Tuesday, July 10, 2007

Mental Self Help - 5 Ideas To Get You Back On Your Feet
By Kevin J. John

Have you had a major setback in your life? Maybe you've lost your job, you have a serious illness, you've lost a loved one. When this happens, you can feel trapped by circumstances, unable to rebuild your life, not knowing what to do where to go. Here are 5 ideas to help you start climbing out of the hole you're in and get back on your feet again.

You are NEVER alone

When you are struggling to recover from a major setback, it can seem like a very lonely place. You may think that you are alone, that this problem is completely yours, or at most shared with your life partner.

You must continually remind yourself that this is not true. There are always other people who have had and are having exactly the same experience as you, maybe they’ve got it even worse. And the vast majority of those people rebuild their lives and are now happy and successful again. How did they do it?

You can find out, actively look for stories of people who have overcome the challenges that you are facing and figure out how they did it. Make yourself receptive to new ideas – any ideas. Don’t dismiss them out of hand. The more ideas you collect, the more you are likely to find the solution you need.

Know where you are going

Yes your life is a mess now, but like everything else in this world, that is only a temporary state. The only thing you can be certain about in this world is that tomorrow it will change. That change may be beneficial for you, it may not, but you can be sure that it will change.

You can maximise your chances of making beneficial changes by knowing where you are going. Spend some time developing a clear vision of where you want to go, who you want to be and what you want to be doing in 5 year’s time. Then work out the major steps you are going to have to take to get there.

Now, as you go through each day, you can ask yourself “am I moving towards or away from my goals?” Spend as much time as you can moving towards your goals and you’ll get there – maybe even faster than you expected!

Look back from the future

Imagine yourself in your future 5 years from now. You’ve succeeded in getting back on your feet, you’re living the life of your dreams.

When you look back, how will today look to you in 5 year’s time?

Think about other times when you’ve looked back on past problems. At the time they may have seemed terrible, overwhelming, insoluble. Yet when you look back on them, they seem much smaller, just minor disruptions in your life’s journey.

Get your current problems into perspective by looking at the larger picture of your life.

Have faith

Faith is sustaining a belief that something is possible when there is no tangible evidence that it is possible. You may have faith in your god, the universe, the spiritual world or in yourself. Whatever you have faith in, you must have faith that you will overcome the setback you are experiencing, with or without the help of an all powerful being.

Faith is fundamental to success in anything you are doing. You will always be in circumstances where you cannot see exactly how something is going to work out, yet to stand any chance of success you have got to believe that it will.

You must develop and strengthen your faith in the outcome you desire day by day.


The most powerful way to strengthen your faith, develop the mental strength that you need to overcome your challenges and stay focussed on your goals is through the use of affirmations. Affirmations have been used since time immemorial to achieve these results.

Your affirmations should be short positive, present tense statements of what you want to be, do and have. You should link them with positive feelings and use them regularly, at least once a day. If you persist for at least 30 days, you will start to notice changes in your life that bring you closer to your desired results.

Your may be experiencing a major setback in your life, but you can overcome it. You will emerge a stronger person with more resources at your disposal. You’ve read about 5 ideas that can help you to overcome the situation you are in. Reflect on them and choose at least one. Put it into practice today and stick with it!

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Mark said...

Depression can also be alleviated by taking Provigil. These are usually prescribed by doctors, so this is completely legal. If you're thinking of any side effects of Provigil, think again. They aren't like amphetamines. In fact, it's a good memory booster and enhances your mood. You can read more about that information here: http://www.askthesleepexperts.com/2007/02/19/what-are-the-side-effects-of-provigil/.

fitline said...


if that's the correct spelling :) i am impressed by the fact that you actually got 3 kids and 2 adopted wow you're a proud mother.

other thing i second your opinion on depression advice

Anna A. said...

Thanks for you comment Anne. I don't know what word you're talking about me mispelling since I haven't typed anything except this comment. Mark typed the previous commend and I noticed a mispelled word in it but maybe it's just a typo. I don't judge anyone's spelling because I realize that typos do occur from time to time, plus it's not worth arguing about to me.

As far as being impressed by me being able to adopt 2 children. I don't know if that was a compliment or meant sarcastically because of the incorrect spelling comment. In either case, I'm not going to argue. I am a VERY proud parent. I went through a lot to get my kids and I thank God there wasn't any kind of spelling contest. hahaha. Just kidding. It's all in fun.

Have a great day and thanks for stopping by.


Anna A. said...

See, I already noticed two typos in my last comment. I must be tired. Oh well, I've never claimed to be perfect and I'm not going to start now. hahaha.

NastyPredator said...

Lifetime of antidepressants: diabetics need insulin their whole lives; ppl with thyroid disorders have to take their thyroid meds for a lifetime. same same same, no shame.

san diego therapist said...

The advice I give is:

If you think you are depressed, remember it is treatable. As mentioned above, research shows that a combination of talk therapy and anti-depressants is the best treatment for most people. However, only you know what you are comfortable with. Some people choose to work it out by themselves, but most people benefit from some assistance. I recommend you investigate both therapy and medicine in order to determine what works for you.

Elene said...

I'd like to say that helping ourselves can be accomplished in lots of ways. One way, in my opinion, is having a time for just 'you', doing things you enjoy, perhaps a game, perhaps reading, perhaps just meditation. Whatever you enjoy, is what counts. You'd be surprised at how much just putting a puzzle together can help your outlook on life, or just playing an online game, something of that nature.

Depression said...

This information helps me a lot. I have suffered from the illness for so long. And this is making it better. Thankyou

djahna said...

Actually, with every setback we are experiencing, there is always somebody who is suffering more and chances are that he or she is actually doing better at handling things. It's not the weight of the problem that counts but how you deal with it.

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Dual Diagnosis said...

I just wish to affirm to anyone who feels alone that they are never alone,am a recovering depression patient and well if I can do it ,so can all.
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Colored Cloud said...

Thanks for this, it helps a lot :)