 23:2)
* Even Jesus himself, who was a perfect man, 'gave way to tears' over the death of his friend Lazarus (John 11:35)
So this shows that there is a sadness when we lose a loved one to death.
Then thing is to not dwell on everything. Keep busy. Get involved in other things such as hobbies. Get you mind off the loss. The memories will always be there but they don't have to be painful.
Another thing that can help you deal with your sorrow is Bible reading. God, being the loving God that he is, helps his people to endure the extreme sadness and grief that comes with bereavement. God's spirit helps us to have peace and faith in the wonderful future promised in his Word the Bible.
The Scriptures refer to God as 'the God of all comfort,' so we can be sure that he will give us the strength we need and not let us be overwhelmed by sad thoughts about our dead loved one.
Knowing all this should help us realize that we are not alone in experiencing the pain of our loss. Others have been through the same thing. In time, the pain will subside. The world is not going to stop for our broken heart. Life will go on. Things WILL get better.
So knowing all of this and the fact that even the perfect man Jesus went through this as well, should help us to deal with the painful loss of a loved one.
Thursday, November 10, 2005
The Different Depression Medications Available Today - By Dakota Caudilla
Depression and mental illnesses are extremely common in the world that we live in today. In every 5 American adults, at least 1 of them is suffering from either depression or mild mental illness in any given 6 months’ period. However, a point to note…the National Institute of Mental Health reveals that although there are a lot of people who are suffering from depression and mental illness today, 90% of these cases can get treatment and their condition is often reversible. With proper medication, people suffering from depression and mental illness will improve over time.
Abilify (aripiprazole) is a psychotropic drug that helps treat schizophrenia. Abilify is available in tablet form for oral administration. Abilify not only helps treat depression and mild mental illness, it is suitable for people with bipolar mania.
In the meantime, BuSpar (buspirone hydrochloride) is kind of medication for people who are easily anxious. Yes, BuSpar is a form of antianxiety drug containing anxiolytic properties, belonging to class of compounds known as the azaspirodecanediones.
Amitriptyline (Elavil) is an antidepressant that many people rely on in the United States alone. This antidepressant is very useful in treating depression and sometimes helps towards eliminating chronic pain and other conditions too. As for what other types of conditions, this would have to prescribed and determined by your doctor. Amitriptyline has a very sedative effect on its users, therefore, a popular antidepressant drug.
Amoxapine (Asendin) is known as a tricyclic antidepressant. A tricyclic antidepressant means that it is a cocktail of drugs that are safe and effective for up to 80% of the people with depression. Prescription of tricyclic antidepressants like Amoxapine is common because it helps people beat the feeling of fatigue, feeling of hopelessness, guilt, helplessness, inability to feel pleasure or physical pain, unintended weight loss, etc.
On the other hand, MAO inhibitors are prescribed for people who find tricyclic antidepressants unhelpful. For these people, they often feel anxiety, excessive sleepiness and fatigue, specific phobia, obsessive-compulsiveness, etc. There has been progressive developments over the years to develop more effective drugs to help those who found the aforementioned medication not helpful. Newer antidepressant such as the serotonin reuptake inhibitors have recently been made available to public. And even as you’re reading this article, newer antidepressant drugs are being researched on and being developed to help people with depression and mental sickness. The newer drugs can help those who are not responsive to traditionally prescribed antidepressant drugs or experience adverse side effects when they take the prescriptions.
With so many plans and research being made and done on coming up with faster and more efficient antidepressant drugs, we no longer have to think that being depressed is an illness that we have to be ashamed about.
Dakota Caudilla, journalist, and website builder Dakota Caudilla lives in Texas. He is the owner and co-editor of http://www.health-detective.net on which you will find a longer, more detailed version of this article.
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Wednesday, November 09, 2005
Don't Under Estimate Depression - by Sandy Baker
Depression is something that is often found in the people that you love the most and never thought could be dealing with. It is something that can rip at the very seams of individuals. It is not just a phase. It is not just something that will go away. It is life and death and dealing with all that has to go with it.
Many people face terrible crisis in their lives and deal with it. Others can not deal so well with even the simplest of things. What happens to many people in either of these cases is that they can fall under a depression. As a loved one looking on, it is important that you recognize the possible signs and do something about it. Waiting too long could be risking their lives.
In most cases, depression can be recognized by a series of symptoms such as:
* Mood swings that are not characteristic.
* Anger that is unfounded. Being overly angry about something that seems simple.
* Frustration throughout even the simplest of tasks.
* Feelings of being worthless, unworthy and unloved are also signs.
But, the hardest part is realizing that these things may be there yet may be hidden. In many cases, those suffering from depression will talk and tell you what is happening. But, it may not seem like what they are telling you is the full story. Instead, they may say that they are overwhelmed, tired and just too busy to deal with things. In fact, they are in serious trouble and don't know how to tell anyone they need help.
Recognizing depression is something that anyone that loves someone should be looking out for. Helping them is what your job and responsibility is. Don't underestimate depression. Get the help that they need before it is too late.
About the Author
Sandy Baker is a well respected writer and recommends visiting bipolar disorder, so you can empower yourself and be of postive support to those suffering from depression.
Many people face terrible crisis in their lives and deal with it. Others can not deal so well with even the simplest of things. What happens to many people in either of these cases is that they can fall under a depression. As a loved one looking on, it is important that you recognize the possible signs and do something about it. Waiting too long could be risking their lives.
In most cases, depression can be recognized by a series of symptoms such as:
* Mood swings that are not characteristic.
* Anger that is unfounded. Being overly angry about something that seems simple.
* Frustration throughout even the simplest of tasks.
* Feelings of being worthless, unworthy and unloved are also signs.
But, the hardest part is realizing that these things may be there yet may be hidden. In many cases, those suffering from depression will talk and tell you what is happening. But, it may not seem like what they are telling you is the full story. Instead, they may say that they are overwhelmed, tired and just too busy to deal with things. In fact, they are in serious trouble and don't know how to tell anyone they need help.
Recognizing depression is something that anyone that loves someone should be looking out for. Helping them is what your job and responsibility is. Don't underestimate depression. Get the help that they need before it is too late.
About the Author
Sandy Baker is a well respected writer and recommends visiting bipolar disorder, so you can empower yourself and be of postive support to those suffering from depression.
Tuesday, November 08, 2005
Depression and suicidal ideation in elderly persons - by Caroline Wellbery, M.D.
The Prevention of Suicide in Primary Care Elderly: Collaborative Trial (PROSPECT) evaluated the impact of primary care interventions on reducing major risk factors for suicide in elderly persons. Depression is one such risk factor. Depression in later life frequently remains improperly diagnosed in primary care and often is treated inadequately. Pharmacotherapy commonly is used in insufficient dosages, and both patients and physicians may stop therapy prematurely. Bruce and colleagues report on results from the PROSPECT study.
Patients were randomized to depression treatment intervention versus usual care and followed at regular intervals for suicidal ideation, depressive symptoms, and remission rates in depressive symptoms. Practice-based depression care managers helped physicians identify depressed patients and provided patients with information on the treatment and monitoring of depression.
Depressed patients in the intervention group were given citalopram or offered psychotherapy if they declined medication. Both interventions were paid for with research funds. In the usual-care group, a minimum enhancement was provided: physicians were notified when patients met the criteria for depression and received information on treatment guidelines.
The investigators randomized patients by practice, recruiting in an age-stratified method participants age 60 to 74 and 75 years and older. Patients completed a Centers for Epidemiologic Studies Depression scale (CES-D), and patients with a CES-D score higher than 20 were eligible to participate. An additional 5 percent sample was included for comparison, as were some patients scoring 20 and below who might have had a false-negative screening result and who were identified as possibly depressed by supplemental questioning. Patients were assessed by telephone at four and eight months and had an in-person interview at 12 months. A total of 1,238 eligible patients agreed to a baseline interview; 598 patients who met the criteria for major or minor depression were selected to participate, as well as 47 patients who were selected randomly and 109 who were diagnosed with depression by supplemental questioning.
Patients in the intervention group were significantly more likely than those in the usual-care group to receive treatment at each follow-up visit. Patients in the intervention group were more likely to report suicidal ideation at baseline. At four months, both groups had similar rates of suicidal ideation, which reflected a greater decline in suicidal ideation in the intervention group.
This finding applied overall and to patients with major depression, but not to the subgroup with minor depression. Depression severity did not differ significantly between the groups at baseline but decreased more in the intervention group than in the usual-care group. This finding also applied to the group as a whole and to patients with major depression, but not significantly to patients with minor depression.
Similarly, more intervention patients experienced a 50 percent or more decrease in depression scores from baseline compared with the usual-care group at four months, again with insignificant impact on those with only minor depression. In terms of remission, rates were significantly higher at four months in the intervention group compared with the usual-care group, but rates narrowed to nonsignificance at eight and 12 months. The difference in suicidal ideation was most pronounced and statistically significant at eight months, with no difference between groups at 12 months.
Suicidal ideation resolved more quickly in intervention patients than in usual-care patients. Intervention patients also had a more favorable course of depression, in terms of both severity and remission measurements, although these findings applied to patients with major rather than minor depression. Actual rates of suicide in primary practice occur too infrequently to measure the effect of an intervention such as the one studied in PROSPECT.
The strength of this trial lies in its practice-based design and application of formal depression screening and diagnosis. The feasibility of using case managers in practices needs to be assessed in real-life practice, and providing therapeutic intervention at no cost to the patient is a potential limitation of the study's real-world application. Finally, the authors were unable to explain the higher baseline prevalence of suicidal ideation in the intervention group, an occurrence that may limit the generalizability of the study's findings.
CAROLINE WELLBERY, M.D. Bruce ML, et al. Reducing suicidal ideation and depressive symptoms in depressed older primary care patients. A randomized controlled trial.
JAMA March 3, 2004; 291:1081-91.
2004 American Academy of Family Physicians
2004 Gale Group
Patients were randomized to depression treatment intervention versus usual care and followed at regular intervals for suicidal ideation, depressive symptoms, and remission rates in depressive symptoms. Practice-based depression care managers helped physicians identify depressed patients and provided patients with information on the treatment and monitoring of depression.
Depressed patients in the intervention group were given citalopram or offered psychotherapy if they declined medication. Both interventions were paid for with research funds. In the usual-care group, a minimum enhancement was provided: physicians were notified when patients met the criteria for depression and received information on treatment guidelines.
The investigators randomized patients by practice, recruiting in an age-stratified method participants age 60 to 74 and 75 years and older. Patients completed a Centers for Epidemiologic Studies Depression scale (CES-D), and patients with a CES-D score higher than 20 were eligible to participate. An additional 5 percent sample was included for comparison, as were some patients scoring 20 and below who might have had a false-negative screening result and who were identified as possibly depressed by supplemental questioning. Patients were assessed by telephone at four and eight months and had an in-person interview at 12 months. A total of 1,238 eligible patients agreed to a baseline interview; 598 patients who met the criteria for major or minor depression were selected to participate, as well as 47 patients who were selected randomly and 109 who were diagnosed with depression by supplemental questioning.
Patients in the intervention group were significantly more likely than those in the usual-care group to receive treatment at each follow-up visit. Patients in the intervention group were more likely to report suicidal ideation at baseline. At four months, both groups had similar rates of suicidal ideation, which reflected a greater decline in suicidal ideation in the intervention group.
This finding applied overall and to patients with major depression, but not to the subgroup with minor depression. Depression severity did not differ significantly between the groups at baseline but decreased more in the intervention group than in the usual-care group. This finding also applied to the group as a whole and to patients with major depression, but not significantly to patients with minor depression.
Similarly, more intervention patients experienced a 50 percent or more decrease in depression scores from baseline compared with the usual-care group at four months, again with insignificant impact on those with only minor depression. In terms of remission, rates were significantly higher at four months in the intervention group compared with the usual-care group, but rates narrowed to nonsignificance at eight and 12 months. The difference in suicidal ideation was most pronounced and statistically significant at eight months, with no difference between groups at 12 months.
Suicidal ideation resolved more quickly in intervention patients than in usual-care patients. Intervention patients also had a more favorable course of depression, in terms of both severity and remission measurements, although these findings applied to patients with major rather than minor depression. Actual rates of suicide in primary practice occur too infrequently to measure the effect of an intervention such as the one studied in PROSPECT.
The strength of this trial lies in its practice-based design and application of formal depression screening and diagnosis. The feasibility of using case managers in practices needs to be assessed in real-life practice, and providing therapeutic intervention at no cost to the patient is a potential limitation of the study's real-world application. Finally, the authors were unable to explain the higher baseline prevalence of suicidal ideation in the intervention group, an occurrence that may limit the generalizability of the study's findings.
CAROLINE WELLBERY, M.D. Bruce ML, et al. Reducing suicidal ideation and depressive symptoms in depressed older primary care patients. A randomized controlled trial.
JAMA March 3, 2004; 291:1081-91.
2004 American Academy of Family Physicians
2004 Gale Group
Monday, November 07, 2005
Advice on suicide & depression: warning signs - by Travis Meeks
Advice on suicide and depression, and the warning signs that are many times evident, is obviously a matter of life and death.
The concept of suicide and depression seem to be inextricably linked. However there are other warning signs and there is far more to be discussed when looking at suicide as a concept, beyond that of the classical motivation of being depressed. This article will examine common warning signs of suicide as well as signs of depression. In addition it will look at how anger and revenge can be a driving motivational factor or rationale for suicide. It is also important to look at the seperate parts in planning and acting on suicidal ideas. Evaluating these key actions and others assist in determining the seriousness of the attempt, although professionals should always be consulted immediately. While suicide and depression are linked, concepts such as revenge and anger cannot be ignored.
First and foremost let us look at one of the major linking causes of suicide, the most common, depression. Signs of depression can include (based on a description of symptomology from the DSM IV "Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders Fourth Edition):
Dysthymic Disorder:
A. Depressed for two years in an adult, at least one year in children and adolescents.
B. 2 or more of the following
* poor appetite or overeating
* insomnia or hypersomnia
* low energy or fatigue
* low self esteem
* poor concentration or difficulty making decisions
* feelings of hopelessness
There are many different forms of depression and some of these symptoms are only examples without the complete detail or depth that one might find by consulting a variety of sources.
Major Depression (some symptomology)
2 weeks of a depressed mood with a loss of interest or pleasure in nearly all activities.
With children the mood may be irritable rather than sad.
Often described as depressed, sad, discouraged, hopeless, or down in the dumps. Loss of interest or pleasure is always present to some degree. Appetite and sleep disturbance. Psychomotor changes, such as agitation, pulling or rubbing of the skin or clothing, slowed down speech or thinking or body movements, increased pauses before answering. Decreased energy, tiredness and fatigue. Sense of worthlessness or guilt. Impaired ability to think, concentrate or make decisions, may include memory difficulties. Interference in social, occupational, and important areas of functioning.
Many of the symptoms one finds with depression may cause the individual to fall below a threshold of rational thought, where they seek cessation from pain through harming themselves. They do not think through the consequences of their actions in many cases. As depression deepens some state that they just want to go to sleep and never wake up, for example. Others display signs such as cuts on their arms, self destructive behavior, burn marks or attempt overdoses or other dangerous acts. Trying to list all the possible signs is an impossible act because suicide can be approached in so many different ways by different people. However spotting signs of depression can be a vital clue as well as threats or thoughts of suicide by a person with depression. These should always be taken seriously and assessed by a professional.
Furthermore one should look at anger and revenge as possible motivators for suicide. It has been said that suicide in some cases is anger turned 180 degrees. Meaning that the person is angry with someone and cannot kill them and so decides as an act of revenge to kill themselves. Also called murder 180 degrees. Looking at these motivations and any threats or attempts by a person can be another clue for suicidal ideation (suicidal ideas).
Actually examining the process and looking at the person's actions as well as their threats is also important. There are several stages. If a person indicates that they have thought about suicide and killing themselves, that is an indicator or represents if there is serious intent suicidal ideation (suicidal ideas). If the person has these thoughts frequently or obsessively then it is a stronger indicator for a potentially dangerous situation. The second area to look at is if the person has a definite plan. Do they know how they might kill themselves? Is there a specific plan that they have formed and do they have access to the weapons or drugs or what have you? Finally one should look at the most serious aspect of all: have they attempted to commit suicide, and if they have how many times? These are all major factors in determining and screening for serious intent in patients and looking at suicidal ideation. Professionals in the field should be consulted as they are equipped to take appropriate followup action and know many subtle signs. For example, how shallow are the cuts on the arm?? Are there any marks?
Legally the laws differ from state to state, although there are usually laws in place that not only make it against the law to attempt to commit suicide but allow authorities to take action to have the person placed in a safe facility for further evaluation. In the State of Florida, where this author resides, the particular act is called a Baker Act, where a person indicates they will harm theselves or others and then can be committed to a hospital facility. In many cases this might require witnesses or have to be done with serious intent in front of a police officer or other official. In some cases it might have to be ordered by a judge, by a petition to the court.
In conclusion we must look at suicide, depression, and anger as being linked and realize that there are many other factors involved as well. It is a complex subject touching on the very value and importance of life. One should always consult a professional if they suspect suicidal ideation (a person displays suicidal ideas) or threats of suicide or remain depressed. It is a complex issue not easily discussed or handled. Mental health issues, suicide in particular display an element of stigma or negative labeling. Many think it must be a matter of willpower or a basic weakness of character. However, as we have seen in some of the symptoms it is a far different story. It is a matter of biology and psychology and in no way simple. Consulting professionals with experience is part of the key. Perhaps the words of Alexander Dumas from his book the "Count of Monte Cristo" are most fitting for an ending to this article, that key to the life we hold dear "Where there is life, there is Hope."
Written by Travis Meeks
The concept of suicide and depression seem to be inextricably linked. However there are other warning signs and there is far more to be discussed when looking at suicide as a concept, beyond that of the classical motivation of being depressed. This article will examine common warning signs of suicide as well as signs of depression. In addition it will look at how anger and revenge can be a driving motivational factor or rationale for suicide. It is also important to look at the seperate parts in planning and acting on suicidal ideas. Evaluating these key actions and others assist in determining the seriousness of the attempt, although professionals should always be consulted immediately. While suicide and depression are linked, concepts such as revenge and anger cannot be ignored.
First and foremost let us look at one of the major linking causes of suicide, the most common, depression. Signs of depression can include (based on a description of symptomology from the DSM IV "Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders Fourth Edition):
Dysthymic Disorder:
A. Depressed for two years in an adult, at least one year in children and adolescents.
B. 2 or more of the following
* poor appetite or overeating
* insomnia or hypersomnia
* low energy or fatigue
* low self esteem
* poor concentration or difficulty making decisions
* feelings of hopelessness
There are many different forms of depression and some of these symptoms are only examples without the complete detail or depth that one might find by consulting a variety of sources.
Major Depression (some symptomology)
2 weeks of a depressed mood with a loss of interest or pleasure in nearly all activities.
With children the mood may be irritable rather than sad.
Often described as depressed, sad, discouraged, hopeless, or down in the dumps. Loss of interest or pleasure is always present to some degree. Appetite and sleep disturbance. Psychomotor changes, such as agitation, pulling or rubbing of the skin or clothing, slowed down speech or thinking or body movements, increased pauses before answering. Decreased energy, tiredness and fatigue. Sense of worthlessness or guilt. Impaired ability to think, concentrate or make decisions, may include memory difficulties. Interference in social, occupational, and important areas of functioning.
Many of the symptoms one finds with depression may cause the individual to fall below a threshold of rational thought, where they seek cessation from pain through harming themselves. They do not think through the consequences of their actions in many cases. As depression deepens some state that they just want to go to sleep and never wake up, for example. Others display signs such as cuts on their arms, self destructive behavior, burn marks or attempt overdoses or other dangerous acts. Trying to list all the possible signs is an impossible act because suicide can be approached in so many different ways by different people. However spotting signs of depression can be a vital clue as well as threats or thoughts of suicide by a person with depression. These should always be taken seriously and assessed by a professional.
Furthermore one should look at anger and revenge as possible motivators for suicide. It has been said that suicide in some cases is anger turned 180 degrees. Meaning that the person is angry with someone and cannot kill them and so decides as an act of revenge to kill themselves. Also called murder 180 degrees. Looking at these motivations and any threats or attempts by a person can be another clue for suicidal ideation (suicidal ideas).
Actually examining the process and looking at the person's actions as well as their threats is also important. There are several stages. If a person indicates that they have thought about suicide and killing themselves, that is an indicator or represents if there is serious intent suicidal ideation (suicidal ideas). If the person has these thoughts frequently or obsessively then it is a stronger indicator for a potentially dangerous situation. The second area to look at is if the person has a definite plan. Do they know how they might kill themselves? Is there a specific plan that they have formed and do they have access to the weapons or drugs or what have you? Finally one should look at the most serious aspect of all: have they attempted to commit suicide, and if they have how many times? These are all major factors in determining and screening for serious intent in patients and looking at suicidal ideation. Professionals in the field should be consulted as they are equipped to take appropriate followup action and know many subtle signs. For example, how shallow are the cuts on the arm?? Are there any marks?
Legally the laws differ from state to state, although there are usually laws in place that not only make it against the law to attempt to commit suicide but allow authorities to take action to have the person placed in a safe facility for further evaluation. In the State of Florida, where this author resides, the particular act is called a Baker Act, where a person indicates they will harm theselves or others and then can be committed to a hospital facility. In many cases this might require witnesses or have to be done with serious intent in front of a police officer or other official. In some cases it might have to be ordered by a judge, by a petition to the court.
In conclusion we must look at suicide, depression, and anger as being linked and realize that there are many other factors involved as well. It is a complex subject touching on the very value and importance of life. One should always consult a professional if they suspect suicidal ideation (a person displays suicidal ideas) or threats of suicide or remain depressed. It is a complex issue not easily discussed or handled. Mental health issues, suicide in particular display an element of stigma or negative labeling. Many think it must be a matter of willpower or a basic weakness of character. However, as we have seen in some of the symptoms it is a far different story. It is a matter of biology and psychology and in no way simple. Consulting professionals with experience is part of the key. Perhaps the words of Alexander Dumas from his book the "Count of Monte Cristo" are most fitting for an ending to this article, that key to the life we hold dear "Where there is life, there is Hope."
Written by Travis Meeks
Sunday, November 06, 2005
Starting Over After Loss - By Kim Olver
How does one start over after the loss of a loved one? It is a monumental task that just feels overwhelming at times. Similar rebuilding occurs after the death, divorce or separation of a loved one.
First comes the shock of the loss and an almost denial that is has happened, particularly if there was no warning. We have hopes and dreams of the future that include our loved one and suddenly he or she is not there. How will we cope? How can we go on?
But go on we must and we will. Often times our first step is to attempt to regain what we have lost. This is impossible if our loved one has died but that doesn’t stop us from trying. A lot of what we go through in our grieving process is our best attempt to keep that person alive and well in our perception. So, we do things like go over the memories, look through picture albums, talk about our loved one to everyone who will listen, think about him or her every minute and even speak to him or her out loud.
If a loved one has not died, but has chosen to walk out of one's life, it can be more challenging. In this instance, you not only have to get over the shock of the loss but also cope with the feelings of rejection.
In our best attempt to get our loved one back, we may engage in all the behaviors someone who has lost their partner to death would. But in addition, we may beg them to take us back, follow our loved one around, try to get our friends to intervene on our behalf, and a host of other maladaptive behaviors.
Everyone grieves at his or her own pace. I am in no way suggesting that this process can or should be rushed. What I am saying is that when a person is ready, he or she can turn the grief into a new hope for the future.
There's a quote I've learned that is very helpful during this phase. Unfortunately, I do not know its source. The quote is: " Don't cry because it's over; smile because it happened." This is a highly evolved place to get and not everyone gets there.
However, if you find yourself in the process of starting over, adopting this particular attitude can be fairly helpful. You would begin by brainstorming all the possible benefits of no longer being in relationship with the person who's gone. This may seem uncomfortable at first, almost a betrayal of the love you shared, but it is the most healing thing you can do at this point.
You may feel that moving on will, in some way, send the message that you didn't really love enough. In an attempt to show the world how much you loved your partner, you use the depth of your grieving as the message. And if you are someone who wants to continue grieving, then nothing I have to say will get in your way. You don't even have to continue reading.
This article is really for those people who are tired of being depressed, who are ready to us start again and who want to actually believe that things can get better.
In 1999, my husband died of leukemia when he was 37 years old, leaving behind his two sons ages 13 and 15. Initially, there was no positive benefit I could see from that event at all.
However when I was ready to look for the positives, they did appear.
One of the first positives I saw is that I actually had the opportunity to say goodbye. My husband's entire family had the opportunity to say the things they wanted to say to bring closure to their relationships. Many people do not have that opportunity when loved ones pass.
A second benefit is that when my husband learned he was sick, he stopped working. He didn't stop because he was too sick. He stopped because there was some research link between his type of leukemia and the chemical benzene -- something he worked with at his job. Prior to his illness, my husband was a workaholic. Once diagnosed, he began to spend lots of quality time with our children. He coached soccer, coached Little League, taught our boys how to work on cars, and spent long hours with them hunting and fishing. This would not have happened had he lived to be a hundred years old with his workaholic behavior.
You too, can find the benefit in the loss of your last relationship. It merely involves putting on the proper lenses that will allow you to see it. Just like in science, there can be no positive without the negative and no negative without the positive. You can't have protons without neutrons -- and you can't have a devastating event in your life without it also bringing some positive benefits. Healing and moving on requires these lenses.
While you continue to mourn the loss of your relationship, you're only staying stuck in the past. Let's return to the quote mentioned above. Instead of mourning the loss of the relationship, focus on how fortunate you were to have that relationship in your life for as long as you did.
There are no guarantees in this life. When a loved one enters our life, there is no surety for how long he or she will stay. They're not possessions to be owned, but rather our gift to be cherished for as long as we have it.
One of the first steps to take in healing our grief is to reach out to others in our life who love us. When someone we love leaves us, it creates a huge void in our life. Some try to fill this void with drugs or alcohol, but that only results in a temporary reprieve from the pain.
If love is what we lost, then the only thing that will help us to feel better is more love. During this time you may confuse sex with love and go looking for meaningless encounters. However, this again will only postpone the inevitability of the pain of the loss of love.
We must replace love with love. Reach out to friends, family and co-workers. -- anyone who will fill some of the gap left by your loved one. It's not the same, it's not what you are really craving, but it will help heal the pain.
After that temporary reprieve with those who love us, you must start rebuilding your life and your strength. You can go on. You can laugh again. And yes, you can love again. Love has many forms.
You may develop another relationship in the time. You may find a cause that you love and believe in. You may "adopt" a neighborhood child. You may find or create work you love. You may get a pet that you can love unconditionally. You may become involved (but not too involved) in the lives of your extended family. Whatever form love takes, it will fill the void that was left from the relationship you lost.
But none of this will truly do the trick unless you learn to love yourself again. How does one accomplish this task? You must take inventory. Make a list of all that you have to offer the world. What are your strengths? What are your interests? What are your talents and abilities? What do you love?
If you're having difficulty completing your list, ask someone you trust for help. An objective viewpoint can often point out positives of which we are unaware.
And if, after taking this step, you are still unsure of your special talents and skills, then make a list of the person that you want to be. What is it that you would like to be able to offer the world? Describe a person that you admire whom you would strive to become. As long as there's breath in your body, it is never too late to learn to expand and grow to become the person that you truly want to be.
If you feel as if your life is over, you are truly wasting the gift of life that you have been given. There is only one you. You have something unique inside you to offer the rest of us. Please don't keep it hidden, lost in your grief.
Do not climb in the grave with your loved one. It is not your time. Do not wither and die behind the door your loved one closed on his or her way out of your life. Find someone less fortunate than you, and do something for them without expecting anything in return. You'll be surprised what that does to elevate your mood.
If you are ready and having trouble getting started, please email me at Kim@therelationshipcenter.biz or phone me at 708-957-6047. I would be happy to talk with you further about this.
Kim Olver is a licensed professional counselor and a life/relationship coach. She helps people unleash their personal power by living from the inside out, focusing their time and energy on only those things they can control. She also helps people improve the quality of their relationships with the important people in their lives. She offers free chats, assessments, a blog and an eZine, as well as workshops, teleclasses, e-courses, counseling and coaching. Visit her website at http://www.TheRelationshipCenter.biz or contact her at (708) 957-6047.
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First comes the shock of the loss and an almost denial that is has happened, particularly if there was no warning. We have hopes and dreams of the future that include our loved one and suddenly he or she is not there. How will we cope? How can we go on?
But go on we must and we will. Often times our first step is to attempt to regain what we have lost. This is impossible if our loved one has died but that doesn’t stop us from trying. A lot of what we go through in our grieving process is our best attempt to keep that person alive and well in our perception. So, we do things like go over the memories, look through picture albums, talk about our loved one to everyone who will listen, think about him or her every minute and even speak to him or her out loud.
If a loved one has not died, but has chosen to walk out of one's life, it can be more challenging. In this instance, you not only have to get over the shock of the loss but also cope with the feelings of rejection.
In our best attempt to get our loved one back, we may engage in all the behaviors someone who has lost their partner to death would. But in addition, we may beg them to take us back, follow our loved one around, try to get our friends to intervene on our behalf, and a host of other maladaptive behaviors.
Everyone grieves at his or her own pace. I am in no way suggesting that this process can or should be rushed. What I am saying is that when a person is ready, he or she can turn the grief into a new hope for the future.
There's a quote I've learned that is very helpful during this phase. Unfortunately, I do not know its source. The quote is: " Don't cry because it's over; smile because it happened." This is a highly evolved place to get and not everyone gets there.
However, if you find yourself in the process of starting over, adopting this particular attitude can be fairly helpful. You would begin by brainstorming all the possible benefits of no longer being in relationship with the person who's gone. This may seem uncomfortable at first, almost a betrayal of the love you shared, but it is the most healing thing you can do at this point.
You may feel that moving on will, in some way, send the message that you didn't really love enough. In an attempt to show the world how much you loved your partner, you use the depth of your grieving as the message. And if you are someone who wants to continue grieving, then nothing I have to say will get in your way. You don't even have to continue reading.
This article is really for those people who are tired of being depressed, who are ready to us start again and who want to actually believe that things can get better.
In 1999, my husband died of leukemia when he was 37 years old, leaving behind his two sons ages 13 and 15. Initially, there was no positive benefit I could see from that event at all.
However when I was ready to look for the positives, they did appear.
One of the first positives I saw is that I actually had the opportunity to say goodbye. My husband's entire family had the opportunity to say the things they wanted to say to bring closure to their relationships. Many people do not have that opportunity when loved ones pass.
A second benefit is that when my husband learned he was sick, he stopped working. He didn't stop because he was too sick. He stopped because there was some research link between his type of leukemia and the chemical benzene -- something he worked with at his job. Prior to his illness, my husband was a workaholic. Once diagnosed, he began to spend lots of quality time with our children. He coached soccer, coached Little League, taught our boys how to work on cars, and spent long hours with them hunting and fishing. This would not have happened had he lived to be a hundred years old with his workaholic behavior.
You too, can find the benefit in the loss of your last relationship. It merely involves putting on the proper lenses that will allow you to see it. Just like in science, there can be no positive without the negative and no negative without the positive. You can't have protons without neutrons -- and you can't have a devastating event in your life without it also bringing some positive benefits. Healing and moving on requires these lenses.
While you continue to mourn the loss of your relationship, you're only staying stuck in the past. Let's return to the quote mentioned above. Instead of mourning the loss of the relationship, focus on how fortunate you were to have that relationship in your life for as long as you did.
There are no guarantees in this life. When a loved one enters our life, there is no surety for how long he or she will stay. They're not possessions to be owned, but rather our gift to be cherished for as long as we have it.
One of the first steps to take in healing our grief is to reach out to others in our life who love us. When someone we love leaves us, it creates a huge void in our life. Some try to fill this void with drugs or alcohol, but that only results in a temporary reprieve from the pain.
If love is what we lost, then the only thing that will help us to feel better is more love. During this time you may confuse sex with love and go looking for meaningless encounters. However, this again will only postpone the inevitability of the pain of the loss of love.
We must replace love with love. Reach out to friends, family and co-workers. -- anyone who will fill some of the gap left by your loved one. It's not the same, it's not what you are really craving, but it will help heal the pain.
After that temporary reprieve with those who love us, you must start rebuilding your life and your strength. You can go on. You can laugh again. And yes, you can love again. Love has many forms.
You may develop another relationship in the time. You may find a cause that you love and believe in. You may "adopt" a neighborhood child. You may find or create work you love. You may get a pet that you can love unconditionally. You may become involved (but not too involved) in the lives of your extended family. Whatever form love takes, it will fill the void that was left from the relationship you lost.
But none of this will truly do the trick unless you learn to love yourself again. How does one accomplish this task? You must take inventory. Make a list of all that you have to offer the world. What are your strengths? What are your interests? What are your talents and abilities? What do you love?
If you're having difficulty completing your list, ask someone you trust for help. An objective viewpoint can often point out positives of which we are unaware.
And if, after taking this step, you are still unsure of your special talents and skills, then make a list of the person that you want to be. What is it that you would like to be able to offer the world? Describe a person that you admire whom you would strive to become. As long as there's breath in your body, it is never too late to learn to expand and grow to become the person that you truly want to be.
If you feel as if your life is over, you are truly wasting the gift of life that you have been given. There is only one you. You have something unique inside you to offer the rest of us. Please don't keep it hidden, lost in your grief.
Do not climb in the grave with your loved one. It is not your time. Do not wither and die behind the door your loved one closed on his or her way out of your life. Find someone less fortunate than you, and do something for them without expecting anything in return. You'll be surprised what that does to elevate your mood.
If you are ready and having trouble getting started, please email me at Kim@therelationshipcenter.biz or phone me at 708-957-6047. I would be happy to talk with you further about this.
Kim Olver is a licensed professional counselor and a life/relationship coach. She helps people unleash their personal power by living from the inside out, focusing their time and energy on only those things they can control. She also helps people improve the quality of their relationships with the important people in their lives. She offers free chats, assessments, a blog and an eZine, as well as workshops, teleclasses, e-courses, counseling and coaching. Visit her website at http://www.TheRelationshipCenter.biz or contact her at (708) 957-6047.
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Suicide is Not an Option - By David Snape
On December 12th, 1992, my brother committed suicide. The consequences were devestating to everyone involved. Maybe this story will help someone who is contemplating suicide to decide against it.
Suicide is not the solution that some may think it is. Problems and unresolved issues will haunt family and friends for many decades.
My nephew, who was just a baby at the time, would always ask about his uncle. He eventually learned to point up at the sky and say, "Uncle Scott".
But the reality is that he missed out on having the benefit and support of his uncle as he grew up. And of course, there are countless interactions with family members that will be missed over the decades.
Suicide is permanent. And the effects that it has on loved ones also lasts over a life time.
My brother was only 22 years old at the time he chose to commit suicide. I was only 24.
I remember going to the viewing and seeing his lifeless body. They couldn't quite erase all of the signs of his violent death. And that image will stick with the living for the rest of their lives.
In the end, the temporary pain someone escapes by committing suicide might be overshadowed by the pain and sadness of family and friends. That pain may continue through the decades whenever they think about it.
The missed opportunities for interaction also impedes the growth of everyone else. Countless interactions that would have occurred are all lost now.
Who knows how destiny was changed by such an event. The family that he may have had will not exist now.
The triumphs and set backs of a life will never be realized. The fulfillment of a lifetime was cut short by a decision that may have been made rashly at a moment of personal confusion or pain.
We never know who it is in our destiny to meet and interact with over a lifetime. All of those 'plays' of life will never be able to exist because one of the characters on the stage will not be there to fulfill his role.
So, the total sum of the tragedy is really unknown but it seems likely that over what would have amounted to decades of time, that sum must be quite high. I guess we won't get the chance to find out.
Though I am revealing this personal family tragedy to the masses through this article, if it saves a single life, it will be worth it. Drop me a line if you ever want to talk, I would be happy to hear from you.
Dave Snape writes for All Things Pondered:http://AllThingsPondered.com You can find him there.
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Suicide is not the solution that some may think it is. Problems and unresolved issues will haunt family and friends for many decades.
My nephew, who was just a baby at the time, would always ask about his uncle. He eventually learned to point up at the sky and say, "Uncle Scott".
But the reality is that he missed out on having the benefit and support of his uncle as he grew up. And of course, there are countless interactions with family members that will be missed over the decades.
Suicide is permanent. And the effects that it has on loved ones also lasts over a life time.
My brother was only 22 years old at the time he chose to commit suicide. I was only 24.
I remember going to the viewing and seeing his lifeless body. They couldn't quite erase all of the signs of his violent death. And that image will stick with the living for the rest of their lives.
In the end, the temporary pain someone escapes by committing suicide might be overshadowed by the pain and sadness of family and friends. That pain may continue through the decades whenever they think about it.
The missed opportunities for interaction also impedes the growth of everyone else. Countless interactions that would have occurred are all lost now.
Who knows how destiny was changed by such an event. The family that he may have had will not exist now.
The triumphs and set backs of a life will never be realized. The fulfillment of a lifetime was cut short by a decision that may have been made rashly at a moment of personal confusion or pain.
We never know who it is in our destiny to meet and interact with over a lifetime. All of those 'plays' of life will never be able to exist because one of the characters on the stage will not be there to fulfill his role.
So, the total sum of the tragedy is really unknown but it seems likely that over what would have amounted to decades of time, that sum must be quite high. I guess we won't get the chance to find out.
Though I am revealing this personal family tragedy to the masses through this article, if it saves a single life, it will be worth it. Drop me a line if you ever want to talk, I would be happy to hear from you.
Dave Snape writes for All Things Pondered:http://AllThingsPondered.com You can find him there.
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Thursday, November 03, 2005
Are You Depressed??? Viagra Will Surely Help - By- Jack Clive
Impotence, which is also known as Erectile Dysfunction. It is defined as the inability of men to achieve or to maintain an erection sufficient for sexual intercourse or the needs of his partner. Impotence is associated with mind and emotions. A Survey also shows that for both men and women, up to 78% of sexual dysfunction and inhibited sexual desire are of mental or emotional origin. It is important to clearly understand the main causes of impotence. Its causes in men are listed as sexual guilt, depression, fear of intimacy, and some recreational drugs.
The association between depressive symptoms in men and Impotence (ED) appears to relate to decreased sexual activity and dissatisfaction with not being able to have a healthy sexual life, research indicates.
Impotence and Depression are highly coexisting condition. Depression is one of the most common and most serious mental health problems men's facing today. According to a study published in American Journal of Psychiatry that successful treatment of erectile dysfunction or impotence in depressed men can lead to marked improvement in depression. 60% of all men over the age of 40 showed some degree of impotency and 30% of Americans have a depressive disorder every year. Study found a correlation between change in Impotence and change in depressive symptoms - but it was not cleared whether the depression caused impotence (ED), or impotence (ED) caused the depression.
A medical studies shows that use of Pfizer's wonder drug, "Viagra" for treatment of impotency has positive effects in helping men with their depression also. Viagra is used to treat impotence in men. Viagra increases the body’s ability to achieve and maintain an erection during sexual stimulation. A Survey indicates that Viagra showed great improvement in Men's in their Impotency as well as in their depression.
For more information about Viagra, can visit at: http://www.viagrapunch.com
About the Author: Author is well known online publisher & has published lots of online articles on Men's Health related problems.
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Wednesday, November 02, 2005
How To Step Out Of The State Of Depression - By Alex Fir
Depression is one of the most common mental illnesses. At least eight percent of adults in the US experience serious depression at some point during their lives.
The illness affects all people, regardless of sex, race, ethnicity or socioeconomic standing. Depression is two to three times more prevalent among women than it is among men. Experts disagree on the reason for this difference.
To step out of the state of depression, you just have to:
Change your mental focus from the negative to positive, visualize and magnify the intensity of new, positive, solution-based mental pictures, and rapidly change your body, i.e. posture, breathing, facial expression, etc.
You will realize something very important now...that you can shift from one mental state or emotion to another just by thinking it. This is a very powerful piece of information!
You can shift from one mental state or emotion to another just by thinking about it!
That means, as soon as you decide on an outcome, you can immediately shift your focus, state and emotion to manifest the desired state or emotion. How useful do you think that would be?
You can practice moving from one mental state to another by going from one emotion to another one. This is really a very powerful and useful exercise.
Example: Go from a sad state to a happy one, a frustrated one to an optimistic one, a procrastinating one to a totally motivated one, a nervous one to a confident one, etc.
The more you practice moving from one range to the other, the more prepared you will be, and the easier it will become for you to shift out of a negative state/emotion into a positive one when it counts. All it takes is practice and rehearsal so that you are prepared in advance.
Whenever you're caught in a negative state or emotion (anger, frustration, fear, boredom, etc.), just take a moment to step out of yourself and watch yourself from the outside. What changes would you immediately want to make to produce better results and outcomes?
It's really as simple as that.
About the Author: Visit Depression Help Center for more information on depression and latest news. http://www.depression-help-center.info
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The illness affects all people, regardless of sex, race, ethnicity or socioeconomic standing. Depression is two to three times more prevalent among women than it is among men. Experts disagree on the reason for this difference.
To step out of the state of depression, you just have to:
Change your mental focus from the negative to positive, visualize and magnify the intensity of new, positive, solution-based mental pictures, and rapidly change your body, i.e. posture, breathing, facial expression, etc.
You will realize something very important now...that you can shift from one mental state or emotion to another just by thinking it. This is a very powerful piece of information!
You can shift from one mental state or emotion to another just by thinking about it!
That means, as soon as you decide on an outcome, you can immediately shift your focus, state and emotion to manifest the desired state or emotion. How useful do you think that would be?
You can practice moving from one mental state to another by going from one emotion to another one. This is really a very powerful and useful exercise.
Example: Go from a sad state to a happy one, a frustrated one to an optimistic one, a procrastinating one to a totally motivated one, a nervous one to a confident one, etc.
The more you practice moving from one range to the other, the more prepared you will be, and the easier it will become for you to shift out of a negative state/emotion into a positive one when it counts. All it takes is practice and rehearsal so that you are prepared in advance.
Whenever you're caught in a negative state or emotion (anger, frustration, fear, boredom, etc.), just take a moment to step out of yourself and watch yourself from the outside. What changes would you immediately want to make to produce better results and outcomes?
It's really as simple as that.
About the Author: Visit Depression Help Center for more information on depression and latest news. http://www.depression-help-center.info
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Tuesday, November 01, 2005
Omega 3 EPA: Nature's Very Own Antidepressant - By Dave McEvoy
Since Dr Malcolm Peet, a consultant psychiatrist at Sheffield swallow court hospital released his findings about the effects of Ethyl Epa and its effects on people suffering from depression and low moods, many other studies have been performed using Ethyl Epa to help treat depression and related disorders. The vast majority of the studies that have been performed consistently confirmed that Ethyl Epa, a natural substance found in omega 3 fish oil, helps relieve depression and low moods.
The idea that high grade omega 3 EPA could be used to help combat depression and other related disorders came from the late Dr Horribin, who as early as the 1970s was a pioneer in lipid research involving the brain and central nervous system. Since the findings at Sheffield, studies have been conducted round the world, Harvard university 1999, London Hammersmith hospital 2001 and Israel Ben Gurion University 2002 to name but a few.
EPA As Part Of A Healthy Diet
EPA is part of the Omega 3 chain of ecosanoids and is most commonly found in fatty fish such as fresh salmon, mackerel, pilchards and sardines. Over the past 100 years the diet patterns of most people in the west has shifted dramatically to include far more hydrogenated oils and Trans fatty acids (bad fats) this is largely due to the increased consumption of fast food and ready made meals. Even people who think they eat a healthy diet consume way too much omega 6 and not enough omega 3.
Researchers have recently found that a diet high in Tran’s fatty acids could affect the mood stabilizing hormones within the brain, this is thought to be due to the saturated fats slowing down the messaging system within the brain, should this happen then the onset of depression could occur.
How Does EPA Work?
While the benefits of high grade EPA have been well documented, the scientific community still don’t know exactly how EPA works on the brain, one theory released by Dr Basant Puri is that it eases the passage of the signals over the tiny gaps in the brain called synapses. Another theory was that the high Grade Epa actually worked similar to lithium and had anti depressant properties of its own.
Until recently it was widely accepted in the medical community that once a human reached maturity that the adult brain could not grow anymore, in a recent paper just released by Dr Puri his findings show other wise. Dr Puri scanned a 21 year patient before treating him with high grade Pure Epa, after the course of treatment he rescanned the young man only to find that the grey matter of the brain had increased in size.
Omega 3 EPA And The Body
As well as EPA being very good for helping to balance mood it has other well documented effects on the body, these included:-
• Blood thinning properties
• Decrease risk of heart attack
• Decrease growth rate of atherosclerotic plaque
• Slightly lower blood pressure
There is also some limited scientific evidence to show that high grade EPA has helped people suffering from:-
• Bipolar disorder
• PMS
• Chronic fatigue syndrome / ME
• Huntington’s disease
• Fibromyalgia
• Obsessive compulsive disorder
• Schizophrenia
• ADHD
• ADD
Although more research needs to be done in these areas, the current evidence looks very promising.
EPA Versus DHA
Omega 3 fish oil contains another omega 3 nutrient called DHA, there is a currently a controversial argument as to which omega 3 nutrient is the more beneficial in dealing with depression and related disorders. This Argument is born from doctors who have used high grade Epa , Horribin, Puri and Peet They claim that the higher the ratio of Epa to Dha the more effective the results have been, just recently Dr Andrew Stoll has also come out in support of this theory.
EPA From Food
Any good doctor or nutritionist will tell you that the best way to get any nutrient is to eat a very balanced diet of the correct amount of carbohydrates , protein and omega essential fatty acids. In the case of Omega 3 epa this would be in the form of fish, unfortunately due to the high concentration levels of epa needed to obtain a therapeutic dose you would have to consume a large amount of oily fish daily and sadly due to the pollution levels found in our oceans today this is not advisable.
Omega 3 Epa can also be found in high doses in certain fish oil supplements, when choosing a fish oil supplement you should choose only the fish oil of the highest quality it should also have as high an EPA to DHA ratio as possible,for maximum therapeutic effect.
Conclusion
The large majority of scientific trails using high grade Omega 3 Ethyl Epa point towards this natural oil being very beneficial for many conditions. The argument about the DHA rages on and probably will until some solid scientific evidence is presented to us .In the mean time a product with a high EPA to DHA ratio is considered more beneficial by some leading UK doctors.
The Author Dave mcevoy: A great resource for high grade omega 3 Ethly EPA fish oil in a vegetable shell with a 90% concentrate of EPA and Zero DHA visit http://www.mind1st.co.uk
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The idea that high grade omega 3 EPA could be used to help combat depression and other related disorders came from the late Dr Horribin, who as early as the 1970s was a pioneer in lipid research involving the brain and central nervous system. Since the findings at Sheffield, studies have been conducted round the world, Harvard university 1999, London Hammersmith hospital 2001 and Israel Ben Gurion University 2002 to name but a few.
EPA As Part Of A Healthy Diet
EPA is part of the Omega 3 chain of ecosanoids and is most commonly found in fatty fish such as fresh salmon, mackerel, pilchards and sardines. Over the past 100 years the diet patterns of most people in the west has shifted dramatically to include far more hydrogenated oils and Trans fatty acids (bad fats) this is largely due to the increased consumption of fast food and ready made meals. Even people who think they eat a healthy diet consume way too much omega 6 and not enough omega 3.
Researchers have recently found that a diet high in Tran’s fatty acids could affect the mood stabilizing hormones within the brain, this is thought to be due to the saturated fats slowing down the messaging system within the brain, should this happen then the onset of depression could occur.
How Does EPA Work?
While the benefits of high grade EPA have been well documented, the scientific community still don’t know exactly how EPA works on the brain, one theory released by Dr Basant Puri is that it eases the passage of the signals over the tiny gaps in the brain called synapses. Another theory was that the high Grade Epa actually worked similar to lithium and had anti depressant properties of its own.
Until recently it was widely accepted in the medical community that once a human reached maturity that the adult brain could not grow anymore, in a recent paper just released by Dr Puri his findings show other wise. Dr Puri scanned a 21 year patient before treating him with high grade Pure Epa, after the course of treatment he rescanned the young man only to find that the grey matter of the brain had increased in size.
Omega 3 EPA And The Body
As well as EPA being very good for helping to balance mood it has other well documented effects on the body, these included:-
• Blood thinning properties
• Decrease risk of heart attack
• Decrease growth rate of atherosclerotic plaque
• Slightly lower blood pressure
There is also some limited scientific evidence to show that high grade EPA has helped people suffering from:-
• Bipolar disorder
• PMS
• Chronic fatigue syndrome / ME
• Huntington’s disease
• Fibromyalgia
• Obsessive compulsive disorder
• Schizophrenia
• ADHD
• ADD
Although more research needs to be done in these areas, the current evidence looks very promising.
EPA Versus DHA
Omega 3 fish oil contains another omega 3 nutrient called DHA, there is a currently a controversial argument as to which omega 3 nutrient is the more beneficial in dealing with depression and related disorders. This Argument is born from doctors who have used high grade Epa , Horribin, Puri and Peet They claim that the higher the ratio of Epa to Dha the more effective the results have been, just recently Dr Andrew Stoll has also come out in support of this theory.
EPA From Food
Any good doctor or nutritionist will tell you that the best way to get any nutrient is to eat a very balanced diet of the correct amount of carbohydrates , protein and omega essential fatty acids. In the case of Omega 3 epa this would be in the form of fish, unfortunately due to the high concentration levels of epa needed to obtain a therapeutic dose you would have to consume a large amount of oily fish daily and sadly due to the pollution levels found in our oceans today this is not advisable.
Omega 3 Epa can also be found in high doses in certain fish oil supplements, when choosing a fish oil supplement you should choose only the fish oil of the highest quality it should also have as high an EPA to DHA ratio as possible,for maximum therapeutic effect.
Conclusion
The large majority of scientific trails using high grade Omega 3 Ethyl Epa point towards this natural oil being very beneficial for many conditions. The argument about the DHA rages on and probably will until some solid scientific evidence is presented to us .In the mean time a product with a high EPA to DHA ratio is considered more beneficial by some leading UK doctors.
The Author Dave mcevoy: A great resource for high grade omega 3 Ethly EPA fish oil in a vegetable shell with a 90% concentrate of EPA and Zero DHA visit http://www.mind1st.co.uk
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Battling the Blues and Winning - By Leigh Erin Connealy
Summer time is over, the kids are back in school and soon the holiday preparations will begin. But unfortunately, what should be a magical time of year, all too often signals the beginning of the winter blues for millions of Americans. And whether you suffer from a mild form of depression when it comes time to start your holiday shopping, or you go into full blown panic attacks at the mere mention of hosting Thanksgiving dinner, you are not alone. The good news is that, while the changing of the seasons is inevitable, the holiday blues don’t have to be.
Depression seems to be the catch phrase of the new millennium and the health care community is often all too quick to prescribe antidepressants as a cure to what ails you. But not all forms of depression and anxiety warrant such drastic measures. Often times, with a few changes to your diet and lifestyle, you could be looking at the world with a whole new attitude.
Understanding the Evils of Depression and Anxiety We’ve all said it at one time or another, those words that seem to sum up our angst so perfectly: I’m so depressed! But what does that mean exactly? The symptoms of depression can be characterized by many factors, ranging from irritability and insomnia to panic and the inability to enjoy life’s little pleasures. Often times we strive towards perfection in an effort to manage our feelings of despair or inadequacy, generally falling short and leaving us feeling worse than we when we began.
Many of us were raised on the old adage, Mind Over Matter, and feel that we should be able to manage our emotions on our own, that anything less would be a sign of weakness or failure. Not true! This method of thinking is outdated and most often ineffective, as the culprit in depression is generally not a weak will, but rather a reduced level of an important brain chemical called serotonin.
Serotonin is the body’s primary defense against anxiety and depression. When our serotonin levels are low, we tend to lose our natural good nature and find that life’s challenges become increasingly more daunting.
There are many reasons why your serotonin may be low, genetics often times being a key factor. Does depression seem to run in your family? Did your parents have a difficult time facing the day to day stresses that seemed so easy for others? Is there a history of alcoholism or drug abuse in your family? These are all signs that low serotonin might be present. Don’t be discouraged if this is the case, though. As you will see, genetics do not mean a life sentence of depression. There is hope.
Stress can also be a contributing factor to depression. Have you experienced elevated levels of stress over an extended period of time? Whether the stress is the result of a major tragedy in your life, like the loss of loved one or the difficulty of a bitter divorce, or the result of a lengthy or debilitating illness, the effects on your body are the same. Under attack by such stressors, your serotonin store is tapped into repeatedly which can eventually lead to total serotonin depletion, leaving you running on a perpetual state of “empty”.
Believe it or not, but the time of the year may also have a very real affect on your mood. Do you find that your mood seems to drop when the weather is cloudy, or the sun doesn’t come out for days on end? There is a biological explanation for this. Serotonin is one of the few body chemicals that are actually stimulated by light. An underexposure to light can lower your serotonin production, leaving you feeling down and depressed. And if you are already running on low levels of serotonin, something as minor as a cloudy day can serve to bring you further down.
A major contributor to depression, and the one most often overlooked, is your diet. In order for your body to produce serotonin it relies on the foods that you eat to provide the much needed amino acid, Tryptophan. Tryptophan can be found in high-protein animal-derived foods such as turkey, chicken, beef and cheese. Once ingested, your body converts the amino acid, tryptophan, into a chemical called 5-HTP (5 hydroxytriptophan) and then into the neuro-transmitter, serotonin. Without tryptophan, your body is unable to produce 5-HTP and subsequently serotonin, leading to a myriad of problems, most notably, depression.
There are four key symptoms that could indicate the presence of low levels of serotonin: Gut and Heart Problems 90% of the serotonin in your body is in your gut and when you raise your serotonin levels your digestive tension (including constipation) can often dissolve with your depression. Your heart is also partly serotonin dependant. It’s well known that low serotonin type negative moods, including fear and anger, are closely associated with heart disease.
Sleep Disturbance Many people with low serotonin levels obsess and worry instead of getting to sleep, while others tend to wake up too early in the morning.
Fibromyalgia, TMJ, Migraines Raising serotonin levels not only has a powerful muscle relaxing effect, it can also stimulate our natural pain killers, the endorphins.
Cravings for Carbs and Alcohol Ingesting carbohydrates (whether through food or alcohol) can set off body wide stress, causing your pancreas to release insulin in order to remove the excess carbs from your bloodstream and store them as fat. The insulin sweeps most of the amino acids out of your bloodstream, along with the carbs. Only one amino gets left behind-tryptophan-and it goes right into your brain, unimpeded by the other aminos that usually crowd it. Once in the brain, the tryptophan can easily convert to 5HTP and then to serotonin, elevating your mood temporarily. The downside? This source of instant euphoria most often leads to a dependency on sugary foods which can in turn lead to excess weight gain along with a myriad of other health problems.
Turning the Corner to Peace and Happiness The treatment of depression may take some time but it can be accomplished. And while your mood may not improve right away, don’t let this discourage you.
Counseling can often be an effective tool in coping with depression and anxiety. By adopting valuable problem solving skills you can begin to regain control and achieve happiness in your life. Learning to recognize and accept your feelings, even feelings of sadness, anger or fear is an important first step.
One of the most important treatments for depression is exercise. When you exercise, your body seeks out the amino acids in your bloodstream for routine muscle repair. This causes tryptophan, the only amino acid not used for muscle repair, to go straight to the brain. Once it gets there, it is quickly converted to 5HTP and then to serotonin. Exercise also increases your oxygen intake which is critical to the formation of serotonin from amino acids. The amount of exercise needed to fight depression is not much and even a small amount of exercise has been shown to enhance the powerful mood elevating substances in the brain known as endorphins. When the endorphins are elevated, our mood improves. Physical exercise is a very safe and natural antidepressant, perhaps the most effective natural antidepressant available.
The presence of food allergies is a very significant factor to consider as a cause of depression. Food allergies often times play a major role with people who suffer from depression. A simple food allergy test could reveal whether or not you are experiencing the effects of this common problem.
Hypoglycemia, the result of a dysfunctional sugar metabolism, is a common but often unrecognized cause of depression. The brain doesn’t function properly when the sugar levels in our body are low, creating symptoms such as depression, irritability, anxiety, fatigue and headaches. A dietary intervention consisting of a proper balance of protein, carbohydrates and fats could completely alleviate this problem.
Our bodies are put under a lot of stress from consuming too much alcohol and caffeine and the natural production of serotonin is inhibited by such chemicals. Alcohol is a brain depressant that disrupts the normal sleep cycles and interferes with the many brain cell processes. Individuals who are prone to feeling depressed seem to also be especially sensitive to caffeine. Drinking too much caffeine can lead to all of the common symptoms of depression. Just by cutting down on, or eliminating all together, these two addictive chemicals, you could see a dramatic difference in your mood.
Proper levels of calcium, magnesium, vitamin D and B vitamins are needed to ensure the conversion of tryptophan to 5HTP to serotonin. Although it is difficult to diagnose, there is evidence that vitamin deficiency tremendously affects our health and can cause fatigue or a general lack of well being. Individuals with depression have often been found to be deficient in folic acid, B12 and B6. Also, very importantly, a deficiency in essential fatty acids (the omega 3 oils) has recently been linked to depression.
When I evaluate a patient for depression and/or anxiety, it is important that I gain a complete understanding of all of their symptoms along with their physical state of well being. There can be several physiological causes of depression, including chronic disease, low adrenal function, heavy metal toxicity, PMS, menopause, hypothyroidism and more. By determining the underlying cause of the depression and/or anxiety, the proper illness can be treated, which should subsequently ease the patient’s emotional unrest.
The drug Prozac, and medications similar to it, have become big sellers, generating over $2 billion in sales annually. However, it is doubtful that 20th century Americans have suddenly developed a Prozac deficiency. Before I place my patients on medication that could have both short and long term side effects, I begin with one of the many natural treatments that are available, such as tryptophan, tyrosine, phenylalanine or melatonin. I do sometimes find that the use of amino acids along with a low dose of an antidepressant medication may also be beneficial to the patient.
When people are depressed, they are often times unaware that their behavior has changed. If other people have noticed a change in your outlook, consider whether or not you might be suffering from depression. If it is possible, try adjusting your diet and adding approximately 20 minutes of exercise 3 days a week to your regular routine. If your depression is too severe to be affected by these adjustments, please seek the professional help that you need to start the healing process.
Depression is a very real disease and one that can be treated with the proper assistance. Don’t be held down by the weight of its symptoms any longer than you have to be. Solutions are out there and everyone deserves to live a happy, healthy and full life. Do it for yourself. Do it for your family. Do it for the holidays.
LEIGH ERIN CONNEALY, M.D., M.P.H. received a Master’s in Public Health from the University of Texas and her M.D. from the University of Chicago. She did her postgraduate training in family practice at Harbor/UCLA Medical Center in Los Angeles, California.
Dr. Connealy began practicing medicine in 1986. More and more of her patients started asking about alternative treatments and this prompted her to learn everything she could about nontoxic protocols. In 1992, she founded the South Coast Medical Center for New Medicine in Tustin, California, where she serves as Medical Director. Her practice is firmly based in the belief that strictly treating health problems with medications does not find the root cause of the illness. Her goal is to empower and educate individuals and their families through her treatment plans, lectures, newsletters and articles.
For more information and products visit her website at www.perfectlyhealthy.net.
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Depression seems to be the catch phrase of the new millennium and the health care community is often all too quick to prescribe antidepressants as a cure to what ails you. But not all forms of depression and anxiety warrant such drastic measures. Often times, with a few changes to your diet and lifestyle, you could be looking at the world with a whole new attitude.
Understanding the Evils of Depression and Anxiety We’ve all said it at one time or another, those words that seem to sum up our angst so perfectly: I’m so depressed! But what does that mean exactly? The symptoms of depression can be characterized by many factors, ranging from irritability and insomnia to panic and the inability to enjoy life’s little pleasures. Often times we strive towards perfection in an effort to manage our feelings of despair or inadequacy, generally falling short and leaving us feeling worse than we when we began.
Many of us were raised on the old adage, Mind Over Matter, and feel that we should be able to manage our emotions on our own, that anything less would be a sign of weakness or failure. Not true! This method of thinking is outdated and most often ineffective, as the culprit in depression is generally not a weak will, but rather a reduced level of an important brain chemical called serotonin.
Serotonin is the body’s primary defense against anxiety and depression. When our serotonin levels are low, we tend to lose our natural good nature and find that life’s challenges become increasingly more daunting.
There are many reasons why your serotonin may be low, genetics often times being a key factor. Does depression seem to run in your family? Did your parents have a difficult time facing the day to day stresses that seemed so easy for others? Is there a history of alcoholism or drug abuse in your family? These are all signs that low serotonin might be present. Don’t be discouraged if this is the case, though. As you will see, genetics do not mean a life sentence of depression. There is hope.
Stress can also be a contributing factor to depression. Have you experienced elevated levels of stress over an extended period of time? Whether the stress is the result of a major tragedy in your life, like the loss of loved one or the difficulty of a bitter divorce, or the result of a lengthy or debilitating illness, the effects on your body are the same. Under attack by such stressors, your serotonin store is tapped into repeatedly which can eventually lead to total serotonin depletion, leaving you running on a perpetual state of “empty”.
Believe it or not, but the time of the year may also have a very real affect on your mood. Do you find that your mood seems to drop when the weather is cloudy, or the sun doesn’t come out for days on end? There is a biological explanation for this. Serotonin is one of the few body chemicals that are actually stimulated by light. An underexposure to light can lower your serotonin production, leaving you feeling down and depressed. And if you are already running on low levels of serotonin, something as minor as a cloudy day can serve to bring you further down.
A major contributor to depression, and the one most often overlooked, is your diet. In order for your body to produce serotonin it relies on the foods that you eat to provide the much needed amino acid, Tryptophan. Tryptophan can be found in high-protein animal-derived foods such as turkey, chicken, beef and cheese. Once ingested, your body converts the amino acid, tryptophan, into a chemical called 5-HTP (5 hydroxytriptophan) and then into the neuro-transmitter, serotonin. Without tryptophan, your body is unable to produce 5-HTP and subsequently serotonin, leading to a myriad of problems, most notably, depression.
There are four key symptoms that could indicate the presence of low levels of serotonin: Gut and Heart Problems 90% of the serotonin in your body is in your gut and when you raise your serotonin levels your digestive tension (including constipation) can often dissolve with your depression. Your heart is also partly serotonin dependant. It’s well known that low serotonin type negative moods, including fear and anger, are closely associated with heart disease.
Sleep Disturbance Many people with low serotonin levels obsess and worry instead of getting to sleep, while others tend to wake up too early in the morning.
Fibromyalgia, TMJ, Migraines Raising serotonin levels not only has a powerful muscle relaxing effect, it can also stimulate our natural pain killers, the endorphins.
Cravings for Carbs and Alcohol Ingesting carbohydrates (whether through food or alcohol) can set off body wide stress, causing your pancreas to release insulin in order to remove the excess carbs from your bloodstream and store them as fat. The insulin sweeps most of the amino acids out of your bloodstream, along with the carbs. Only one amino gets left behind-tryptophan-and it goes right into your brain, unimpeded by the other aminos that usually crowd it. Once in the brain, the tryptophan can easily convert to 5HTP and then to serotonin, elevating your mood temporarily. The downside? This source of instant euphoria most often leads to a dependency on sugary foods which can in turn lead to excess weight gain along with a myriad of other health problems.
Turning the Corner to Peace and Happiness The treatment of depression may take some time but it can be accomplished. And while your mood may not improve right away, don’t let this discourage you.
Counseling can often be an effective tool in coping with depression and anxiety. By adopting valuable problem solving skills you can begin to regain control and achieve happiness in your life. Learning to recognize and accept your feelings, even feelings of sadness, anger or fear is an important first step.
One of the most important treatments for depression is exercise. When you exercise, your body seeks out the amino acids in your bloodstream for routine muscle repair. This causes tryptophan, the only amino acid not used for muscle repair, to go straight to the brain. Once it gets there, it is quickly converted to 5HTP and then to serotonin. Exercise also increases your oxygen intake which is critical to the formation of serotonin from amino acids. The amount of exercise needed to fight depression is not much and even a small amount of exercise has been shown to enhance the powerful mood elevating substances in the brain known as endorphins. When the endorphins are elevated, our mood improves. Physical exercise is a very safe and natural antidepressant, perhaps the most effective natural antidepressant available.
The presence of food allergies is a very significant factor to consider as a cause of depression. Food allergies often times play a major role with people who suffer from depression. A simple food allergy test could reveal whether or not you are experiencing the effects of this common problem.
Hypoglycemia, the result of a dysfunctional sugar metabolism, is a common but often unrecognized cause of depression. The brain doesn’t function properly when the sugar levels in our body are low, creating symptoms such as depression, irritability, anxiety, fatigue and headaches. A dietary intervention consisting of a proper balance of protein, carbohydrates and fats could completely alleviate this problem.
Our bodies are put under a lot of stress from consuming too much alcohol and caffeine and the natural production of serotonin is inhibited by such chemicals. Alcohol is a brain depressant that disrupts the normal sleep cycles and interferes with the many brain cell processes. Individuals who are prone to feeling depressed seem to also be especially sensitive to caffeine. Drinking too much caffeine can lead to all of the common symptoms of depression. Just by cutting down on, or eliminating all together, these two addictive chemicals, you could see a dramatic difference in your mood.
Proper levels of calcium, magnesium, vitamin D and B vitamins are needed to ensure the conversion of tryptophan to 5HTP to serotonin. Although it is difficult to diagnose, there is evidence that vitamin deficiency tremendously affects our health and can cause fatigue or a general lack of well being. Individuals with depression have often been found to be deficient in folic acid, B12 and B6. Also, very importantly, a deficiency in essential fatty acids (the omega 3 oils) has recently been linked to depression.
When I evaluate a patient for depression and/or anxiety, it is important that I gain a complete understanding of all of their symptoms along with their physical state of well being. There can be several physiological causes of depression, including chronic disease, low adrenal function, heavy metal toxicity, PMS, menopause, hypothyroidism and more. By determining the underlying cause of the depression and/or anxiety, the proper illness can be treated, which should subsequently ease the patient’s emotional unrest.
The drug Prozac, and medications similar to it, have become big sellers, generating over $2 billion in sales annually. However, it is doubtful that 20th century Americans have suddenly developed a Prozac deficiency. Before I place my patients on medication that could have both short and long term side effects, I begin with one of the many natural treatments that are available, such as tryptophan, tyrosine, phenylalanine or melatonin. I do sometimes find that the use of amino acids along with a low dose of an antidepressant medication may also be beneficial to the patient.
When people are depressed, they are often times unaware that their behavior has changed. If other people have noticed a change in your outlook, consider whether or not you might be suffering from depression. If it is possible, try adjusting your diet and adding approximately 20 minutes of exercise 3 days a week to your regular routine. If your depression is too severe to be affected by these adjustments, please seek the professional help that you need to start the healing process.
Depression is a very real disease and one that can be treated with the proper assistance. Don’t be held down by the weight of its symptoms any longer than you have to be. Solutions are out there and everyone deserves to live a happy, healthy and full life. Do it for yourself. Do it for your family. Do it for the holidays.
LEIGH ERIN CONNEALY, M.D., M.P.H. received a Master’s in Public Health from the University of Texas and her M.D. from the University of Chicago. She did her postgraduate training in family practice at Harbor/UCLA Medical Center in Los Angeles, California.
Dr. Connealy began practicing medicine in 1986. More and more of her patients started asking about alternative treatments and this prompted her to learn everything she could about nontoxic protocols. In 1992, she founded the South Coast Medical Center for New Medicine in Tustin, California, where she serves as Medical Director. Her practice is firmly based in the belief that strictly treating health problems with medications does not find the root cause of the illness. Her goal is to empower and educate individuals and their families through her treatment plans, lectures, newsletters and articles.
For more information and products visit her website at www.perfectlyhealthy.net.
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Monday, October 31, 2005
Sorry Folks
I just wanted to let all my readers know how sorry I am that I haven't been able to post helpful articles for the past couple of days. I've been extremely busy with my daughter who's been real sick lately. I promise to post some more helpful articles later today, if not tomorrow for sure.
Thanks for always coming back here and reading the articles.
Enjoy,
AA
Thanks for always coming back here and reading the articles.
Enjoy,
AA
Thursday, October 27, 2005
Helping Somebody with Depression - By Roopam Dhawan
If you want to help somebody suffering from depression or whom you suspect is depressed, following are the three simple things you can do.
* Understand the perspective and the situation of the person.
* Help him or her get an appropriate diagnosis.
* Get appropriate treatment for him or her.
Understanding the situation in regard to the possibly depressed person.
Remember that depression is a complex “illness”, and not something just in the mind. So, never ridicule the concerned person of faking an illness or lethargy. Do not expect or tell the person to just “snap out of it.” Most people will get a great deal of sympathy and attention if they have broken an arm or a leg, because the problem is so obvious and visible. The pain and suffering of anxiety and depression are no less real because we cannot see them, in fact they can be greater because we can forget they are there.
Tell the person that you understand and with appropriate diagnosis and treatment, he or she will get better for sure. Also tell the person not to think of himself or herself as inferior to anybody. Keep reassuring the person that he or she will be cured. Exude hope, confidence and optimism and promote treatment.
Offer emotional support to the depressed person. This involves understanding, patience, affection, and encouragement. Engage the depressed person in conversation and listen carefully. Do not disparage feelings expressed, but point out realities and offer hope. Do not ignore remarks about suicide. Report them to the depressed person's therapist or the doctor immediately.
Invite the depressed person for walks, outings, to the movies, and other activities. Be gently insistent if your invitation is refused. Encourage participation in some activities that once gave pleasure, such as hobbies, sports, religious or cultural activities, but do not push the depressed person to undertake too much too soon. The depressed person needs diversion and company, but too many demands can increase feelings of failure.
Understand that you may find the experience physically and emotionally draining, trying, distressing, maddening and downright exhausting at times. This is obviously more intense for those who live in close proximity with the person who is ill, rather than those who have frequent but less day-to-day contact. On the other hand, the sense of delight, sheer relief and pleasure that comes from watching the definite signs of recovery take place can more than compensate for the negative experiences of supporting someone who is severely depressed.
A lot of characteristics of a depressed person's behavior are such which repel people from them. In fact, although being alone is something that is not consciously desired by the depressed person, the sad reality is that he or she may end up acting in such a way that friends and relatives keep their emotional and physical distance from him or her. Once you understand this basic dilemma, it may make it possible for us to see that a depressed person may be crying out for company and attention, even when they are behaving in what is an apparently anti-social way. In such a situation, it can be helpful not to have a knee-jerk reaction to the alienating behavior, but to try to stand back for a moment and try to communicate at a deeper level with the person who is depressed by showing as much warmth and understanding as you can. It is common for those who are depressed to feel deeply unlovable and unloved: if you can respond in a genuinely compassionate and non-judgmental way it provides the depressed person with an opportunity to respond in a positive way.
Any suggestion that the depressed person is contemplating suicide requires professional support and input. Under no circumstances should this responsibility be shouldered alone by whoever is supporting a severely depressed and/or anxious person.
Diagnosis of the exact situation and problem
If you feel that a close friend or relative may be suffering from undiagnosed depression, make sure that he or she sees a doctor in order to ask for help. This can be a particular problem for men, who may feel instinctively uncomfortable about asking for help and advice if they feel depressed, since they may feel that this is partly an admission of weakness. This male fear of vulnerability is thought to be part of the reason why far more women than men are diagnosed as suffering from depression, since women on the whole are thought to be more comfortable with acknowledging problems of a non-physical nature. Since there are so many avenues of support open to anyone suffering from depression, it is very sad if these positive opportunities for treatment are missed due to avoiding asking for appropriate help when necessary. If someone is in too passive a state to go out and see their doctor, arrange for the doctor to come and see them. This may be especially appropriate if the person who is depressed is elderly or suffering from limited mobility.
If the person who is depressed is living alone, keep in touch regularly by a combination of visits and telephone calls. Preparing the occasional meal or giving help with household chores can be a lifesaver to someone who is going through an especially down phase, since at times like these it can take what seems a superhuman effort to accomplish even the most basic of tasks.
Make sure, as far as possible, that the depressed person takes frequent exercise. This need be nothing more ambitious than taking a regular walk each day, or having a swim at a nearby pool. Since it is natural for someone who is depressed to become very introspective and disinclined to take the initiative to go out, even when it may be very necessary, suggest going out for a coffee, a brief shopping trip, or for a drive into the country for a change of scene.
Try to counter negative statements with appropriate positive perspectives. Although this may not always be appreciated or appropriate, in certain situations it can be extremely important to balance an unrealistically bleak perspective with a more rational one. If someone who is depressed comes out with a comment that his or her life is worthless and nobody likes him or her, remind him or her of all of the people who care for him or her, including yourself.
Getting appropriate treatment for the depressed and sticking to it
This involves getting treatment for the depressed person from a qualified healthcare professional. Encourage the individual to stay with treatment until symptoms begin to abate. This may take several weeks. If no improvement occurs for a substantial period, seek a different treatment. You may be required to make an appointment and accompanying the depressed person to the doctor. Also monitor whether the depressed person is taking medication. The depressed person should be encouraged to obey the doctor's advice about the use of alcoholic products while on medication.
Roopam Dhawan is a health enthusiast and writes for http://www.health-bible.com
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* Understand the perspective and the situation of the person.
* Help him or her get an appropriate diagnosis.
* Get appropriate treatment for him or her.
Understanding the situation in regard to the possibly depressed person.
Remember that depression is a complex “illness”, and not something just in the mind. So, never ridicule the concerned person of faking an illness or lethargy. Do not expect or tell the person to just “snap out of it.” Most people will get a great deal of sympathy and attention if they have broken an arm or a leg, because the problem is so obvious and visible. The pain and suffering of anxiety and depression are no less real because we cannot see them, in fact they can be greater because we can forget they are there.
Tell the person that you understand and with appropriate diagnosis and treatment, he or she will get better for sure. Also tell the person not to think of himself or herself as inferior to anybody. Keep reassuring the person that he or she will be cured. Exude hope, confidence and optimism and promote treatment.
Offer emotional support to the depressed person. This involves understanding, patience, affection, and encouragement. Engage the depressed person in conversation and listen carefully. Do not disparage feelings expressed, but point out realities and offer hope. Do not ignore remarks about suicide. Report them to the depressed person's therapist or the doctor immediately.
Invite the depressed person for walks, outings, to the movies, and other activities. Be gently insistent if your invitation is refused. Encourage participation in some activities that once gave pleasure, such as hobbies, sports, religious or cultural activities, but do not push the depressed person to undertake too much too soon. The depressed person needs diversion and company, but too many demands can increase feelings of failure.
Understand that you may find the experience physically and emotionally draining, trying, distressing, maddening and downright exhausting at times. This is obviously more intense for those who live in close proximity with the person who is ill, rather than those who have frequent but less day-to-day contact. On the other hand, the sense of delight, sheer relief and pleasure that comes from watching the definite signs of recovery take place can more than compensate for the negative experiences of supporting someone who is severely depressed.
A lot of characteristics of a depressed person's behavior are such which repel people from them. In fact, although being alone is something that is not consciously desired by the depressed person, the sad reality is that he or she may end up acting in such a way that friends and relatives keep their emotional and physical distance from him or her. Once you understand this basic dilemma, it may make it possible for us to see that a depressed person may be crying out for company and attention, even when they are behaving in what is an apparently anti-social way. In such a situation, it can be helpful not to have a knee-jerk reaction to the alienating behavior, but to try to stand back for a moment and try to communicate at a deeper level with the person who is depressed by showing as much warmth and understanding as you can. It is common for those who are depressed to feel deeply unlovable and unloved: if you can respond in a genuinely compassionate and non-judgmental way it provides the depressed person with an opportunity to respond in a positive way.
Any suggestion that the depressed person is contemplating suicide requires professional support and input. Under no circumstances should this responsibility be shouldered alone by whoever is supporting a severely depressed and/or anxious person.
Diagnosis of the exact situation and problem
If you feel that a close friend or relative may be suffering from undiagnosed depression, make sure that he or she sees a doctor in order to ask for help. This can be a particular problem for men, who may feel instinctively uncomfortable about asking for help and advice if they feel depressed, since they may feel that this is partly an admission of weakness. This male fear of vulnerability is thought to be part of the reason why far more women than men are diagnosed as suffering from depression, since women on the whole are thought to be more comfortable with acknowledging problems of a non-physical nature. Since there are so many avenues of support open to anyone suffering from depression, it is very sad if these positive opportunities for treatment are missed due to avoiding asking for appropriate help when necessary. If someone is in too passive a state to go out and see their doctor, arrange for the doctor to come and see them. This may be especially appropriate if the person who is depressed is elderly or suffering from limited mobility.
If the person who is depressed is living alone, keep in touch regularly by a combination of visits and telephone calls. Preparing the occasional meal or giving help with household chores can be a lifesaver to someone who is going through an especially down phase, since at times like these it can take what seems a superhuman effort to accomplish even the most basic of tasks.
Make sure, as far as possible, that the depressed person takes frequent exercise. This need be nothing more ambitious than taking a regular walk each day, or having a swim at a nearby pool. Since it is natural for someone who is depressed to become very introspective and disinclined to take the initiative to go out, even when it may be very necessary, suggest going out for a coffee, a brief shopping trip, or for a drive into the country for a change of scene.
Try to counter negative statements with appropriate positive perspectives. Although this may not always be appreciated or appropriate, in certain situations it can be extremely important to balance an unrealistically bleak perspective with a more rational one. If someone who is depressed comes out with a comment that his or her life is worthless and nobody likes him or her, remind him or her of all of the people who care for him or her, including yourself.
Getting appropriate treatment for the depressed and sticking to it
This involves getting treatment for the depressed person from a qualified healthcare professional. Encourage the individual to stay with treatment until symptoms begin to abate. This may take several weeks. If no improvement occurs for a substantial period, seek a different treatment. You may be required to make an appointment and accompanying the depressed person to the doctor. Also monitor whether the depressed person is taking medication. The depressed person should be encouraged to obey the doctor's advice about the use of alcoholic products while on medication.
Roopam Dhawan is a health enthusiast and writes for http://www.health-bible.com
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Wednesday, October 26, 2005
Depression Among College Students - An Essay - By Michael Cooper
Depression among college students, with a focus on Freshmen.
Who is at risk, and what can be done?
Graduation time rolls around, and you already know where you will end up next year for college. Your two best friends will be joining you there, where you will all live in the same apartment complex. You have already put your first payment, and deposit in preparation. Now you wait.
When the time comes around, you pack up and move thousands of miles just to go to college. You haven't heard from either of your friends yet, and you can feel the anticipation welling in your gut. You are so excited, you haven't heard from them all summer. Then you find out they never came. Both decided on going to a different college without you, or telling you. You keep telling yourself you will cope, and make new friends, but you still feel lonely and rejected. Once you are actually in college, things are harder than you expected. You don't have a car, so it is harder to get around buying food, finding a bank, and getting school supplies. Often times you find yourself taking naps, or just sleeping, because you can't focus, or feel overwhelmed. One of the many signs of depression.
Money is tight, and you don't have a job, because you can't find any job openings within walking distance, you are afraid to ride the bus, because it is such a big city, compared to the one you came from. You biggest fear is getting lost, and not being able to make it home.
You often times feel overwhelmed by homework and such. You can never do it quite good enough, and are often times to shy to ask for help, so you sit in silence, confused, and helpless, like a grain of sand on a beach. Not noticed and not much potential.
This is the story of a college freshman. Probably many. That guy who sits next to you in math class, struggling with theorems, or that girl in your chem. class, under pressure to learn her Periodic Table of Elements. Who ever it is, they are there.
Depression effects 76 out of a 100 college students. Mainly freshmen entering a new world so to speak. Often times you won't see it right away or not at all. This is an age group that's tricky, states a psychologist at Davidson College in North Carolina, DeWitt Crosby said, They are adults by law, but they're still dealing with making decisions on their own.
More attention is spent on alcohol consumption, and crimes among students, so that little energy or money is left for the awareness or the treatment of mental health. Often times the only funding is for counselors who will perform â scattershot therapy. They don't actually treat what is wrong, but try to cover many possibilities of what could be wrong within a short period of time.
USA TODAY states in a recent study 14% of the 701 students who took a survey in the Boston area showed significant symptoms of depression, and over half of them could qualify as having major depression. If treatment of the depression was sought, at least 80% would get better.
The National Survey of Counseling Center Directors reported an 85% increase in severe psychological problems over the past five years. Also 30% reported at least one student suicide on their campus within the last (2001/2002) school year.
A hard part in treating depression is recognizing it. Some major symptoms of depression as told by www.campusblues.com are as follows.
1. Sadness, anxiety, or empty feelings
2· Decreased energy, fatigue, being slowed down
3. Loss of interest or pleasure in usual activities
4.· Sleep Disturbances (insomnia, oversleeping, or waking much earlier than usual)
5· Appetite and weight changes (either loss or gain)
6· Feelings of hopelessness, guilt, and worthlessness
7· Thoughts off death or suicide, or suicide attempts
8· Difficulty concentrating, making decisions, or remembering
9· Irritability or excessive crying
10 · Chronic aches and pains not explained by another physical condition
It's normal to have these feelings at one time or another, but five or more, for a two week or longer period is something to pay attention too. Also watch for changes in the way the person functions. The anxiety is normal in college, when you are studying for classes, or preparing to take a test, but when it rules your life, and they way you think and act is a time to seek help and gain control again.
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Who is at risk, and what can be done?
Graduation time rolls around, and you already know where you will end up next year for college. Your two best friends will be joining you there, where you will all live in the same apartment complex. You have already put your first payment, and deposit in preparation. Now you wait.
When the time comes around, you pack up and move thousands of miles just to go to college. You haven't heard from either of your friends yet, and you can feel the anticipation welling in your gut. You are so excited, you haven't heard from them all summer. Then you find out they never came. Both decided on going to a different college without you, or telling you. You keep telling yourself you will cope, and make new friends, but you still feel lonely and rejected. Once you are actually in college, things are harder than you expected. You don't have a car, so it is harder to get around buying food, finding a bank, and getting school supplies. Often times you find yourself taking naps, or just sleeping, because you can't focus, or feel overwhelmed. One of the many signs of depression.
Money is tight, and you don't have a job, because you can't find any job openings within walking distance, you are afraid to ride the bus, because it is such a big city, compared to the one you came from. You biggest fear is getting lost, and not being able to make it home.
You often times feel overwhelmed by homework and such. You can never do it quite good enough, and are often times to shy to ask for help, so you sit in silence, confused, and helpless, like a grain of sand on a beach. Not noticed and not much potential.
This is the story of a college freshman. Probably many. That guy who sits next to you in math class, struggling with theorems, or that girl in your chem. class, under pressure to learn her Periodic Table of Elements. Who ever it is, they are there.
Depression effects 76 out of a 100 college students. Mainly freshmen entering a new world so to speak. Often times you won't see it right away or not at all. This is an age group that's tricky, states a psychologist at Davidson College in North Carolina, DeWitt Crosby said, They are adults by law, but they're still dealing with making decisions on their own.
More attention is spent on alcohol consumption, and crimes among students, so that little energy or money is left for the awareness or the treatment of mental health. Often times the only funding is for counselors who will perform â scattershot therapy. They don't actually treat what is wrong, but try to cover many possibilities of what could be wrong within a short period of time.
USA TODAY states in a recent study 14% of the 701 students who took a survey in the Boston area showed significant symptoms of depression, and over half of them could qualify as having major depression. If treatment of the depression was sought, at least 80% would get better.
The National Survey of Counseling Center Directors reported an 85% increase in severe psychological problems over the past five years. Also 30% reported at least one student suicide on their campus within the last (2001/2002) school year.
A hard part in treating depression is recognizing it. Some major symptoms of depression as told by www.campusblues.com are as follows.
1. Sadness, anxiety, or empty feelings
2· Decreased energy, fatigue, being slowed down
3. Loss of interest or pleasure in usual activities
4.· Sleep Disturbances (insomnia, oversleeping, or waking much earlier than usual)
5· Appetite and weight changes (either loss or gain)
6· Feelings of hopelessness, guilt, and worthlessness
7· Thoughts off death or suicide, or suicide attempts
8· Difficulty concentrating, making decisions, or remembering
9· Irritability or excessive crying
10 · Chronic aches and pains not explained by another physical condition
It's normal to have these feelings at one time or another, but five or more, for a two week or longer period is something to pay attention too. Also watch for changes in the way the person functions. The anxiety is normal in college, when you are studying for classes, or preparing to take a test, but when it rules your life, and they way you think and act is a time to seek help and gain control again.
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Tuesday, October 25, 2005
The Past Cannot Be Changed, but Today Can. - By Roberta Barnes
Changing ourselves requires deprogramming. Reiki is one of the gentlest, most effect ways of making changes today, which affect yesterday and tomorrow. You might think deprogramming is for cults and wars, but it is most commonly used for the every day brainwashing that often causes depression and physical illnesses. Reiki is Natural Healing for the mind, body, and spirit. You cannot learn any of the many styles of Reiki from a book or video, but in today’s world there are many qualified Reiki Shihans(master/teachers)with an energy and technique lineage back to Mikao Usui,the founder of Reiki.
I will use person X as an example of every day brainwashing. You might find that person X sounds a lot like you. As a young person X was told s/he never listened, always procrastinated, and always wanted ridiculous things. Schoolteachers added to the list of things X did wrong. Then from a spouse it was, you never know what you are talking about, and you never do anything right. From children it was, I wish you were nice like the other kids’ parents, and you never know what is good for anyone. Good things were said to X as well. However, all the negative combined over time can create a block that can harm a person both mentally and physically. Often times these blocks keep a person from enjoying compliments and the good things in life. Physical and mental symptoms that medical doctors say they can find no reason for, sometimes appear as well.
A Reiki Shihan (teacher) or Reiki practitioner never diagnoses or promises a cure, but Usui Reiki Ryoho, heals by balancing and surrounding with harmony. Usui Reiki Ryoho, commonly shortened to Reiki, is the name Mikao Usui gave to the vibration of love and harmony he connected to in 1921. Techniques taught in such styles of Reiki as Gendai Reiki-ho and Komyo Reiki, release the negative from the whole person and fill the void with positive energy. Reiki is not a quick therapy that promises an immediate cure. The negative that has taken years to harm a mind, body, or spirit requires time to release. Multiple Reiki sessions or hours of Reiki training is best. The nice thing about a qualified Reiki Shihan or practitioner is that with Reiki, your actions are never out of your control as with hypnosis, and you never have to be exposed to alcohol or smoke. Reiki does not replace professional licensed medical care, but it can work with conventional medicine as it promotes and speeds healing at all levels.
Humans are said not to have instinctive behavior, but often the imprinted behavior we acquire happens when we are looking the other way. Pulling your hand back from a flame or ducking as an object or a fist comes toward you are learned behaviors to help keep us safe. Unfortunately, some reactions we blend into our everyday life are not helpful to our well-being. If you have ever seen those five simple lines of the Gokai (five Reiki precepts or principles), it might make you think that Reiki is too simple to be good.
Reiki does not require any elaborate rituals or any material objects to give it strength. Love and harmony are very strong energies and the combination is very powerful. Reiki practitioners spend immeasurable hours in study with his or her teacher learning and practicing self-healing and self-growth. A Reiki Shihan(teacher) has gone through at least four levels or degrees in whatever style of Usui Reiki Ryoho she or he practices. Within each of the first three levels of Reiki, numerous exercises and techniques are practiced for self-healing. Then remember that Reiki is the name given to the vibration of combined love and harmony. When all is balanced within you, and you are surrounded by harmony blocks are healed.
Living in Maine, in the United Stated I began by studying styles of Reiki commonly practiced in North America. I then learned the simple yet very strong Japanese Reiki techniques of Gendai Reikiho and Komyo Reiki from Japanese teachers. You can find out more about how Reiki balances on my website at www.naturalhealinglearning.com, and links to other factual Reiki websites.
Roberta R. Banres, Reiki Gendai Reikiho and Komyo Reiki Shihan and practitioner, and Herbalist. Teaching Reiki in her healing room nestled in the trees in Maine or anywhere a group of people has been organized. Through Reiki, herbs, and meditation healing journeys into the past she is dedicated to helping others in the art of well-being. Check out her website at http://www.naturalhealinglearning.com.
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I will use person X as an example of every day brainwashing. You might find that person X sounds a lot like you. As a young person X was told s/he never listened, always procrastinated, and always wanted ridiculous things. Schoolteachers added to the list of things X did wrong. Then from a spouse it was, you never know what you are talking about, and you never do anything right. From children it was, I wish you were nice like the other kids’ parents, and you never know what is good for anyone. Good things were said to X as well. However, all the negative combined over time can create a block that can harm a person both mentally and physically. Often times these blocks keep a person from enjoying compliments and the good things in life. Physical and mental symptoms that medical doctors say they can find no reason for, sometimes appear as well.
A Reiki Shihan (teacher) or Reiki practitioner never diagnoses or promises a cure, but Usui Reiki Ryoho, heals by balancing and surrounding with harmony. Usui Reiki Ryoho, commonly shortened to Reiki, is the name Mikao Usui gave to the vibration of love and harmony he connected to in 1921. Techniques taught in such styles of Reiki as Gendai Reiki-ho and Komyo Reiki, release the negative from the whole person and fill the void with positive energy. Reiki is not a quick therapy that promises an immediate cure. The negative that has taken years to harm a mind, body, or spirit requires time to release. Multiple Reiki sessions or hours of Reiki training is best. The nice thing about a qualified Reiki Shihan or practitioner is that with Reiki, your actions are never out of your control as with hypnosis, and you never have to be exposed to alcohol or smoke. Reiki does not replace professional licensed medical care, but it can work with conventional medicine as it promotes and speeds healing at all levels.
Humans are said not to have instinctive behavior, but often the imprinted behavior we acquire happens when we are looking the other way. Pulling your hand back from a flame or ducking as an object or a fist comes toward you are learned behaviors to help keep us safe. Unfortunately, some reactions we blend into our everyday life are not helpful to our well-being. If you have ever seen those five simple lines of the Gokai (five Reiki precepts or principles), it might make you think that Reiki is too simple to be good.
Reiki does not require any elaborate rituals or any material objects to give it strength. Love and harmony are very strong energies and the combination is very powerful. Reiki practitioners spend immeasurable hours in study with his or her teacher learning and practicing self-healing and self-growth. A Reiki Shihan(teacher) has gone through at least four levels or degrees in whatever style of Usui Reiki Ryoho she or he practices. Within each of the first three levels of Reiki, numerous exercises and techniques are practiced for self-healing. Then remember that Reiki is the name given to the vibration of combined love and harmony. When all is balanced within you, and you are surrounded by harmony blocks are healed.
Living in Maine, in the United Stated I began by studying styles of Reiki commonly practiced in North America. I then learned the simple yet very strong Japanese Reiki techniques of Gendai Reikiho and Komyo Reiki from Japanese teachers. You can find out more about how Reiki balances on my website at www.naturalhealinglearning.com, and links to other factual Reiki websites.
Roberta R. Banres, Reiki Gendai Reikiho and Komyo Reiki Shihan and practitioner, and Herbalist. Teaching Reiki in her healing room nestled in the trees in Maine or anywhere a group of people has been organized. Through Reiki, herbs, and meditation healing journeys into the past she is dedicated to helping others in the art of well-being. Check out her website at http://www.naturalhealinglearning.com.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/
Monday, October 24, 2005
Major Depression is the Leading Cause of Disability in the World - By Charles Donovan
According to the World Health Organization, major Depression is the leading cause of disability in the world. The only FDA approved long term treatment option for major depression is vagus nerve stimulation.
It is the most common and widespread of all psychiatric disorders, and it takes a significant toll on individuals, families, and society. Depression also negatively affects the economy through diminished productivity and use of healthcare resources.
At the 2005 American Psychological Association Annual Meeting, the subject of the co-morbidity of substance abuse and mental illness was discussed. In a symposium focusing on the wide-ranging impact of substance abuse on health, Mark B. Sobell, PhD, of Nova Southeastern University,[10] discussed the high comorbidity and impact of substance use. With regard to psychiatric illness, he quoted data from analyses of the National Epidemiological Survey on Alcohol and Related Conditions (n = 43,093) that showed that among persons with alcohol disorders, 40.69% experienced at least 1 mood disorder, 33.38% experienced at least 1 anxiety disorder, and 33.05% experienced at least 1 drug disorder. Among those with drug disorders, 60.31% experienced at least 1 mood disorder, 42.63% experienced at least 1 anxiety disorder, and 55.16% experienced at least 1 alcohol disorder. Concerning the impact of substance use on physical illness, Dr. Sobell cited data from a study of Medicaid beneficiaries (n = 26,332)[11] indicating that those with comorbid psychiatric and substance use disorders had the highest prevalence of 6 of 8 chronic medical conditions (eg, asthma, heart disease).
Next, Kate B. Carey, PhD, of Syracuse University, discussed assessing and treating individuals with comorbid substance abuse and mental illness. She observed that these individuals have specific health concerns that often occur at higher rates than in others with psychiatric disorders. Patients with dual diagnoses often do not comply with medication regimens and suffer symptom exacerbation, psychiatric hospitalization, social isolation, and interpersonal impairment. These are all classic symptoms of major depression.
If you suffer from major depression and have not had an adequate response to at least four different antidepressants, you should consider the only FDA approved long term treatment for chronic or recurrent depression: vagus nerve stimulation. This should be seriously discussed with your psychiatrist. A prescription for the procedure is required for the ninety-minute out patient procedure.
Charles Donovan was a patient in the FDA investigational trial of vagus nerve stimulation as a treatment for chronic or recurrent treatment-resistant depression. He was implanted with the vagus nerve stimulator in April of 2001. The treatment completely changed his life. He chronicles his journey from the grips of depression thanks to vagus nerve stimulation therapy in his book:
Out of the Black Hole: The Patient's Guide to Vagus Nerve Stimulation and Depression.
The book was exhibited at the American Psychiatric Association's Annual Meeting in late May. It is available on his web site http://www.VagusNerveStimulator.com or by clicking the link on the right side of this blog.
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